DonW Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 Hi I have added a thread to five Thailand based internet forums with regards buying a condo in Bangkok; and on every single one, sometimes via a number of posters, the overarching advice has been DO NOT put the property in my wife's name. I have been married to a Thai for a long time and have some difficulty in understanding why anyone would marry someone they clearly don't trust and, also, what would be the Chap's motivation for entering into such a relationship. With this in mind, I am interested in how the posters met their wives and what has encouraged them to make such decisions. So, if anyone feels like answering please post up where / how you met your wife or girlfriend and if you agree with this advice people are posting. Personally, I have no issues with putting an investment in Thailand or in the UK in my wife's name and I would be interested to know if I am in the minority. Cheers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mossfinn Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 Years ago, when I started travelling, I was told some over arching advice, like only eat what the oldest local is eating. If there has ever been worse advice, I haven't heard it. If you have added 5 threads to 5no Forums on the same subject and they all come back with the same advice, you have two choices, one follow their advice, or two, don't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DonW Posted October 4, 2012 Author Share Posted October 4, 2012 Yes, of course, there are just two options; those being take it or leave it and that goes without saying I think Mossfin. More so, I am interested in the motivators for offering such advice IE DO NOT do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 7by7 Posted October 4, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 4, 2012 Our house in Bangkok is in my wife's name; foreigners can't own land in Thailand. I could take out a lease on the actual house, I suppose, but as I trust my wife, and over the last 12 years she's given me no reason not to (and I hope vice versa), then I can't see why I should bother. Those who say 'Don't put anything in your wife''s name' or 'Protect your assets' are, in my opinion, not married, or if they are; shouldn't be. Having said that, we have all heard horror stories about someone being taken to the cleaners by their Thai wife; but that's not because she's Thai, it happens all over the world. See this topic, for example. As for how a couple met; that's their business. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HansVilder Posted October 4, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 4, 2012 well i met my partner 8yrs ago in a sleezy bar in Chiang Mai. Immediately saw that she was an angel fish in a turd bowl, so yanked her out of it pronto.. now we're happier than ever & everything is in her name. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DonW Posted October 4, 2012 Author Share Posted October 4, 2012 (edited) As for how a couple met; that's their business. In your opinion.....as one could equally argue that discussing who owns which marital assets is also, 'their business' - if you chose not to answer that, then no worries. though, in my opinion, its no big deal. Those who say 'Don't put anything in your wife''s name' or 'Protect your assets' are, in my opinion, not married, or if they are; shouldn't be. Again, in your opinion...... Different strokes for..... Edited October 4, 2012 by DonW Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DonW Posted October 4, 2012 Author Share Posted October 4, 2012 well i met my partner 8yrs ago in a sleezy bar in Chiang Mai. Immediately saw that she was an angel fish in a turd bowl, so yanked her out of it pronto.. now we're happier than ever & everything is in her name. Honest, non-judgmental answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Yooyung Posted October 4, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 4, 2012 Plenty of men in Thailand that shouldnt have trusted in their girlfriends/wives mainly because they were naive idiots that let their small head do the thinking. You wont hear many success stories on this forum as its a place for old farts to vent their spleen. If you are 50 and marry a 22 year old chances are the relationship is not built on anything more than a sad gullible old mans last stand, and a conniving little crumpets greed. In this case buying a house in the other halfs name would not be recommended...and yet you hear the same stories again and again. They will be on here soon enough, telling all and sundry that all Thai women are money grubbing whores, that you cant trust any of them...you read it on here all the time. Anyway on a more positive note. There are decent women in any country( along with a smaller pool of bad ones with a steady supply of idiots to prey on). I trust my wife and her family as much as I would if she were born in my own country, its no different. I choose to associate with decent people, I have a good bullshit detector. If you are a naive that goes there to find love in a bar then you reap what you sow. 17 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HansVilder Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 Honest, non-judgmental answer. yep.. honesty is not something you'll encounter much on this forum when asking such a question. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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wamberal Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 We were introduced by mutual friends, and I would trust her with my life. However, when I first lived in BKK I did the usual thing, fell in love with a girl who worked in a cocktail bar. She was a waitress, not a hooker, but it turned out that she had a mother with a gambling habit who was manipulating her into getting into a relationship with a wealthy (comparatively) farang, and then milking him for all he was worth. She did get a few million baht out of me, but after I ended the relationship she has fallen on pretty hard times, and I actually feel sorry for her. My wife and I are very happy, and I would earnestly recommend that anybody thinking about marrying somebody from a totally different culture, try to make sure that you actually have some people in that culture whose opinions you trust, and get a second opinion, before doing anything major like getting married, or buying property in your girl-friend's name. