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Protecting The Roof Over Your Head From A Devious Partner

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Marrying farm women is not all its cracked up to be. They are unlike any species known to middle income men, who should know better. I left out high income men and poor city men because they do know to stay away from them.

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If these things worry you then why not just buy a condo in your own name?

And if you are worried you may be murdered for your wealth then surely you ought to be learning the lesson of the past week and start putting distance between you and the person(s) you fear might murder you.

The root of the problem seems to me to be the fact that the biggest lies Farangs hear in Thailand are the lies they tell themselves.

Some personal honesty (Honesty with yourself) about the basis of your relationship ought to provide an indication of your partner's (and perhaps your partner's family) expectations. There are plenty of pointers to be found in TV threads on what to look out for and only you know how your relationship goes. If you are able to be honest with yourself be so and act accordingly.

The other No No is building a house in your wife's village - I just do not understand why guys do this.

We hear about scheming Thai partners who strip Farangs bare - but let's be honest, the biggest risk is that your relationship breaks down or that you simply drift apart.

In these, what I suspect are the far more common case, the Farang is left with a choice - stay in a relationship that has broken down, living right next door to the ex and her family or give up the house and the invested assets that go with it.

Not only that, but in cases where there is a scheme going on, being right next door to the In-Laws puts the final nail in the Farang's fortunes.

To my mind building in Nakhon Nowhere right next to the inlaws is about the dumbest thing a Farang can do. I mean really really dumb.

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If these things worry you then why not just buy a condo in your own name?

And if you are worried you may be murdered for your wealth then surely you ought to be learning the lesson of the past week and start putting distance between you and the person(s) you fear might murder you.

The root of the problem seems to me to be the fact that the biggest lies Farangs hear in Thailand are the lies they tell themselves.

Some personal honesty (Honesty with yourself) about the basis of your relationship ought to provide an indication of your partner's (and perhaps your partner's family) expectations. There are plenty of pointers to be found in TV threads on what to look out for and only you know how your relationship goes. If you are able to be honest with yourself be so and act accordingly.

The other No No is building a house in your wife's village - I just do not understand why guys do this.

We hear about scheming Thai partners who strip Farangs bare - but let's be honest, the biggest risk is that your relationship breaks down or that you simply drift apart.

In these, what I suspect are the far more common case, the Farang is left with a choice - stay in a relationship that has broken down, living right next door to the ex and her family or give up the house and the invested assets that go with it.

Not only that, but in cases where there is a scheme going on, being right next door to the In-Laws puts the final nail in the Farang's fortunes.

To my mind building in Nakhon Nowhere right next to the inlaws is about the dumbest thing a Farang can do. I mean really really dumb.

I can only stay about 3 or 4 days in my girls place outside of Phayao in northern Thailand. She actually owns a beautiful western style house there but what is there to do there?

Nada nothing zilch....the locals are bored crazy and many of them have drinking problems.

A lot of them just leave for anything anywhere better.

The countryside is beautiful no doubt but living there no way in the world.

I cannot understand any farang living in rural Thailand.

As for the property issue even if you trust your partner explicitly...if you buy a house in her name and she dies first then maybe you have nowhere to live unless she has a will in your name.

Is it possible to have a common law contract which gives you a 50 percent share in the value of the land and house even if the house is in your partners name?

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Building village people a house is actually dumber than dumb, but its all good for the people of the village. I think said man is trying to buy the love and admiration of the VILLAGE PEOPLE, only way to do it is with money. Love and kindness aint gonna do it.

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My Wife has made a Thai will in Thai and English leaving everything to me and in the case of her own land and own house (not our house or land) has stated she does not want any member of her family to receive anything. How safe is this?

sorry mate don't believe that for a second. Why are people always trying to prove whos got the better thai bird???

why would a wife leave her assets to anyone other than her husband?

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My Wife has made a Thai will in Thai and English leaving everything to me and in the case of her own land and own house (not our house or land) has stated she does not want any member of her family to receive anything. How safe is this?

sorry mate don't believe that for a second. Why are people always trying to prove whos got the better thai bird???

Why are some folks so sensitive about how other folks feel about their spouses?

:D

for the record: it does not concern me personally as i am not married to a Thai lady but i resent people's derogatory comments in this respect. it is against forum rules to call an obvious moron a moron (id est insult ad hominem) but deragotory comments concerning wives or partners of fellow TV-members should be tolerated with a smile?

GIMME A BREAK Heng! in what environment did you grow up to adopt those kind of values? :o

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they get a smile because its obvious what their experiences in Thailand have been like. have someone tell you that all Thais are robbers and liars and its probably true based on their experiences because social darwinism plays its role in life... perhaps heng pitys them and offers a smile when they tell people that there is no way a thai women loves them more than her family or isnt a bar girl or whatever other stereotype mr. farang is convincing himself of today.

