First Serious Thai Gf: Help Plz Cheating

[farang254]

This is my first time posting. Been living In bkk for 3 years as a
teacher, from the US. Have a story about a girl I was dating. I would
love some feedback.

I met this thai girl in June on a dating website. We talked for awhile
on whatsapp, then she stopped talking to me cause she said she had a
bf. I would randomly try to talk to her still and see if she wanted
to meet up.

Finally in December we decided to meet at Terminal 21. We decided to get
dinner. When I met her she was with a super gay Thai guy and she has
already eaten dinner. I felt annoyed already. Within 5 minutes she
had asked me if I was interested In her gay friend. She seemed rude
so I was about to just walk away within 5 minutes. I stayed instead,
we got coffee, I paid for all.

We then got talking, she seemed uncomfortable at first but then seemed

to be interested in me (Flirty hitting). At this time I wasn't sure
if she was still dating her bf, but it came up later that she was.
Finally her gay friend left and we stayed and talked for a few hours.
She told me how bad her farang bf was, she caught him cheating 4
times and he didn't treat her well, and that she was too weak to
leave him but wanted to. As we talked I honestly thought I could see
myself really dating her. Not just playing with her, like I had done
with all other Thai girls in the past.

The next day she wanted to meet. We got lunch and she came back to my

place, only kissed. The next day we slept together. It was great. We
hung out for a few more weeks. Shes only 21, in uni, and was living
in the dorms. Her bf was 32. I'm 27.

On new years eve I get a call from her. She tells me her bf found out we

were hanging out and he broke up with her. She had to get her stuff
out of his condo. I find out that shes actually living with him. So,
she stays at my place for a week, then moves in with her police
brother. None of her family knew she was living with him, they
thought she was still living in the dorm.

So we go on to date and develop a somewhat serious relationship. I never

felt back about the ex bf stuff because he cheated first, and in my
eyes the relationship is ruined when someone cheats.

2-3 months in she tells me she wants to be alone. Likes me a lot but

needs to be happy on her own. A week goes by, she said she was
stupid, wants to be with me. (But she actually went back to her ex
and asked him to take her back, he said no: he was her first farang
love). So I say OK. Things are awesome for next about 2 months. She
seems to be a good gf, staying with me most nights of the week

This is now where things get crazy!

I booked a ticket for songkran to go abroad for a week (booked before
knew her) so I was going alone. She was a little worried I would
cheat, which I wasn't going to and actually didn't. I was in love
with this girl and never even wanted to cheat.

I arrive at my hotel abroad, get text from my buddy who lives at my gfs
ex bfs condo saying he might have just seen her there, I ask , she
was wearing green high heels. I right away sent a whatsapp to my gf
and she swears it wasn't her. I ask her to swear on her nieces life,
she goes onto swear on her entire families life, including hers, that
it wasn't her. I feel weird all week on holiday but try to trust her.
(Things had been going so great with her, I should just trust)

So,I come to find out it was for sure her at my buddies condo. Wont go
into detail how. Find out shes sleeping with him still. I ask her and
she starts crying, saying it was a huge mistake, saying she loves me
and wants to marry me and will never see him again. I try to forgive
because im crazy about this girl.

Sunday April 21 I get back to bkk. She picks me up at airport. Go hang out

at my place, eat, she sleeps over, and we talk all night. She tells
me how sorry she feels and how stupid she was and how im the best bf
ever and she will never cheat on me again. I believe her and forgive.

Monday I go to work, and don't see her all day or night. Tuesday I see a pic

of her on fbook, and she has her sleepover purse bag which she brings
to mine when she sleeps over. I freak out, after work I go over,
confront her, and she said she just had extra clothes cause she went
to RCA with friends. I say OK, relax. She goes to bathroom, and a
text comes in. it says “Hey are you still at my hotel? Coming back
now”. I go apesh!tt. She tells me she drank too much and her friend
and her stayed at this hotel and that she kissed but thats all. Still
angry I want to break up, I then grab phone later and see that this
guy has been fbook messaging her too. I get upset ask her <deleted>, she
admits she slept with him twice when I was abroad, so she literally
now has slept with me,ex, and another new guy in a week. During all
this shes crying, telling me she loves me, and how great I am. In the
meantime, I punch a hole in the wall of her bedroom lol.

The worst part was I then saw the fbook times when she was messaging this

guy to meet Monday. They met and slept together first time meeting,
met on fbook. Then spent all day Monday before going to RCA, she got
a wax first, which I paid for. She was making plans Sunday night
when she was with me, after telling me she loves me and will never
hurt me again. I have said goodbye and haven't talked since Tuesday
Yesterday she probably called 5 times and sent me like 300 texts
saying sorry, I love you, I want to marry you, ill never cheat again,
you are the best thing that has ever happened to me. I haven't
responded to any of them

Im still in shock that she did this to me, ive met her family numerous

times, and she tells me they really like me. Thought I had a future
with her, but it must have been all lies from day 1. I just don't
understand, I wasn't giving her money. Id pay for everything but I
wasn't paying out of the A$$.

I don't think ill ever trust a Thai girl, or any girl again. I was so

good to her, never cheated. Sorry for the long message

I would love to hear your thoughts please!!!

[USNret]

Why would you waste time with someone who can't be trusted (and who doesn't trust you)? Get out now & find yourself a healthy relationship elsewhere. You are 27 and acting like a 15-year-old.

[canman]

On the off chance that this is a serious post:

You got trapped by a lying cheating Bi7ch. All the signs were there early, you either chose to ignor them or you were naive. Don't let the little head rule the big head!

Treat it as a life lesson, don't let it spoil your opinion of all women.

