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Don't Tell Mates The Thai Truth

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i am very happy the OP posted this, as i have been dwelling on how to vent what has just recently happened to me ..first off yes u did the right thing 100% ...

I recently had the same scenario but as fate would have it , i did not get to tell my friend the truth ...he was an American and worked on deep sea fishing boats , i dont warm to yanks generally but he was a good guy , anyway he had been in a relationship with my wifes girlfriend for nearly a year , he came back and forth every few months , meanwhile she had a restaurant and worked away at that , we frequented the place while he was away and most of the time everything seemed normal , she spoke of her love for him and showed of the gold and goodies he purchased for her , they apparently planned to marry buy land on the island etc etc ... anyway my wife spotted a Thai guy floating around more and more at the restaurant , when questioned she dismissed it as an old friend , meanwhile my wife returned to the farm and i stayed alone and continued to eat there , i watched her become more familiar with tourists ,it began to puzzle me why would she do this ? she has a business , money , a good guy and a future ... then one night i was sitting alone and an english guy asked to join me at the table , on holidays he had met the lady in question a month prior and had been living with her for two weeks ...i thought <deleted> ,,,, i was polite finished and left the place , rang my wife told her , she could not believe it .... when she rang and questioned her the next day it was denial denial denial....... anyway i decided when he came i would tell him the truth ... so as it turned out the day he arrived i flew out , i waved to him and told him i would return in two weeks , that week a party was held at the restaurant to celebrate one year of business , he got smashed beyond belief ,rode his scooter home alone and collided driving on the wrong side of the road with two Thais on another scooter , he died instantly , one of the Thai also died , the other is basically disabled for life ... i cannot condone anyone drinking and driving and killing innocent people .... however at the party he found out about his love cheating on him not just with one guy , but with 4 !!!! that would tip anyone over the edge ... the cold hearted bitch carried on life as usual with the odd crocodile tear , but one by one her friends deserted her as did we ... the crunch came for me when the guy from england contacted me on FB ... shortly after the event .. i asked him ..hey do u realise what has happened over here with your female friend ? he said no , i spoke with her on the phone yesterday and she seemed fine ..so i told him the truth ... i hunted down the other 3 and told them the same ... the sad thing is his body remained unclaimed and was cremated at the temple and she did not even attend ... i hate to say this but please guys when it comes to Thai ladies enter at your own risk ..this caused a huge trust issue in my own relationship and things may never be the same ... i feel very sad not too have told him, but i figured it was better face to face, i just did not get the chance .... anyway thats my story ..i have much more to add but why bore u ...

Nice story but "I generally do.t warm to yanks"

What a stupid thing to say

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sorry if your a yank but its the truth..... so whats stupid about the truth ?

American by birth, southern by the grace of god

I ain't no yank, son

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Lost count of how many times I have seen the phrase "Thai wife" on here. Isn't that wrong too? Thai wife and farang husband. Is that OK?

Most Thais use the word without any malice at all.

Thai wife and English husband = no problem.

hooker and farang = problem

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You should tell someone, friend or not, Thai or "Farang" that they are being lied to/robbed blind/cheated on. It is your moral obligation.

4 years ago I nicked a tenner off the wife so I could slip off to the pub with my cousin and the blighter grassed me up when we got home and I stil lget aggro for that.....

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KT ..so u should not be offended then ... what was your point of posting in the first place ?

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KT ..so u should not be offended then ... what was your point of posting in the first place ?

Point in the first place is that saying you don't generally warm to a person because of their nationality is stupid, in my opinion.

Second point is "yank" is a stupid word when referring to Americans, especially considering a huge chunk of the population would be offended by being called a yank, and by definition, are not "yanks."

Does that answer your question?

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"Shoot the Messenger" happens back home as well. While

I'm not defending the adulterous Thai wife;however, leave out the reference to her nationality and, sadly, this story coluld be told about buddies at home and many other countries...

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You should tell someone, friend or not, Thai or "Farang" that they are being lied to/robbed blind/cheated on. It is your moral obligation.

4 years ago I nicked a tenner off the wife so I could slip off to the pub with my cousin and the blighter [who?] grassed me up when we got home and I still get aggro for that.....[from whom?]

I think what you're saying here might be interesting so I truly want to know. However, I'm sorry, I don't understand a thing you said.

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Had the same experience recently.

A banker from Belgium fell in love with a young Khon Kaen woman from a Pattaya bar.

He decided to marry her for 1 million Baht sinsod and build her a house around Khon Kaen for another 1 million Baht.

On my advise that he doesn't have to pay sinsod for a bar girl he ignored my advise and told me he will bring her over to Belgium. After he married her in a traditional marriage he flown back to Belgium and took care of sponsoring her to join him in Belgium. I told him he is in dream world if he really think that she would join him in Belgium as she is just 23 years old and she could get 3 or 4 more paying farangs to play the same show with.

He didn't wanted to listen and two weeks ago he called me and said that his wife changed the phone number and the parents said she went back to Pattaya as she doesn't wanted to stay in Belgium. His heart is broken but he doesn't really care about the money he lost but the way the lady treated him.

