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I repeat the old US joke which I think was a Johnny Carson quip after about his 4th divorce. He said from now on rather than getting married, he was just going to find some woman he hated and buy her a house.

I thought it was Rod Stewart, with a woman he 'didn't like very much'

No it was me.biggrin.png

Actually the story had a happy ending. The ex found a guy with ranch, ocean house and another couple of properties, so she gave the house to my daughter who lives there now. I put a lot of work into the house but don't mind as long as my daughter is living there.

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I repeat the old US joke which I think was a Johnny Carson quip after about his 4th divorce. He said from now on rather than getting married, he was just going to find some woman he hated and buy her a house.

I thought it was Rod Stewart, with a woman he 'didn't like very much'

You could be right - I don't remember for sure but the lesson stuck with me.

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Songhua, must admit, it feels like that sometimes. 555

Have you thought about putting the car on bricks instead of tyres ?

Nothing so low class. Going to whole hog and getting a caravan with a canvas extension.

Lugxure.

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What cant go in my name does not get bought, car and motor bikes in my name, house well i would never buy a land where it could not go in my name. I own a house in the UK 100% legally in my name, i rent it out and that more than covers rent on what i rent here.

Was with wife 9 years no hint of trouble but family pressure meant we split, i was suspiciois so i paid truck fianance off early and got it in my name pronto...

Would i put every thing 100% into a parters name at home country NO, especially if the other half has not contibuted a single baht to it. , so why would i do it here. Yes to many horror stories, all is milk and honey for 12-15 years then pop, ya toast without a pot to urinate in.

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It seems that there are a lot of wise men here, looking out for themselves very well and taking good care of their wealth. Don't be surprised to wake up one morning to find that your wife / gf whatever has walked out on you.

Most women, be they Thai, Chinese or farang, look to a man for financial security. They cook for you, wash your clothes, have sex with you - in return, they (rightly) expect that you will (financially) take care of them (and their extended families if that is the culture and tradition of their society). They also expect that you will "invest" in their future financial security when you kick the bucket before them (which in most cases, will happen just because you are older).

I have built a house for my son, wife (and her family). Car is in her name as are the two bikes. I have loaned out 500,000 bht to a close family friend (chanotes with my wife). I have loaned 800,000 bht to her cousin to purchase a pickup for her business. I have also loaned various other people smaller amounts of money. So what happens if she leaves one day or kick me out? I know that my son has more money / property / assets than most of the other kids in the village and that his education is at least secured. I can easily start again, as I did after my divorce from my British wife (I still pay for my other kids' education back in the UK plus various other expenses such as annual holidays to Asia, ski trips to America etc etc).

It's very easy to live this philosophy as long as you believe in karma. Whatever happens to me this life is a result of my previous life and whatever I do in this life will determine my fate in my next life. I know a lot of posters will think me nutters but as of now, I have never been happier with life.

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I have been married to a Thai for a long time and have some difficulty in understanding why anyone would marry someone they clearly don't trust

There are nummerous threads on this board that answer your question, unfortunately most of them are in the News Forum and have condolences through out the thread.

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Plenty of men in Thailand that shouldnt have trusted in their girlfriends/wives mainly because they were naive idiots that let their small head do the thinking. You wont hear many success stories on this forum as its a place for old farts to vent their spleen. If you are 50 and marry a 22 year old chances are the relationship is not built on anything more than a sad gullible old mans last stand, and a conniving little crumpets greed. In this case buying a house in the other halfs name would not be recommended...and yet you hear the same stories again and again. They will be on here soon enough, telling all and sundry that all Thai women are money grubbing whores, that you cant trust any of them...you read it on here all the time.

Anyway on a more positive note. There are decent women in any country( along with a smaller pool of bad ones with a steady supply of idiots to prey on). I trust my wife and her family as much as I would if she were born in my own country, its no different. I choose to associate with decent people, I have a good bullshit detector. If you are a naive that goes there to find love in a bar then you reap what you sow.

Hmmmmmmmmmmm, well, l would put you at the top of my list to come unstuck, dumped.

Why, your attitude. You think your no.1, NOBODY, farang, is no.1 sad.png

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I met her after reading the first version of this thread some years ago. Is it already the short skirt season or has the order of perpetually appearing threads changed ?

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There's NO way I'm going to do the Thai thing and put a lot of assets in some woman's name. That's IF I get married which I

You may want to reconsider marrying 'some woman'.

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It seems that there are a lot of wise men here, looking out for themselves very well and taking good care of their wealth. Don't be surprised to wake up one morning to find that your wife / gf whatever has walked out on you.

Most women, be they Thai, Chinese or farang, look to a man for financial security. They cook for you, wash your clothes, have sex with you - in return, they (rightly) expect that you will (financially) take care of them (and their extended families if that is the culture and tradition of their society). They also expect that you will "invest" in their future financial security when you kick the bucket before them (which in most cases, will happen just because you are older).

I have built a house for my son, wife (and her family). Car is in her name as are the two bikes. I have loaned out 500,000 bht to a close family friend (chanotes with my wife). I have loaned 800,000 bht to her cousin to purchase a pickup for her business. I have also loaned various other people smaller amounts of money. So what happens if she leaves one day or kick me out? I know that my son has more money / property / assets than most of the other kids in the village and that his education is at least secured. I can easily start again, as I did after my divorce from my British wife (I still pay for my other kids' education back in the UK plus various other expenses such as annual holidays to Asia, ski trips to America etc etc).

It's very easy to live this philosophy as long as you believe in karma. Whatever happens to me this life is a result of my previous life and whatever I do in this life will determine my fate in my next life. I know a lot of posters will think me nutters but as of now, I have never been happier with life.

With all due respect, why have you loaned out so much money to so many people? Would you have done this in the UK, Its beyond me as I work to the rule never lending money to friends and family whatever their nationality is.

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The land I built on was my sister-in-law's land. Now it's in my daughter's name. The house I built is also in my Thai daughter's name. We built right next to my wife's parent's house. Have known them for 3 years and I trust them. My marriage is solid.

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Plenty of men in Thailand that shouldnt have trusted in their girlfriends/wives mainly because they were naive idiots that let their small head do the thinking. You wont hear many success stories on this forum as its a place for old farts to vent their spleen. If you are 50 and marry a 22 year old chances are the relationship is not built on anything more than a sad gullible old mans last stand, and a conniving little crumpets greed. In this case buying a house in the other halfs name would not be recommended...and yet you hear the same stories again and again. They will be on here soon enough, telling all and sundry that all Thai women are money grubbing whores, that you cant trust any of them...you read it on here all the time.

Anyway on a more positive note. There are decent women in any country( along with a smaller pool of bad ones with a steady supply of idiots to prey on). I trust my wife and her family as much as I would if she were born in my own country, its no different. I choose to associate with decent people, I have a good bullshit detector. If you are a naive that goes there to find love in a bar then you reap what you sow.

met my 1st wife in a bar she was English and took me to the cleaners wonder how many people met there falang wife ex wife in a bar same tent different desert
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Married to wife for 10 years, lot's of kids since. Ups and downs but on the whole the best decision i ever made coming to Thailand and marrying my wife i only new her for 3 weeks before we signed the paper.

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