AngelofDeath Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) I've got another thai girlfriend after the breakup with my previous thai girlfriend. I've known my current thai girlfriend for more than 1 year. Recently we were talking about the future. For example, we discussed how many kids we want to have, what we need in the future, whether we will move to her province to stay after marriage etc. So she listed down the things she expect from me. If I can't fulfill her expectation within 2 years, she will break up with me. Her reason is that she can't wait 6 or 10 years for me to fulfill her expectations. We are both in our mid 20s. ** More information about her is that she's from Issan, she's not a bargirl and she holds a normal decent job(10k baht/month). Her expectations: I have to build 2 houses in her province, one for her parents and another for ourself. (I looked around in the Issan forum and I figured that it would cost around 3-4 million bahts for 2 houses,) A decent car to travel (600K baht?) Buy a condominium in Bangkok (1-2million baht) She wants to own a shop selling stuff. (I don't know what kind of stuff yet, and I don't know how much it will cost, probably 5 million baht?) What her expectations mean is that I have to earn between 5 million to 10 million baht within 2 years to fully pay for all these things she wants. I can fulfill her expectation but I will definitely take more 2 years. Positively speaking it would be 5 years and the worst case scenario would be 10 years. I told her that I will try but she showed me this: However, she said she love me; I love her too. Anybody in here can show me guidance or give me advice or tips on how to proceed on with this relationship. I just need more perspectives and more brains is definitely better than 1 brain. And seriously, I'm bored of going in and out of relationship. Repeating this process for 4 times over the years made me very tired. I just want to settle down. Edited May 2, 2012 by AngelofDeath Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arthurwait Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) I didn't even bother reading until the end of the post, but here's my guidance : RUN!!!!!!!! Edited May 2, 2012 by arthurwait 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 However, she said she love me; I love her too. It's been said that a better translation of 'I love you Honey' ... is I need you Honey' Maybe some things are lost in translations between our two Cultures. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Head Snake Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 Oh. My. GAWWD. Get on a motorsai taxi. Tell him to drive anywhere. no, I mean, GET out of ISSAAN. now. oh. my. GAAWD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bangkokhatter Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 Bloody hell , she don't want much does she. Takes most people a good few years to get all that. Get rid and get back into the game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HardenedSoul Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 100% trip-trap over the TV bridge. The guy's a clown; he's lost without ever firing a shot. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KeyserSoze01 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 Even a well-healed man would balk at those requirements. Two houses, a condo, a car and a business, all in two years. What does she bring to the table besides the standard equipment? She has unrealistic expectations. If you want to keep her, you need to make her understand, which ain't going to happen. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kerryk Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 The guy is posting from London right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notmyself Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 What does the OP get in return? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wana Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 What does she bring to the table besides the standard equipment? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wana Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 What does the OP get in return? "the standard equipment" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arthurwait Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I still looking for those money trees that grow in Farangland. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justcruisin Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 OMG, just tell her that you will give her the same as a Thai B/F would give her and watch her jump on the next bus out. I cant believe you actually put up with this clap trap from your G/F. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngelofDeath Posted May 2, 2012 Author Share Posted May 2, 2012 I can't see any positive replies at all? She's a very nice lady and she will be a very good wife. She said in her culture, the boyfriend pays for everything. I tried explaining to her that sometimes we can go dutch when we go out for meals. But she said if the boyfriend doesn't pay for the girlfriend, then what's the point of being a boyfriend to a thai lady. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
899cc Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I can't see any positive replies at all? She's a very nice lady and she will be a very good wife. She said in her culture, the boyfriend pays for everything. I tried explaining to her that sometimes we can go dutch when we go out for meals. But she said if the boyfriend doesn't pay for the girlfriend, then what's the point of being a boyfriend to a thai lady. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notmyself Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I can't see any positive replies at all? She's a very nice lady and she will be a very good wife. She said in her culture, the boyfriend pays for everything. I tried explaining to her that sometimes we can go dutch when we go out for meals. But she said if the boyfriend doesn't pay for the girlfriend, then what's the point of being a boyfriend to a thai lady. That's a new one! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokie36 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 Hahahahaha I love it!! Cultural differences eh? The days of multiculturalism are upon us my friend....this scene could be played out from Beijing to Birmingham. Ask yourself what kind of man you are....the answer is coming from the inside. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arthurwait Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I can't see any positive replies at all? She's a very nice lady and she will be a very good wife. She said in her culture, the boyfriend pays for everything. I tried explaining to her that sometimes we can go dutch when we go out for meals. But she said if the boyfriend doesn't pay for the girlfriend, then what's the point of being a boyfriend to a thai lady. Dutch oven ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notmyself Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 What colour car? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KeyserSoze01 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I can't see any positive replies at all? She's a very nice lady and she will be a very good wife. She said in her culture, the boyfriend pays for everything. I tried explaining to her that sometimes we can go dutch when we go out for meals. But she said if the boyfriend doesn't pay for the girlfriend, then what's the point of being a boyfriend to a thai lady. Well, TV is a bit of a Lions Den when it comes to threads like this, so expect more negatives than positives as this story has been repeated ad infinitum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
