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does that modus operandi go over well in Nakhon Binley ...

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... Sure ... when I used to hang out together at Binley Park with Clive Owen.

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1. Learn the language. There have been endless posts over the years by people complaining that they never fit in, and then mentioning that they don't speak Thai. How do you think a, say, Polish immigrant who refused to learn English would fit into a small town in the UK/US/Australia/NZ? For a small village you really need to also make the effort to learn the local dialect too, be it Khmer, Isaan Lao, Suay or whatever.

2. Take part in the village social life. Attend parties for weddings, funerals, special events, and hold your own when applicable. Again, there have been posts over the years by people grumbling that their wife to be wants to hold a big party for the wedding and they don't want to pay for a bunch of freeloaders to drink their beer. That's the way it's done. I guarantee you could go along to a party given by the poorest person living in the village and be welcomed with a bottle of beer and a plate of food. If you really want to fit in you do it the way everyone else in the village would.

3. Regularly eat at the local noodle shops. In a small village there will only be 2 or 3 of these. The owners will be glad of your custom and the other customers will see you eating the same food as them. If you've achieved point 1 you can also join in their conversations.

4. Have your own private space. There will be times you just want to be on your own and read, watch a DVD, get on the internet or whatever. Sometimes in order to fit in you need to get away on your own for a while.

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I live NW of Korat near NonThai. I am not sure where Soeng Sang is.

It is very rural here, the rice paddies begin 15m from my house.

I first met my wife's family at the funeral for her youngest brother and even in their time of grief they went out of their way to make sure everything was good for me.

I have a special bond with the eldest brother and we often go off for a few days together to varius parts of the country.

You have to accept that her family will always come before you and she would never dare to tell her eldest brother to shut up. He clearly wanted to make her lose face if he called her a "slapper in front of the taxi driver.

He probably won't change his point of view so you will just have to put up with it.

7 years down the line the oldies still stare at me and refer to me as farang even though they are well aware of my name.

There are a lot of positives about living in a village and I cant think of a better place for my 5 year old son to grow up.

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Well I agree with the "Etiquette" part however we will never "FIT"IN" . Its like an Orange trying to "fit in" to a cherry tree. They might accept you somewhat but you will always be an outsider.

All of the suggestions are good ones for anywhere but like one poster said "never give them the impression that you are a push-over".

It is easier to fit in with the town folk then it is with the Family. Rule number 1: Just buy a big case of "Lao Khao" and bring some "Ocean Food" with you when you come from Bkk.

I've been here 10 years strait and I have given up on the "fit in" scenario. I don't change one bit. I treat everyone the same as I would anywhere else. Im nice and polite etc and respect the culture and thats it.

When in doubt, see Rule number 1.

Also I do not agree with "The key to commercial survival in a small town or city is repeat business whether hardware supplies or a noodle stall -- They would much rather charge a farang the going-price and have you come back multiple times than gouge you once and know that there are other shops within walking distance that could sell you the same... "

I know that Thai people are very "present tense people" and they dont think about repeat customers etc. I say spread the wealth around a little and give every vendor some of your business. This way everyone will like you, not just the places you spend money.

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The repeat biz remark was mainly referring to Thais -- many places I go I am their only farang customer and if they don' see me for a while they ask where I've been... Many families have been patronizing the same shops for generations.

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I have to agree 100% with Thailandbluegrass in what he posted.

Jazzbo, I don't know a Clive Owen and I never went to Binley Park. PM me with more hints, just in case I'm losing it

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I live NW of Korat near NonThai. I am not sure where Soeng Sang is.

It's about 70-80 km SSE of Korat. Or 30ish km south of Nong Ki off route 24. Edited by sinbin

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I live NW of Korat near NonThai. I am not sure where Soeng Sang is.

It's about 70-80 km SSE of Korat. Or 30ish km south of Nong Ki off route 24.

Otherwise known as Cassava City

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... Sure ... when I used to hang out together at Binley Park with Clive Owen.

Who the hel_l is Clive Owen. :unsure:

When I find out, you'll be the first I tell. Stand by.

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... Sure ... when I used to hang out together at Binley Park with Clive Owen.

Who the hel_l is Clive Owen. :unsure:

When I find out, you'll be the first I tell. Stand by.

A British Actor and thats the school he went too,apparently, but I'm still as lost as you lot!!

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julia-roberts-clive-owens-entertainment-weekly.jpgIf you feel that as far as Thai with Thai commerce goes -- not the occasional Honkie -- that repeat business is not important then that is your prerogative ,,, Clive Owen is also from Binley but no, you do not know me as I have never set foot in UK... BTW Clive got to sleep (on screen at least) with Julia:

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no, you do not know me as I have never set foot in UK...

Thank goodness for the above statement. So does that mean you're my first ever stalker ?

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That's also very typical of village life, arguments about very futile matters that degenerate into two neighbors who know each other since birth not talking to each other for years.

Life in the village can be very boring, any form of entertainment is always welcome :rolleyes:

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As from Profile -- Location: Binley

As I posted before (somewhere) from The Sting:

GONDORFF (V.O.) How 'bout Lonnegan?

HOOKER (V.O.) I gave him the breakdown just like ya told me to.

GONDORFF (V.O.) And?

HOOKER (V.O.) He threatened to kill me.

GONDORFF (V.O.) hel_l, they don't do that and you know you're not gettin' through to 'em.

Edited by jazzbo

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