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiang mai Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 Have been with my wife for nine years and have no problem puting anything/everything in her name if need be, we don't own property but at present but we have one (of many) bank accounts in joint names with over 4 million baht in it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post GuestHouse Posted October 4, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 4, 2012 I have added a thread to five Thailand based internet forums with regards buying a condo in Bangkok; and on every single one, sometimes via a number of posters, the overarching advice has been DO NOT put the property in my wife's name. I have been married to a Thai for a long time and have some difficulty in understanding why anyone would marry someone they clearly don't trust and, also, what would be the Chap's motivation for entering into such a relationship. You assume the advice being given is based on a lack of trust. I may not be. The fact is that the property laws here in Thailand are weighted against foreigners - you can have the most trusting, loving, caring, wholesome relationship possible with your wife - everything can be perfect. If however tragedy strikes, you loose your wife through illness or an accident (I pray this never happens) - You might very well find you loose your property too. So trust does not necessarily have anything to do with the reason you are being given this advice. Trust should of course have a part in your decisions - just make sure its not convincing you to make the wrong decision because you want to demonstrate others are wrong (when as I have shown above you might be misreading their advice). 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kennedy Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 The house I live in is in my step son's name, and financed in his name. All I do is make the payments.Could walk away anytime I wanted, but will not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post lovelomsak Posted October 5, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 5, 2012 (edited) I met my first wife through friends she is a Thai language teacher for mattyom 6 students.Her first husband was a professor at Naresuan University. She was the worst money grubbing demanding, selfish woman I ever met (makes me sound bitter huh). I blame myself for not getting to know her better before marrying and have no regrets. I gave her the house by the way. Now I have gf who will be my wife. I met her at a Christian school where she teachs anuban 1 (babysitter is more the job,anuban1 is 2 and 3 year olds). Her previous husband was a local tesabaan employee,with a decent job. But he was a drunk,gambler and didnot take care of his family. She takes great care of me worries about me and will not let me do a thing that she can do for me. We are looking for land or house and land and I have no interest in having nothing more than the opportunity to live and share the home with her. If we do breakup the house is hers for the good years she gave me. I have no problem with that. I trust her and love her, so I donot concern myself with or waste my time worrying about the future and how it may playout. Edited October 5, 2012 by lovelomsak 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
banglay Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 (edited) I had two long time relationships in the UK the first marriage producing 2 great kid (lasting13 yrs) the second long term partner (12yrs no kids ) both with properties in join names ...I thought both relationship were going to live the test of time ...I was WRONG!...even with the laws in the UK I had to fright to get a fair deal.One of the splits started off amicable and by mutual consent but once the assets started to get assessed it became a bloody battle to get my 50% ..So with my experience and with all the good intentions in the world not every relationship is going to work (THAT IS A FACT). And when money is involved it can and does get dirty ..Thai women are no different from any other woman on this planet ....I would protect my/yourself to the best your abilities using lots of common sense and Thailand Law . A quote :- Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned ..........( how right is that ) Edited October 5, 2012 by banglay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaikelly Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 Yes, of course, there are just two options; those being take it or leave it and that goes without saying I think Mossfin. More so, I am interested in the motivators for offering such advice IE DO NOT do it. You asked how did I meet my wife. OK. First tell us how you met your wife. Not that anyone will believe you but it is only fair that you tell us before we tell you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TommoPhysicist Posted October 5, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 5, 2012 I live on my wife's farm, it's in her name because it's her farm. Jeez, why do you guys all marry women who own nothing, then buy them everything? 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gazmat Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 I met my wife (who originally hails from a small town on the banks of the Mekong in the north of Isaan) in Wolverhampton. We both worked for an international finance corporation and she was on a fact-finding assignment in the UK. Now, 8 years later, we live in Bangkok, she working as a Banker, while I bring up our son. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samran Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 I met my wife on a rugby pitch. Our first kiss was in a gay bar off Silom a few nights later. We now have two stunning daughters. We own property in Australia, but never got around to getting anything in Thailand beyond our car. If it was in Thailand, it any land would all be in my name perhaps mixed with my daughters, till my wife's Thai citizenship application came through. I bet I've confused the crap out of a bunch of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Songhua Posted October 5, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 5, 2012 I met my wife on a rugby pitch. Our first kiss was in a gay bar off Silom a few nights later. We now have two stunning daughters. We own property in Australia, but never got around to getting anything in Thailand beyond our car. If it was in Thailand, it any land would all be in my name perhaps mixed with my daughters, till my wife's Thai citizenship application came through. I bet I've confused the crap out of a bunch of you. Lol. Not at all samran. You like rugby, frequent gay bars and four of you live in a car. 