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A Thai Girl Want Me To Lie For Her

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You don't have to lie, but you don't need to tell the truth either, if the farang in question asks you a direct question, just answer that you don't know.

That in itself is a lie. Get real, the guy should be told the truth. Just a question of whether the OP has got the balls ?

Do not worry, I have balls enough to tell him, but the point is whether it is worth it or not. Why make an issue that is not mine to my problem.

Here's the thing... If you were the girl and your man was shaggin' another or something... All of her friends/acquaintances/people she has not seen in years/the postman/the soi dogs/the gekkos/the motorcycle taxi drivers/the 7-11 worker/the chicken seller/the noodle seller and so on would be on the phone telling her all.

On the other hand... If you are the guy... Everyone just smiles.

TheWalkingMan

What you do not know, is not hurting you. Morally it is appropriate to tell him the truth. Then Guess who gets the big ugly Troll here then.:D

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My guess is that she'll have him into the village, married and out of it in no time before anyone mentions her kids or living in Sweden.

Some hookers are ok, just doing it because they are too lazy to get a real job. Those like this girl have no human feelings (ditching her kids) and are just money grabbing trash.

If I could expose her I would but if the family lose gold, a house and 500k plus, you could be digging a large hole for yourself. Better he "find out for himself" via some method which does not directly connect the OP.

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My guess is that she'll have him into the village, married and out of it in no time before anyone mentions her kids or living in Sweden.

Some hookers are ok, just doing it because they are too lazy to get a real job. Those like this girl have no human feelings (ditching her kids) and are just money grabbing trash.

If I could expose her I would but if the family lose gold, a house and 500k plus, you could be digging a large hole for yourself. Better he "find out for himself" via some method which does not directly connect the OP.

I completely agree with what you say. What scares me is that it seems like they are going to build houses and live here. I have decided not to go to the wedding and avoid them.

If he comes to me and ask about her past then I will give him tips on how he can figure it out, and give him a very good reason to do so.

"Some hookers are ok" needle in the hay stack

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1) The guy is apparently happy with his future wife, he is prepared to part with HIS money, which he is entitled to spend as HE sees fit......

2) The children from the first marriage may well be better off in Sweden

3) Those that understand Thai people know it is their nature to ignore things which are not deemed relevant to their current situation

4) This may highlight the mistrust the Thai have in the farang way of thinking.........to be truthful where it could possibly jepordise the happiness of two people, who in reality are old enough to make their own decisions, in short the op is clearly seen as a risk to the plans and not to be trusted to keep his gob shut

5) If the guy comes to the op for last minute confirmation and asks direct questions then the op is entitled to tell the truth.......

otherwise the business of nobody but the two people involved

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My guess is that she'll have him into the village, married and out of it in no time before anyone mentions her kids or living in Sweden.

Some hookers are ok, just doing it because they are too lazy to get a real job. Those like this girl have no human feelings (ditching her kids) and are just money grabbing trash.

If I could expose her I would but if the family lose gold, a house and 500k plus, you could be digging a large hole for yourself. Better he "find out for himself" via some method which does not directly connect the OP.

I completely agree with what you say. What scares me is that it seems like they are going to build houses and live here. I have decided not to go to the wedding and avoid them.

If he comes to me and ask about her past then I will give him tips on how he can figure it out, and give him a very good reason to do so.

"Some hookers are ok" needle in the hay stack

Sounds like a plan...........don't know why you wouldn't go to the wedding though.......I once called in at one when I was passing, made welcome, spoke to the guy for a few minutes, he looked to be having a real good time.....I doubt the guy will get to speak to you too much on his wedding day.

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OP - If you feel uncomfortable about telling the guy the facts, get his email address and pass it to me. I will tell all and you can stay in the clear. B) Just let me know the facts and I will pass them on.

TheWalkingMan

+1, :)

+ 2 and more than happy to do it.

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1) The guy is apparently happy with his future wife, he is prepared to part with HIS money, which he is entitled to spend as HE sees fit......

He do this On a Lie

2) The children from the first marriage may well be better off in Sweden

Yes

3) Those that understand Thai people know it is their nature to ignore things which are not deemed relevant to their current situation

So a farang should think that way aswell?

4) This may highlight the mistrust the Thai have in the farang way of thinking.........to be truthful where it could possibly jepordise the happiness of two people, who in reality are old enough to make their own decisions, in short the op is clearly seen as a risk to the plans and not to be trusted to keep his gob shut

Happy falsely! Yes I am a risk for her!

5) If the guy comes to the op for last minute confirmation and asks direct questions then the op is entitled to tell the truth.......

Yes

otherwise the business of nobody but the two people involved

Where they decide to involve others, I have not chosen to involve me, they have.

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1) The guy is apparently happy with his future wife, he is prepared to part with HIS money, which he is entitled to spend as HE sees fit......

He do this On a Lie

2) The children from the first marriage may well be better off in Sweden

Yes

3) Those that understand Thai people know it is their nature to ignore things which are not deemed relevant to their current situation

So a farang should think that way aswell?

