Help This Man Find His True Love

[hobanse]

Blame the Gov. and the Economic Terrorist. With 4000 TB a month you can not survive in TH. If the Thai Ladies get a good salary, the bars are empty.

[wlcart]

Don't let yourself be scammed. If a Thai girlfriend or her family asks for money, cut her loose, period.

If you give a Thai woman or her family money, from that point on you will never know the real reason she is with you, but chances are, it is for the cash.

Don't worry, Thailand offers plenty of women to entertain you. The second she ask you for money, consider the relationship a business arrangement, and treat it as such. Do not ever, ever combine business with love.

If you want a serious relationship with a Thai woman, find one that doesn't ask for money, and doesn't lie. Take a few years of watching her manage her money and proving her honesty. You will save yourself a disaster.

[farangtopper1]

it is a nice put togheter movie. Very entertaining. I like to comments on this video the most.

Of course it happens with men and yes it is stupid. They do it themselves STOP giving them advice they will not listen. Most of the time they divorced there farang wife and loose already half their money. They should know better.

O yes I live in Pattaya with a thailady whom worked bar before. We are already 8 years together and have now 2 children. Maybe it is not always happy together but same if you have a farang wife.

[hepicurus]

Someone else on this Forum has previously put it very nicely...."...you can take the girl out of the Bar...but you can never take the Bar out of the girl!...."

Lesson learned, hopefully...

[samuibeachcomber]

Mr. Biguss,thanks for the film clip,lovely well done,you should sell it to every thai embassy/consulate they could hand it free to all prospective travelllers to LOS.

A "lady from Isaan" is a real honey,and there lies the first problem,she does n't look,talk,like the girls back home and such a sweet mouth too,and oh so good between the sheets,enough to blow you away.

If your old,divorced,lots of spare cash from selling up after a divorce back home(that is if you were n't taken to the cleaners by western ex wife)and sexless for years back home,its all a lethal cocktail that will help open the ATM for you,and sometimes because of your older age you look at your new "honey" and get confused,sometimes she's your lover and sometimes your feelings for her are like a father to a duaghter.

[onnut]

What a Sap, poor bloke.

I would like yo know where the rest of the 6 mill went, it certainly did not go on that house.

All that for a girl that looked like a pig.

[473geo]

Good video, and a good well illustrated tongue in cheek warning, with so many apparent experts here in Thailand and on Tvisa, I doubt it will be required as a 'warning' in the future.....purely a reminder of what used to happen the the "idiots" who came before.......right guys??.....

Edited July 4, 2010 by 473geo

[samuibeachcomber]

Good video, and a good well illustrated tongue in cheek warning, with so many apparent experts here in Thailand and on Tvisa, I doubt it will be required as a 'warning' in the future.....purely a reminder of what used to happen the the "idiots" who came before.......right guys??.....

to true,is this what's called "remembrance day"

[wombat]

One thing that I will never understand is why men will accept an uneducated (most don't make it past the 8th grade) prostitute as a wife in this country, but would never entertain the idea for a second in their home country.

its called dumb intelligent meets intelligent dumb.

[bikeinbangkok]

I believe that all Thais,man or woman,belonging to a lower socio economic group are prone to be dishonest or act improperly when the situation arises.They will tell you they don't lie but do not consider that telling the truth is important when in their mind lying is the easy way out.I don't believe the girl in the video set out to scam the poor fellow but rather saw advantage later on when it was pointed out to her by greedy relatives.I have had my gut full of greedy relatives and didn't marry a bar girl.It is true most bar girls have little or no eduction and getting a normal job is not an option that they consider.Thailand is a hierarchical society with strong dependence on filial ties.To put it in rather derogatory terms it's a land of suck ups where women are not treated equally and look for a guy to take care of them,in return she will service his needs but not bother to look for a job where she can be independent.

Of course not all people are they same but my thoughts I have expressed are taken from my own experience of living here in Thailand for years

[OxfordWill]

added to archives under romantic-scam category file number #9 003 431

We are going to need to add another few TB as we're running out of disk space to hold this year's reports.

[ajarnmark]

Love can do a lot, and she does look pretty ...

yeah... pretty ugly...