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samran Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 Songhua, must admit, it feels like that sometimes. 555 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barefoot1988 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 in an accident. she destroyed my rear and dent the subframe while i was riding. she was in the wrong and uninsured, so took a ride in her car searching for nearby motorshop. was a hard search for a subframe, so we agreed to look for metal workshop for repairs instead of a replacement another day and exchanged numbers. later on, some relationship developed when we were searching for workshops. started off having lunch while searching workshops then i ask her out for movies and eventually we went out together during loy krathong. till date the bike never really got repaired 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaicbr Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 in an accident. she destroyed my rear and dent the subframe while i was riding. she was in the wrong and uninsured, so took a ride in her car searching for nearby motorshop. was a hard search for a subframe, so we agreed to look for metal workshop for repairs instead of a replacement another day and exchanged numbers. later on, some relationship developed when we were searching for workshops. started off having lunch while searching workshops then i ask her out for movies and eventually we went out together during loy krathong. till date the bike never really got repaired So your lady is actually a ladyboy who destroyed your rear. You couldn't walk after so took a drive in HER car :D:p:p sent from my Wellcom A90+ 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaikelly Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 in an accident. she destroyed my rear and dent the subframe while i was riding. she was in the wrong and uninsured, so took a ride in her car searching for nearby motorshop. was a hard search for a subframe, so we agreed to look for metal workshop for repairs instead of a replacement another day and exchanged numbers. later on, some relationship developed when we were searching for workshops. started off having lunch while searching workshops then i ask her out for movies and eventually we went out together during loy krathong.till date the bike never really got repaired So your lady is actually a ladyboy who destroyed your rear. You couldn't walk after so took a drive in HER car sent from my Wellcom A90+ Do you wonder why people don't like you? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rattler Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 I have added a thread to five Thailand based internet forums with regards buying a condo in Bangkok; and on every single one, sometimes via a number of posters, the overarching advice has been DO NOT put the property in my wife's name.I have been married to a Thai for a long time and have some difficulty in understanding why anyone would marry someone they clearly don't trust and, also, what would be the Chap's motivation for entering into such a relationship. You assume the advice being given is based on a lack of trust. I may not be. The fact is that the property laws here in Thailand are weighted against foreigners - you can have the most trusting, loving, caring, wholesome relationship possible with your wife - everything can be perfect. If however tragedy strikes, you loose your wife through illness or an accident (I pray this never happens) - You might very well find you loose your property too. So trust does not necessarily have anything to do with the reason you are being given this advice. Trust should of course have a part in your decisions - just make sure its not convincing you to make the wrong decision because you want to demonstrate others are wrong (when as I have shown above you might be misreading their advice). Worry more about the family hangers on than the Wife. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barefoot1988 Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 in an accident. she destroyed my rear and dent the subframe while i was riding. she was in the wrong and uninsured, so took a ride in her car searching for nearby motorshop. was a hard search for a subframe, so we agreed to look for metal workshop for repairs instead of a replacement another day and exchanged numbers. later on, some relationship developed when we were searching for workshops. started off having lunch while searching workshops then i ask her out for movies and eventually we went out together during loy krathong.till date the bike never really got repaired So your lady is actually a ladyboy who destroyed your rear. You couldn't walk after so took a drive in HER car sent from my Wellcom A90+ true except the ladyboy part 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RealisticRon Posted October 5, 2012 Share Posted October 5, 2012 What happens if you stick everything in your wife's name and you trust her more the anything in the world and have no other reason not to but then, over time, as the years go by, you drift apart she needs to go "find herself" and you end up hating each others guts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chiangmaikelly Posted October 5, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted October 5, 2012 What happens if you stick everything in your wife's name and you trust her more the anything in the world and have no other reason not to but then, over time, as the years go by, you drift apart she needs to go "find herself" and you end up hating each others guts? You get a divorce and come to Thailand. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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