4) This may highlight the mistrust the Thai have in the farang way of thinking.........to be truthful where it could possibly jepordise the happiness of two people, who in reality are old enough to make their own decisions, in short the op is clearly seen as a risk to the plans and not to be trusted to keep his gob shut

Happy falsely! Yes I am a risk for her!

5) If the guy comes to the op for last minute confirmation and asks direct questions then the op is entitled to tell the truth.......

Yes

otherwise the business of nobody but the two people involved

Where they decide to involve others, I have not chosen to involve me, they have.

Ok here is a scenario, the guy is loaded, 50 million baht is nothing to him, he has decided to marry and take pleasure in building a home for his Thai princess, this will allow him to reside in Thailand, have a quiet beer or two every day and sit back enjoying what he has created.........................................

Yep it could go wrong, but why try to make it a non starter by divulging information that may.....or may not make a difference.......he may well be aware of the risks, he may well have chosen to continue and see where life takes him and glean every bit of enjoyment he can..........you think it is in his best interests for you to make comment which may have adverse effect on his relationship?

A minor point, they have not chosen to involve you, they have chosen to ask you not to become involved......:)

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1) The guy is apparently happy with his future wife, he is prepared to part with HIS money, which he is entitled to spend as HE sees fit......

He do this On a Lie

2) The children from the first marriage may well be better off in Sweden

Yes

3) Those that understand Thai people know it is their nature to ignore things which are not deemed relevant to their current situation

So a farang should think that way aswell?

4) This may highlight the mistrust the Thai have in the farang way of thinking.........to be truthful where it could possibly jepordise the happiness of two people, who in reality are old enough to make their own decisions, in short the op is clearly seen as a risk to the plans and not to be trusted to keep his gob shut

Happy falsely! Yes I am a risk for her!

5) If the guy comes to the op for last minute confirmation and asks direct questions then the op is entitled to tell the truth.......

Yes

otherwise the business of nobody but the two people involved

Where they decide to involve others, I have not chosen to involve me, they have.

Ok here is a scenario, the guy is loaded, 50 million baht is nothing to him, he has decided to marry and take pleasure in building a home for his Thai princess, this will allow him to reside in Thailand, have a quiet beer or two every day and sit back enjoying what he has created.........................................

Yep it could go wrong, but why try to make it a non starter by divulging information that may.....or may not make a difference.......he may well be aware of the risks, he may well have chosen to continue and see where life takes him and glean every bit of enjoyment he can..........you think it is in his best interests for you to make comment which may have adverse effect on his relationship?

A minor point, they have not chosen to involve you, they have chosen to ask you not to become involved......:)

I agree whit you :) I will not get involved whit them :)

This I said in another post:

Do not worry, I have balls enough to tell him, but the point is whether it is worth it or not. Why make an issue that is not mine to my problem.

"I completely agree with what you say. What scares me is that it seems like they are going to build houses and live here. I have decided not to go to the wedding and avoid them.

If he comes to me and ask about her past then I will give him tips on how he can figure it out, and give him a very good reason to do so.

"

Edited by EirikJohannesen

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1) The guy is apparently happy with his future wife, he is prepared to part with HIS money, which he is entitled to spend as HE sees fit......

He do this On a Lie

2) The children from the first marriage may well be better off in Sweden

Yes

3) Those that understand Thai people know it is their nature to ignore things which are not deemed relevant to their current situation

So a farang should think that way aswell?

4) This may highlight the mistrust the Thai have in the farang way of thinking.........to be truthful where it could possibly jepordise the happiness of two people, who in reality are old enough to make their own decisions, in short the op is clearly seen as a risk to the plans and not to be trusted to keep his gob shut

Happy falsely! Yes I am a risk for her!

5) If the guy comes to the op for last minute confirmation and asks direct questions then the op is entitled to tell the truth.......

Yes

otherwise the business of nobody but the two people involved

Where they decide to involve others, I have not chosen to involve me, they have.

Ok here is a scenario, the guy is loaded, 50 million baht is nothing to him, he has decided to marry and take pleasure in building a home for his Thai princess, this will allow him to reside in Thailand, have a quiet beer or two every day and sit back enjoying what he has created.........................................

Yep it could go wrong, but why try to make it a non starter by divulging information that may.....or may not make a difference.......he may well be aware of the risks, he may well have chosen to continue and see where life takes him and glean every bit of enjoyment he can..........you think it is in his best interests for you to make comment which may have adverse effect on his relationship?

A minor point, they have not chosen to involve you, they have chosen to ask you not to become involved......:)

I agree whit you :) I will not get involved whit them :)

This I said in another post:

"I completely agree with what you say. What scares me is that it seems like they are going to build houses and live here. I have decided not to go to the wedding and avoid them.

If he comes to me and ask about her past then I will give him tips on how he can figure it out, and give him a very good reason to do so.