[aneliane]

<br>Serious or not, that was well done.<br><br>One thing that I will never understand is why men will accept an uneducated (most don't make it past the 8th grade) prostitute as a wife in this country, but would never entertain the idea for a second in their home country.<br><br>Something happens to a man when he comes to Thailand. I'm sure of it. Perhaps its at that last customs clearance where they sometimes check your bags. Maybe its while you sleep on the airplane on the way here. I think they have created something that sucks logic and common sense right out of your body and keeps it until you leave. Maybe it's gassed back into the air via the airplane vents on your way home. Maybe not. No one knows for sure but this theory is as good as any.<br>

 <div><br></div><div>And why Farangs believe that very pretty girls half their age would actually love them for anything else than their cash and passport?</div><div>Why do they all fall to the myth that favorable currency is good ground for love?<br><br><br>

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[h1lander]

LOL! Nice! Just take a bulldozer to the place... It will fix everything!

No, no sir, why go the bother of hiring a bulldozer? A can of petrol (cheap!) and a single match (very cheap!) should do nicely!

[givenall]

har har har. Why are people still trying to marry prostitutes when they're hordes of nice girls all over. That Thai script looked pretty messed up also but I wonder how someone so dedicated wouldn't know any better. He could find anyone better anywhere.

Be careful, she is going to contact you and of course going to milk you more. Just chuck this for a life experience. NEVER TRUST a BAR GAL

[bprinceuk]

wind up or is it a case of the little head leading the big head

[sirchai]

As usual , love makes a man blind and one thing is true. You can take out the Girl from the Bar but you can't take out the Bar from the Girl. You should read Private Dancer  and maybe you will understand .

"You can take a girl out of a bar, but you can't take the bar out of her."

I was 'in love' with a bar girl from Buri Ram for almost 3 years, tried to see her as much as possible. One thing I do realized was that I bought her body for a period of time. But there was never love.

Love and friends is something we can't buy.

After my mom passed away in my arms, it was time for me to move to Thailand. But I didn't go to Pattaya, where she was working.

I flew to Phuket , and lived in a nice bungalow at Bang Sak. I drove to Kao Lhak on daily basis. Every day I was talking to a Thai guy who had a resort there.

I saw a wonderful Thai girl, working there, cleaning bungalows and I said to myself; well a girl like this must be heaven on earth. She couldn't speak English and my Thai vocabulary was about 25 words, not talking about my wrong pronunciation.

It took some time, and I travelled with her and her son to some friends of mine. Time enough to understand that there was something. Not based on money.

The girl I was talking about is my wife now, we're happily married since more than eight years and we still love each other. Her son, a wonderful boy was four and he never met his real dad. I give my best to educate him to understand what's going on in life. There's also love.

After working here a few years, teachers and friends, people from my wife's village were asking me if I would have a brother, or a friend who'd like to marry a Thai woman.

My wife went out of school when she was 12, to work on the family's rice fields. She's neither uneducated, nor stupid. So please forget the 'uneducated being stupid theory."

Would people buy houses, cars, motorbikes and spent a lot of cash back in their home countries for a girl they don't really know? I don't think so....

Why do people think that Thai women would be so different? After all an old Beatles song says it all:

MONEY CAN'T BUY YOU LOVE. CHOCK DEE…………………………………:jap:

Edited July 4, 2010 by sirchai

[RAZZELL]

Don't let yourself be scammed. If a Thai girlfriend or her family asks for money, cut her loose, period.

If you give a Thai woman or her family money, from that point on you will never know the real reason she is with you, but chances are, it is for the cash.

Don't worry, Thailand offers plenty of women to entertain you. The second she ask you for money, consider the relationship a business arrangement, and treat it as such. Do not ever, ever combine business with love.

If you want a serious relationship with a Thai woman, find one that doesn't ask for money, and doesn't lie. Take a few years of watching her manage her money and proving her honesty. You will save yourself a disaster.

Massive generalisation

But the video has to be a wind-up!

RAZZ

[risky11]

Mr. Biguss,thanks for the film clip,lovely well done,you should sell it to every thai embassy/consulate they could hand it free to all prospective travellers to LOS.

A "lady from Isaan" is a real honey,and there lies the first problem,she doesn't look,talk,like the girls back home and such a sweet mouth too,and oh so good between the sheets,enough to blow you away.

If your old,divorced,lots of spare cash from selling up after a divorce back home(that is if you were n't taken to the cleaners by western ex wife)and sexless for years back home,its all a lethal cocktail that will help open the ATM for you,and sometimes because of your older age you look at your new "honey" and get confused,sometimes she's your lover and sometimes your feelings for her are like a father to a daughter.