All I could say to him, for the next time make your homework and find a good lady but stay away from bars and don't flash any money around as it attracts the vulture's.

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Isan spelt many different ways seems to be the most dangerous are of Thailand in my opinion for being "taken for a ride" Something in the genes up in that area. Of course there are few exceptions to every rule. You may be one of them. I am a contractor and all the people that I know married to Thais from this area seem to spending huge sums of money supporting extended families back in LOS.

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Isan spelt many different ways seems to be the most dangerous are of Thailand in my opinion for being "taken for a ride" Something in the genes up in that area. Of course there are few exceptions to every rule. You may be one of them. I am a contractor and all the people that I know married to Thais from this area seem to spending huge sums of money supporting extended families back in LOS.

No shit Sherlock, well spotted.

There are two towns in that area that as soon as I hear the name mentioned, I think to myself, good gawd here we go again.

Yeah sure you met her working in the bank in Pattaya, how many bank clerks have you ever seen in Thailand with the word, sex tattooed on the back of their hand in one inch high letters.

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I am only speaking for myself here; talking about 'the farang' is different than being addressed as 'farang'.

If someone addresses me as "farang" I simply ignore them. Though sometimes, depending on their tone, I include a stern glance.

How should a person who speaks no English address you?

"Khun" or "Khun, khrap."

they can also use Ajarn, Nai, Nong, Pee, Lung ...........according to your occupation, apparent status or age.

Ah, the good old Ajarn, probably the most overused and missappropriated phrase heard on these shores.

I have heard of, "wan kru", never heard of "wan ajarn"

Most farang should consider themselves lucky to be called ajarn, the truth is its doubtful if they even posses the qualifications to be called kru, never mind, good old face at play.

Anyway for the previous poster, pee krap.

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First on topic-- I was a "Navy Brat". Lived near Navy bases much of my younger years. The young married enlisted lived inone section of the Navy housing. When the men would get shipped out for 7 months and longer on ship, everything would be quiet for the first two months, then all hell would break loose. "compac wifes" they were called. Anyway, if you are going to have a young wife or girlfriend, and you are going to leave them alone for many months, it doesn't matter where you live or the nationality of the wife. Don't be surprised to find out somethings been going on.

Off subject. I too was born in the South (over looking Fort Sumter). I think of myself as a Farang, Gringo, and Yes, Yank (the South lost over 100 years ago--get over itrolleyes.gif ). I think my country man is saying is that the US is a vast country with people of very different walks of life. I am sure you have a image in your mind of what a Yank is, but you have no idea of what a Cajun, Nebraskan farmer, or Maine lobster fisherman have or don't have in common. How stupid is it for me to say I don't warm up to Europeans.

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KT ..so u should not be offended then ... what was your point of posting in the first place ?

Point in the first place is that saying you don't generally warm to a person because of their nationality is stupid, in my opinion.

Second point is "yank" is a stupid word when referring to Americans, especially considering a huge chunk of the population would be offended by being called a yank, and by definition, are not "yanks."

Does that answer your question?

As the saying goes....'You can't handle the truth'.

Everytime anyone mentions a septic tank (yank) in conversation with anyone I know there is an audible groan. I don't think they realise how much a lot of people really just dislike them.

Farang? My dear, who really gets their knickers in a twist about being called Farang. cheesy.gif

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First on topic-- I was a "Navy Brat". Lived near Navy bases much of my younger years. The young married enlisted lived inone section of the Navy housing. When the men would get shipped out for 7 months and longer on ship, everything would be quiet for the first two months, then all hell would break loose. "compac wifes" they were called. Anyway, if you are going to have a young wife or girlfriend, and you are going to leave them alone for many months, it doesn't matter where you live or the nationality of the wife. Don't be surprised to find out somethings been going on.

Off subject. I too was born in the South (over looking Fort Sumter). I think of myself as a Farang, Gringo, and Yes, Yank (the South lost over 100 years ago--get over itrolleyes.gif ). I think my country man is saying is that the US is a vast country with people of very different walks of life. I am sure you have a image in your mind of what a Yank is, but you have no idea of what a Cajun, Nebraskan farmer, or Maine lobster fisherman have or don't have in common. How stupid is it for me to say I don't warm up to Europeans.

Hang on a minute, looks for Skynyrd cd, pops in SHA, yeah sure "the south will rise again".

Even my friends in Cairo County Sth Georgia laugh at this stuff.

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If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life

Never make a pretty woman your wife

So from my personal point of view

Get an ugly girl to marry you

A pretty woman makes her husband look small

And very often causes his downfall

As soon as he marries her then she starts

To do the things that will break his heart

But if you make an ugly woman your wife

you'll be happy for the rest of your life

An ugly woman cooks meals on time

And she'll always give you peace of mind

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life

Never make a pretty woman your wife

So from my personal point of view

Get an ugly girl to marry you

Lyrics from a very good song. I do not know the name of the band though. Edited by rsokolowski

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