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My Wife has made a Thai will in Thai and English leaving everything to me and in the case of her own land and own house (not our house or land) has stated she does not want any member of her family to receive anything. How safe is this?

sorry mate don't believe that for a second. Why are people always trying to prove whos got the better thai bird???

Why are some folks so sensitive about how other folks feel about their spouses?

:D

for the record: it does not concern me personally as i am not married to a Thai lady but i resent people's derogatory comments in this respect. it is against forum rules to call an obvious moron a moron (id est insult ad hominem) but deragotory comments concerning wives or partners of fellow TV-members should be tolerated with a smile?

GIMME A BREAK Heng! in what environment did you grow up to adopt those kind of values? :o

Lolz. Language barrier, Naam. Please re-read. Defending one's own spouse is the norm. Taking offense at another poster who apparently feels proud about who their spouse is... is what my comment is directed at.

So, no break will be issued.

:D

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they get a smile because its obvious what their experiences in Thailand have been like. have someone tell you that all Thais are robbers and liars and its probably true based on their experiences because social darwinism plays its role in life... perhaps heng pitys them and offers a smile when they tell people that there is no way a thai women loves them more than her family or isnt a bar girl or whatever other stereotype mr. farang is convincing himself of today.

I'm smiling because I just had some rather delicious strawberry shortcake. As for pity, I wasn't expressing that in any way on this thread.

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Naam,

(id est insult ad hominem)

id est probrum ad hominem ?!

But I agree there is far too much slinging the dirt at people in the absence of any reasoned response.

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If these things worry you then why not just buy a condo in your own name?

And if you are worried you may be murdered for your wealth then surely you ought to be learning the lesson of the past week and start putting distance between you and the person(s) you fear might murder you.

The root of the problem seems to me to be the fact that the biggest lies Farangs hear in Thailand are the lies they tell themselves.

Some personal honesty (Honesty with yourself) about the basis of your relationship ought to provide an indication of your partner's (and perhaps your partner's family) expectations. There are plenty of pointers to be found in TV threads on what to look out for and only you know how your relationship goes. If you are able to be honest with yourself be so and act accordingly.

The other No No is building a house in your wife's village - I just do not understand why guys do this.

We hear about scheming Thai partners who strip Farangs bare - but let's be honest, the biggest risk is that your relationship breaks down or that you simply drift apart.

In these, what I suspect are the far more common case, the Farang is left with a choice - stay in a relationship that has broken down, living right next door to the ex and her family or give up the house and the invested assets that go with it.

Not only that, but in cases where there is a scheme going on, being right next door to the In-Laws puts the final nail in the Farang's fortunes.

To my mind building in Nakhon Nowhere right next to the inlaws is about the dumbest thing a Farang can do. I mean really really dumb.

This is a very good post Guesthouse. All the more so, as it was nort delivered with your usual condescending tone. You have a lot of very good insight to offer and when you deliver it without judgement I think it's value is very much greater.

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My Wife has made a Thai will in Thai and English leaving everything to me and in the case of her own land and own house (not our house or land) has stated she does not want any member of her family to receive anything. How safe is this?

sorry mate don't believe that for a second. Why are people always trying to prove whos got the better thai bird???

i am the sole beneficiary of my wifes estate.

my father is the sole beneficiary of my mothers estate.

pretty normal stuff really james24.

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Simor asserts that a lease--usually a 30 year lease--dies when YOU die, assuming YOU are the person whose name appears on the lease and the chanaut.

A few weeks ago, my wife's friend and her husband danced up to the Pattaya land office, where, it is alleged, the Land Office guy told them the law had been changed.

Now it seems, ....the lease carries on even AFTER the leasee dies.

To take up another poster's point.....for those given to uncertainty about whether or not thay may be murdered in their beds....putting the lease in a FALANG family member's name...one who lives in a country other than Thailand, would seem to offer as much security as we can get.

( eg...even if you are murdered, the rotters do not get your house )

It's then up to the new leaseholder--be in brother, son etc....to ask a Real Estate Agent to find a tenant.

One hopes such measures are unnecessary.

But as we all know....the path of true love (?) does not always run so smoothly.

It's an issue we all need to address, and finding the appropriate balance of trust verses security is a difficult one to address.

Throw in the negative possibilities in the future..and it's time to have a Beer Chang.

I haven't had a chance to ask a lawyer if there was such a change....so I am only repeating what I've been told.

It's worth checking.

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