Well said - i agree. I had a gf (Jeab) in Udon several years ago and after spending 4 days with her and her family, i wanted to take her somewhere alone. She said "no, cannot. Must marry first, then go anywhere." I thought, "hmmmm, she is conservative and wants to avoid shame on her family. How much could it cost to marry her? $500?" She agreed that it would not be official, just a party with the monks, then a reception. Then she mentioned the "wedding portion" The dowry! She wanted B300K ($5000). She explained that this is Thai tradition. I said NO and that was the end of the relationship. Some of my American buddies called my a "cheap Charlie" for refusing to go along. One said he paid US$12K and she is worth every penny. I still think i made the right decision. I even offered to pay them the money at a rate of $500 per year AFTER each successful (happy) year of marriage. The refused.

[neverdie]

Good video, and a good well illustrated tongue in cheek warning, with so many apparent experts here in Thailand and on Tvisa, I doubt it will be required as a 'warning' in the future.....purely a reminder of what used to happen the the "idiots" who came before.......right guys??.....

I always wanted to get involved with one of these ladies but my step mother was Thai and she use to scare them all away, which kind of kept me single for alot of my younger years. Ohhh and of course thats a real bummer of a situation to be in LOS . Thanks mom !

[samjaidee]

Lordy, lordy, when will they ever learn. Well, probably never because new ones get off the planes everyday with an absolute certainy that "they are just like us, only shorter". And nothing short of divine intervention can convince these men otherwise.

I have taken to telling newbies (and some longer term guys who get carried away) to read Stickman's wonderful treatise on "Why I will never marry a Thai woman". It is without doubt the finest paper ever written on the subject. It was written by an American half-Thai man who came here in his twenties to go to University and stayed and has been here for decades. Very valuable insight and information. And it's free.

People, you are in Asia the name of the game is Money and Fear, at every level.

Suggestion to the fool that made this video is to get back up on the horse and try again. Better yet get up on the horse in another country with different women as the mentally of the women here are obviously way to alien for this man.

Regards

Suggestion to the fool who believed this video was a real plea for help. Don't believe everything you see. You're not as bright as you think you are.

[sirchai]

IF you married in the village, she is NOT your legal wife! that needs registration in an Amphur.

Move on

A typical Isan house, more than six million baht? True lies?

Guess you bought at least 12 baht of gold for her to show your love to her. The Buddhist ceremony means nothing. Guess lots of people had their fun. Lao Kao and food free for all.

The sad thing is that you would take this bitch back who ruined your life, blamed you that people must think you’re just a fool.

Don’t try to find her, because even if she’s not that pretty as you might think, she’ll have another guy. Could be another foreigner, or she’s just back with her Thai gig.

How can you make such a video, this girl looks like a buffalo in my wife’s village. But you fell in love??? And you want this Kwai back? (I love ya too much, didn’t she say that?)

This letters are not written to hurt you, but now please wake up, see the reality and forget the nasty prick that ripped you of.

Edited July 8, 2010 by Maestro
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[sirchai]

Love can do a lot, and she does look pretty ...

Sorry Sir, what's so pretty? And where's love?

[LJW]

Blame the Gov. and the Economic Terrorist. With 4000 TB a month you can not survive in TH. If the Thai Ladies get a good salary, the bars are empty.

Yes, many many people here survive on 4,000 baht and less. In my 25 years of living here, I see it all the time.

I don't think the the salary is a main consideration to most bar workers...

Edited July 4, 2010 by LJW

[crusty]

Even high society women do this scam

It does not matter where they come from

I was seduced by a 30 year old Filipina, from prominent family, university graduate, marketing manager in a Manila bank, high salary

we married, had a daughter, and went back to the US to sell my properties and build 2 marble palaces on Boracay ,in the Philippines

After 3 happy years, she left me to resume her single life in Makati, said she was a career woman, not a housewife missed the night clubs, and abducted our daughter. neither of them seen in 4 years

She took over our 1/2 million dollar houses with 20 armed men, fired my staff of 4, and is collecting rent ever since

I had to escape to Thailand because her uncle was minister of injustice under the previous administration and orders were to hang me if captured, wanted on "undesirable alien" charges

Buyer beware, bar girls or corporate girls, young or old, gorgeous or not so, for so many, ,taking from a foreigner is OK, most Asian men would kill them but not us foreigners and they know that

But there are so many more good people too. I am living with a wonderful Thai woman, and I owe my life to a Filipino who wants nothing in return

its all part of life's experience

This resort wouldn't be Sandcastles would it, where the mayor's wife decided she liked the property and move in with her hired thugs taking over the site and the Aussie owner was marooned upstairs ?