899cc Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 What colour car? Any colour is ok because she only has standard equipment.............................. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post smokie36 Posted May 2, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted May 2, 2012 Tell your GF you have decide she will have to work harder in order to fulfil her dreams. Therefore you are sending her on a working trip to Australia for a year to pick fruit, dig ditches and generally slog herself silly in the sun. Remind her how great the exchange rate is as well. She will be gagging for it mate! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richard_smith237 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 I can't see any positive replies at all? She's a very nice lady and she will be a very good wife. She said in her culture, the boyfriend pays for everything. I tried explaining to her that sometimes we can go dutch when we go out for meals. But she said if the boyfriend doesn't pay for the girlfriend, then what's the point of being a boyfriend to a thai lady. Some people take a more mercenary approach to financial stability. Your girlfriend is being open and honest in that she is making a career choice above and beyond a choice of the heart, at least she's being honest about the fact that you would not fare well in her list of priorities. If you are young and smart and tick the right boxes (i.e. not a slob) you can meet many ladies in Thailand or anywhere else for that matter who will take a more respectful attitude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngelofDeath Posted May 2, 2012 Author Share Posted May 2, 2012 It seems like the overall consensus is that her expectations are over the top. I thought I was the only one who think that way. But, if you were to look it in another way, her expectations are very challenging. I'm sure most guys wouldn't back down to this type of challenges, isn't it? Yes, I agreed that my girlfriend is being honest. Hopefully I can change her mind. I have 2 years to change her mind. If I choose to break up with her, I am potentially risking losing a very good and rare thai wife. As I mentioned, I am tired of going in and out of relationship. I'm sure some of you felt the same way as I do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreenSnapper Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 What makes you think you can't get a quality woman in your age? You act extremely beta, even omega. Get some Alpha attitudes and make a decent upgrade. Very easy and you'll not look back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokie36 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 It should be a partnership OP. If you are planning to have a family together then that should be her focus...not a bunch of houses and cars. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notmyself Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 It seems like the overall consensus is that her expectations are over the top. I thought I was the only one who think that way. But, if you were to look it in another way, her expectations are very challenging. I'm sure most guys wouldn't back down to this type of challenges, isn't it? Could I do it tomorrow? Yes. Would I ever do it? No Yes, I agreed that my girlfriend is being honest. Hopefully I can change her mind. So that she becomes dishonest? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richard_smith237 Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 It seems like the overall consensus is that her expectations are over the top. I thought I was the only one who think that way. But, if you were to look it in another way, her expectations are very challenging. I'm sure most guys wouldn't back down to this type of challenges, isn't it? I think you have the concept of a challenge a little mixed up. And you are right, most guys wouldn't back down as they have said, they'd run ! Yes, I agreed that my girlfriend is being honest. Hopefully I can change her mind. I have 2 years to change her mind. Are you sure attitudes such as this can change ? If I choose to break up with her, I am potentially risking losing a very good and rare thai wife. There appears to be no rarity in her expectations, but I agree she appears very good, very good for her family etc but at your expense. As I mentioned, I am tired of going in and out of relationship. I'm sure some of you felt the same way as I do. I'm sure some have too, I'm also sure some who got tired of the same thing and succumbed to lack of patience ended up entering into a disappointing marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngelofDeath Posted May 2, 2012 Author Share Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) She said family is very important to her in her culture. She wants to show gratitude to her parents and probably some other relatives for taking good care of her. I guess by building a house for her parents, it's her way of showing gratitude. She would want to let her parents live comfortably since they are aged. I wouldn't fault her for asking me to build a house for her parents. I would do the same thing if I were in her shoe(but of course not fulfilling 4 or 5 items within 2 years). If I choose to use these 2 years to change her mind, I'm not forcing her to be dishonest. I want her to understand that this is OUR future, not her future only. It's midnight here, so I will try to come back and reply tomorrow since you guys have been very helpful and have given me a lot of different perspectives on how to look at this situation. Thank you very much. Edited May 2, 2012 by AngelofDeath Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HardenedSoul Posted May 2, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted May 2, 2012 It seems like the overall consensus is that her expectations are over the top. I thought I was the only one who think that way. But, if you were to look it in another way, her expectations are very challenging. I'm sure most guys wouldn't back down to this type of challenges, isn't it? Yes, I agreed that my girlfriend is being honest. Hopefully I can change her mind. I have 2 years to change her mind. If I choose to break up with her, I am potentially risking losing a very good and rare thai wife. As I mentioned, I am tired of going in and out of relationship. I'm sure some of you felt the same way as I do. Don't be an idiot. It's not a challenge; it's an insult. She would NEVER ask that shit from any Thai man who is or potentially could be in a position to provide what she's asked you for because 1) she'd be terrified of losing him and 2) he'd probably back-hand her. That she's been so brazen and upfront about it shows she has little or no respect for you. Who knows maybe she laid out her terms like that thinking there was no way on this green earth you'd be daft enough to accept. Do yourself a favour and leave this one for the older, fatter, more desperate guys she's probably got on the backburner. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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