"

I'd go to the wedding.......I know a couple of guys that have built houses, I watched them bursting with pride as they enjoyed the whole experience. They both walked away when the time came to part......still have money in pockets and still enjoy Thailand.

Remember not all the stories end up with skint bitter farangs.........and it can be one hell of a ride........:) .

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I'd go to the wedding.......I know a couple of guys that have built houses, I watched them bursting with pride as they enjoyed the whole experience. They both walked away when the time came to part......still have money in pockets and still enjoy Thailand.

Remember not all the stories end up with skint bitter farangs.........and it can be one hell of a ride........:) .

Personally, after 22 years here ¨ then most farang I know happily come out of the divorce without the heavy losses. There are only a few I know who have lost everything.

All of them are divorced and remarried LOL :D

I have stopped going to the wedding last year when I thought it's been too much drinking and fighting in those days, things that did not happen in the old days

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Personally, after 22 years here ¨ then most farang I know happily come out of the divorce without the heavy losses. There are only a few I know who have lost everything.

All of them are divorced and remarried LOL :D

I have stopped going to the wedding last year when I thought it's been too much drinking and fighting in those days, things that did not happen in the old days

Can you not try to drink a bit less.....:D

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Personally, after 22 years here ¨ then most farang I know happily come out of the divorce without the heavy losses. There are only a few I know who have lost everything.

All of them are divorced and remarried LOL :D

I have stopped going to the wedding last year when I thought it's been too much drinking and fighting in those days, things that did not happen in the old days

Can you not try to drink a bit less.....:D

LOL :D:cheesy:

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imo if you manage to see him well prior to the wedding, when he would actually have time to adjust his plans, when he doesn't feel like he's completely committed, then I'd recommend talking to him.If he is in love with her blah blah blah then you don't want to spoil his happiness, but he needs to go into things with his eyes open.

Since if the girl does have ill intentions, which from the sounds maybe she does, then she's essentially asked you to be party to the theft of ~2 million bhat (once you include the house aswell). He's probably already been sold on the Sin Sod concept, and if he's got a lot of money he probably won't mind paying it even when he finds out she's Mia Maiy. Afterall it's still significantly cheaper than a wedding in farangland.If the two of them actually love each other, then they'll talk it out and everything will be fine. If the love is one sided and she has ill intentions, at least he's going in with his eyes open.

If you stand by and do nothing, you'll have compromised your morals, particularly if in a few years time you see how distraught he is etc at having been cheated (And since there probably won't be many farang in the village, it's likely that you two will be mates by then, which would suck to see your mate in such a pinch, knowing that you could have prevented it if you stood up and said something years earlier).

If you only meet him at the wedding though, then maii pen raii, too late to change things then, as he's already paid the sin sod and committed to living in the village etc with her, not much you can do after that, probably best to just not rock the boat in that situation (unless he directly asks you of course, in which case you should tell him imo) and hope that he can take away some degree of happiness from it all. He'll probably be able to tell that she's had kids easily enough within a few weeks, or as others have said, at the marriage register, otherwise no doubt she'll tell him in time.

But if the opportunity arises to open his eyes before he puts his money on the line, then I'd say you should inform him.

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imo if you manage to see him well prior to the wedding, when he would actually have time to adjust his plans, when he doesn't feel like he's completely committed, then I'd recommend talking to him.If he is in love with her blah blah blah then you don't want to spoil his happiness, but he needs to go into things with his eyes open.

Since if the girl does have ill intentions, which from the sounds maybe she does, then she's essentially asked you to be party to the theft of ~2 million bhat (once you include the house aswell). He's probably already been sold on the Sin Sod concept, and if he's got a lot of money he probably won't mind paying it even when he finds out she's Mia Maiy. Afterall it's still significantly cheaper than a wedding in farangland.If the two of them actually love each other, then they'll talk it out and everything will be fine. If the love is one sided and she has ill intentions, at least he's going in with his eyes open.

If you stand by and do nothing, you'll have compromised your morals, particularly if in a few years time you see how distraught he is etc at having been cheated (And since there probably won't be many farang in the village, it's likely that you two will be mates by then, which would suck to see your mate in such a pinch, knowing that you could have prevented it if you stood up and said something years earlier).

If you only meet him at the wedding though, then maii pen raii, too late to change things then, as he's already paid the sin sod and committed to living in the village etc with her, not much you can do after that, probably best to just not rock the boat in that situation (unless he directly asks you of course, in which case you should tell him imo) and hope that he can take away some degree of happiness from it all. He'll probably be able to tell that she's had kids easily enough within a few weeks, or as others have said, at the marriage register, otherwise no doubt she'll tell him in time.

But if the opportunity arises to open his eyes before he puts his money on the line, then I'd say you should inform him.

It is difficult to see for sure what this girl is looking for. But my impression is that she is covetous, she goes for the money. There is little I get done before the man comes to the village. And as you say it is a small village with few foreigners, so it is possible that we end up as friends. He comes in a few days so there is enough time before the wedding.:D

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