[Huey]

Even high society women do this scam

It does not matter where they come from

I was seduced by a 30 year old Filipina, from prominent family, university graduate, marketing manager in a Manila bank, high salary

we married, had a daughter, and went back to the US to sell my properties and build 2 marble palaces on Boracay ,in the Philippines

After 3 happy years, she left me to resume her single life in Makati, said she was a career woman, not a housewife missed the night clubs, and abducted our daughter. neither of them seen in 4 years

She took over our 1/2 million dollar houses with 20 armed men, fired my staff of 4, and is collecting rent ever since

I had to escape to Thailand because her uncle was minister of injustice under the previous administration and orders were to hang me if captured, wanted on "undesirable alien" charges

Buyer beware, bar girls or corporate girls, young or old, gorgeous or not so, for so many, ,taking from a foreigner is OK, most Asian men would kill them but not us foreigners and they know that

But there are so many more good people too. I am living with a wonderful Thai woman, and I owe my life to a Filipino who wants nothing in return

its all part of life's experience

Firstly This was a morbidly funny, well done video that so succinctly sums up the guys that come here and marry hookers.

Secondly,the premise of this post above is BS. Yes there are women in all Socio-economic brackets that will rip a man off if they can sure. And there is fecal matter in every day drinking water. But by his logic you should go and drink out of the toilet because fecal matter is every where anyway!!!

In drinking water it's 1 part per million, You're ok...

Take your time getting to know a better educated woman who's not so loose and was never a prostitute, once again, chances are, you're gonna be ok.

Wife a whore from the bar, and you might as well be drinking out of a public toilet.

[LingLek]

Astonishing amount of emic dysentery in most of these posts. Doubtless, Thai bargirls could make a list of scams perpetrated on them by the hordes of educated, subtly turned out, elegantly tattooed foreign gentlemen who grace the portals of their bars and even homes, claiming to be wealthy, toxin-free and single. If they only had the same opportunities they could regale us with their wisecracks, well-honed complaints and lamentations. But they don't, do they?

[thrilled]

I think it's funny.Wouldn't give his money away to A woman in the us,but would give it to A thai woman.She's either good or he has low self esteem.Or A little of both.

[bf2002]

Funny how a guy who admits to having a Thai wife talks about how all these Thai women (lower, middle, upper class) are out to scam foreigners.<br><br>How exactly did you meet your wife?  And what class is she?<br><br>Most of the bargirls and gold diggers (not always the same, but often so for common sense reasons) are not of the upper class....real upper class Thais don't associate with foreigners willing to screw up their public image with the farang-oriented nightlife scene (there is a discrete way and a not so discrete way of messing with hookers for the real upper class Thais).<br><br>Isn't it obvious this video is a troll?<br><br><br><br>

<br>Sir, you HAVE been scammed and after living in Thailand since 1973 with my Thai wife we have tried to educate fellow farangs on how NOT TO get scammed by these sweet innocent looking thai ladies. <br><br>It doesnt matter if she is poor, middle class, or upper class, or go go girl, massage girl, or free lance hooker these ladies are out to get your money and thats all they are after. <br><br>They are professional's and know exactly what they are doing. And while they are scamming you, they are also scamming others. Since being stationed at U'Tapou in the US Air Force I have seen many men lose everything they worked so hard all their lives for only to be scammed by Thai ladies. <br><br>Kicked out of their own home that their money built without legal rights. My wife was a nurse when I met her, never asked for a dowry, and her parents stay with us so there are good Thai ladies but just watch out for the pro scammers. <br><br>Don't send them large amounts of money via western union because they are sick, or their parents buffalo died, or they need money for school because its really for new clothes and a new motorcycle for their thai boyfriend. <br><br>You could have had a hel_l of a lot nicer home for the $200,000 too. Next time do your home work and please guys smarten up dudes, quit falling prey to that sweet smile and sweet ***** <img src="http://static.thaivisa.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/jap.gif" class="bbc_emoticon" alt=":jap:"><br>

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[themuse1969]

My condolences to you, naive man. It didn't happen to me because I never go near the farang communities, nor the bars. I immersed myself in Thai culture honorably. Then, my beloved emerged and entered my life.

Edited July 4, 2010 by themuse1969