You will get over it. When she calls you and asks for one more chance, invite her over, shag her and then kick her to the curb.

Edited April 25, 2013 by canman

[Pormax]

Well I for one could never trust someone like that. Once bitten twice shy.

This is one of the big problems with things like facebook, easy for the girls to meet other men and cheat on you.

If they have done this in the past it is more than likely they will do it again especially if you are not here all the time.

Another sad story, but there are good ladies out there.

My advice is forget the facebook relationships and move on.

[ozsamurai]

Try tit-for-tat, make sure you screw someone for everyone she does, and she knows it. Either way, she stops or you get more tail, win win.

Oz

[itchybum]

Can you give a simple 2 line brief of the OP please.

[Loptr]

How many times have we heard variations of this same story? I believe I'm seeing a pattern here.

[Mighty Mouse]

On the off chance that this is a serious post:

[farang254]

can thai girls be trusted or what? do they cheat just as much as thai guys? pathetic

[canman]

Can you give a simple 2 line brief of the OP please.

Guy meets girl

Girl cheats on guy

Guy dumps girl and lives happily ever after

[canman]

can thai girls be trusted or what? do they cheat just as much as thai guys? pathetic

There is good an bad everywhere

[richard_smith237]

Can you give a simple 2 line brief of the OP please.

Naive guy meets girl from internet, she's rude, she cheats, she walks all over him, but he likes her (narcissistic). He continues to pursue the relationship, he loves her, she lies and plays around more. She's now seen more penises than American Standard. He's now hurt and doesn't trust Thai women thinking they may all be the same.

[Payboy]

I would love to hear your thoughts please!!!

Green high heels! Absolutely horrific.

[itchybum]

Can you give a simple 2 line brief of the OP please.

Naive guy meets girl from internet, she's rude, she cheats, she walks all over him, but he likes her (narcissistic). He continues to pursue the relationship, he loves her, she lies and plays around more. She's now seen more penises than American Standard. He's now hurt and doesn't trust Thai women thinking they may all be the same.

Thanks. But is she a good shag?

I would love to hear your thoughts please!!!

Green high heels! Absolutely horrific.

She must like frogs.

Hope the Op ain't French.

[supashot]

can thai girls be trusted or what? do they cheat just as much as thai guys? pathetic

Welcome to real world my friend.

[Songhua]

What colour is your underwear and what do you like for breakfast?

[KhunNene]

When I met her she was with a super gay Thai guy

Hej, in what context is this "super" to be understood, like superman? How do you know he was gay? Did you realized that he was gay because he was a guy?

[rsokolowski]

From your post you obviously knew something was not right from the beginning. Always trust your initial intuition, it will be correct most of the time. Run away and never look back.

[BookMan]

Can you give a simple 2 line brief of the OP please.

Naive guy meets girl from internet, she's rude, she cheats, she walks all over him, but he likes her (narcissistic). He continues to pursue the relationship, he loves her, she lies and plays around more. She's now seen more penises than American Standard. He's now hurt and doesn't trust Thai women thinking they may all be the same.

A very reasonable summation of events.

[BookMan]

This can't be a serious thread from the OP.

No one can be that pathetic in real life, can they?

[Sharp]

U don't want the thoughts most of us will give u so let's be nice and say move on my boy find someone else or give me her number lets see if I can take her out just to show u she isn't worth it .

Sent from my iPad using ThaiVisa app

[rubberduck]

I have 4 ex-Thai girlfriends, all 4 are still best friends, like sisters, none of them have ever cheated on me (far as I know but no reason to think so), none of them ever was out on my money or expensive gifts, they all had respectable jobs and a good income, 2 of them married another foreigner now but we still contact eachother. All 4 were very loyal to me, I trusted them 100%. The last of the 4 I met via a datingsite, she was a lovely girl too. Never had any serious arguments with the gf's and we respected eachother. At some point however there were little reasons to end the bf/gf relationship and go on as friends, maybe also because I love my freedom a lot.

But the wrong choices so many farang men make all the time with low-life bargirls and datinggirls etc. then on one day start complaining and asking for advise on ThaiVisa because they got a 'no guarantee model'... amazing !!! Perhaps this farangs better go home because Thailand is way too dangerous for them, bad girls prey on types like you !

Good luck with the next one, hopefully she will be a nice one who loves and respects you for who you are, because there are a lot of good ones.

Edited April 25, 2013 by rubberduck

[transam]

Give the guy a break.

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[Morakot]

she literally now has slept with me,ex, and another new guy in a week.

Yesterday she probably called 5 times and sent me like 300 texts saying sorry, I love you, I want to marry you, ill never cheat again, you are the best thing that has ever happened to me.

From your description, she sounds seriously confused about her emotions and rather susceptible to manipulation; if not she might be a compulsive liar.

Edited April 25, 2013 by Morakot

[rubberduck]

[chrisinth]

OP, does her family keep buffaloes? And more to the point if they do, are they in good health?

If you continue this relationship, eventually you will understand the above questions.................

Pack your bags Bud, become a shepherd. Get the flock out of there!!

However, I think canman called it right earlier:

"On the off chance that this is a serious post"

[itchybum]

This can't be a serious thread from the OP.

No one can be that pathetic in real life, can they?

Have you ever watched those daytime talk shows?

[transam]

This can't be a serious thread from the OP.

No one can be that pathetic in real life, can they?

Have you ever watched those daytime talk shows?

Yes, I bought some wide trouser braces too.

[rucus7]

Kids, Go figure. Sounds like a bad Thai soap opera.

[BookMan]

This can't be a serious thread from the OP.

No one can be that pathetic in real life, can they?

Have you ever watched those daytime talk shows?

I have to confess I have