Popular Post sunholidaysun1 Posted May 29, 2013 Author Popular Post Share Posted May 29, 2013 Today has been a day in bed getting exactly what I needed , sleep . I am medicating myself which seems to be holding off the pain , the other pain being my Ex wife was given her marching orders when she visited today , so hopefully thats another pain in the Butt out of the way and aiding my recovery . I am happy in myself with the situation , I cant be anything less as long as the Dr's here havent bullshitted me into what they know or think they do . I can only now go on the results from the operation which I get on sunday and from the information I have managed to obtain via searching on the internet . The CT Scan itself is the evidence nd therefore the Dr was right in doing what he did on Sunday . The rest of the information doesnt look good for me but I will not know the exact extent of the damage to the liver until Sunday . What I also found online was that no blood tests or general health check would show the problem I had internally , hense all my 6 monthly health / blood tests being normal and the reason why no Dr had any reason to doubt what was on the reports . Eventually the Liver would just pack up completely and I would imagine death would follow rapidly . I cant so or say anything more as I have to wait and see what they say on Sunday but I will be getting a 2nd opinion from someone in the UK who I have already sent all my hospital findings /Ct reports etc . I would like to thank all of you for your kind words and support at this difficult time for me , it helps to know even being on my own that there are people in this world that do actually give a shit . Thanks to you all . SUN 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChinChanGamble Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Delighted to see you back in action! Hope the rest works out from here on in! Sent from my LT26i using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sunholidaysun1 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Popular Post Share Posted June 2, 2013 Today is the big day , I get the staples out and get what ever information they have for me . At the moment I feel fine and will update you all later.I went into town last night and went to a couple of bars with some friends. I met up with many of you and also all the lovely ladies. I would like to thank you all for you concerns that you have for me , its nice to know that the caring side of people comes out when most needed and all of you wishes to me were gratefully recieved. A BIG THANK YOU from me , it means far more than you can image . 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunholidaysun1 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Share Posted June 2, 2013 Ok , here goes. I went to the hospital today to have the steel staples removed from my abdomen , the Dr said it looks fine but a little bit hard due to swelling , I just hoped it wasnt an infection . I then asked one question , Benign or malignant , he said malignant . Next question was how bad is it , VERY . How long have I got ? He said he wanted me to speak to another specialist at 1pm . So , the staples are out , I went away knowing its very serious and then went back to see the other Dr at 1pm. He read through everything , said you have stage4 Cancer and its EVERYWHERE . That came as bit of a shock other than finding out the cancer is malignant . So what is going to happen , how long have I got Dr , I asked . 3 months . If you take any form of radiation / Chemo you can possibly extend your life if you are lucky to 6 months or possibly to the end of the year. Percentage of making it to Christmas - 20%. I asked about if he thought it would be worth while taking any form of possible life extending treatment , his answer was NO, its gone too far , without anyone knowing and nothing shown up on any of your hospital blood tests taken over the years . The Cancer that I has hides itself until the last minute and then causes the host , being ME, to experience something unusual , and in my case , the pain in the chest where I thought I might be having a heart attack. So my friends, thats about it in a nutshell . Over the next 2 days I have to be in the hospital again for another test to find the source of the Cancer. If it has started lets say in the stomach , then I will be gone sooner than later , so each organ has a different time frame . If its the Liver and considering my Liver is in pretty good shape other than the cancers attached to it , I may live slightly longer . So thats the tests for tomorrow and I have another to check the colon also , im not sure why . Then after getting all that news , I headed off home and went to sleep for 3 hours ,. woke up and put on my shorts and in doing so my stomach started ousing from the wound. I grabbed some tissue and stuck that on , along with some gause that I had in a medical box, taped it down with yellow tape and headed back to Sri Burin . The cleaned the wound , put those strip things across to hold it together then dressed the wound with gause . I was then told to take anti-biotics , 2500 bht . I just went home and took what anti biotics I have here and wil go to the Chinese Pharmacy in town to get some stronger ones, as the last thing I want to do is die of a <deleted> infection , . The pain from the wound isnt so good either but at least I am back there tomorrow for them to look at it again . So my friends , I am oviously a little bit sad that its coming to an end but what I will say is that right throughout my life I have had fun , I have done so much in my life , achieved some things but lived outside of the box . I have always lived every day where ever I have been in the world and anything I have done has been done to the MAX. At least now I can try and get a few things sorted out here and see people I want to see and organise my own funeral and wake . I was thinking about having my wake before my demise , so I can at least see who turns up, hahahahahahah I am not allowed to drink alcohol but I am sure I wil fit in a couple of beers somewhere down the line but not just yet . Please when you see me , treat me as you always have , I feel ok , I look good as always , thas what the ladies always tell me , so let me be . I appreciate all of your heart felt wishes and good luck but I dont want you lot depressing me every day when you see me I will be as strong as I can , do what I can and let time take its course until the end. I do intend to go to a few places out of Thailand with possibly some close friends , such as the Philippines and Cambodia , they have always had a spot in my heart , so I think to have some fun there maybe will be just what the Dr ordered , so to speak . I will update you over the next couple of days to what the hospital finds out . regards to all Sun. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sustento Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Best of luck to you. Make the days that remain the best you've had. Chok dee!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jim1563 Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Hope your still around when I get back in September 4 a beer James + Aee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manarak Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 wow - what a situation to be in - I have thought a long time about writing something or not and even longer about what to write apart from my commiseration (sorry if the formulation might sound strange, English is not my native language). I wouldn't wish such thing to my worst enemy. I hope that everything will evolve as well as possible. Does this type of cancer have a name? How old are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bealus Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Steve, we never met and I live a 1000 km away from where you are. Give you my respect for sharing your personal story and emotions and thus in this way coming close to me, specially after your latest message. Sometimes you get friends without even knowing it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoslim Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Sad thread, I don't know you but wish you all the best in what time you have left. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harrry Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) Hope you make the most of what you have. You cannot turn the clock back and make it go away so just do what you can. Only thing I would say is while you can still get there you should head back to England. It will not make life more enjoyable but I know for sure the pain etc you may have later is handled which it may well not be here. Another thing I will add is someone else with cancer wa in hospital here a few years ago. After a lot of delays he went down to the care home at McKean Hospital. They looked after him well. As I saw him there he told me that his stay in CR hospital was hell but that staying there was heaven. I know they charge about 30000a month for room and care plus medical costs etc.. If you do not go back to the UK keep it in mind. Edited June 2, 2013 by harrry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
briboy Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) Mate, there is bugger all anyone can say to make you feel a bit better, you do that yourself, it sounds like you are going for it ok, Steve there will be times when you want and need to be alone so people should understand and respect that so just tell them, i do wish you all the best in everything, put a copper in you pocket for the bridge toll, just in case... Bob Edited June 2, 2013 by briboy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brianmarinus Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Hope you make the most of what you have. You cannot turn the clock back and make it go away so just do what you can. Only thing I would say is while you can still get there you should head back to England. It will not make life more enjoyable but I know for sure the pain etc you may have later is handled which it may well not be here. Another thing I will add is someone else with cancer wa in hospital here a few years ago. After a lot of delays he went down to the care home at McKean Hospital. They looked after him well. As I saw him there he told me that his stay in CR hospital was hell but that staying there was heaven. I know they charge about 30000a month for room and care plus medical costs etc.. If you do not go back to the UK keep it in mind. My friend was there for a short time before he die and they where great Harry. They have a facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Dok-Kaew-Gardens-Assisted-Living-Facility/123719217654892 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheryl Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Yes, if you don't want to go back to the UK for hospice care (which would be my first rec) then McKean is a good choice. Suggest you make arrangements now for an unspecified date of admission. You'll know when it's time. I'm sure it is scant comfort but you are fortunate in having doctors who were willing to be frank (and sounds like you did a good job and asking the right questions). It is not unusual for Thai doctors not to be, creating a lot of doubt and confusion and leaving the patient to figure out on their own what the prognosis is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ripstanley Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Enjoy your time you have left. A friend who died from the big C told us years ago. At least I know when my time is up you bast.rds have no idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theblether Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 You know OP, I think it's an excellent thread, as you have shown the degree of fortitude and spirit at this time that I think all of us would hope to have. It's been an education reading your posts and humbling too. I've always preferred the idea of being given a time frame before I go, just so that I can make sure that the people who have loved me and helped me through life know exactly how much I love them and appreciate them. Modern life has a way of stealing words from your tongue that should be said. Others are in a position to advise about the medical problems you are facing, all I'll say is at this time, you are showing us all the way, and even we strangers to you will always appreciate that. I hope you make the journeys that you wish before you go, and Bon Voyage Sir. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bifftastic Posted June 3, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted June 3, 2013 Sun, It's difficult to know what to write really. 'Sorry to hear about your illness...' seems inadequate, given the circumstances. So do all the other thoughts I've had about what to say. We don't know each other, we may well have not liked what we have written to each other on this forum in the past (not that that matters in the slightest), but you are a human being, and therefore my brother. So, after some fairly selfish consideration of my own mortality, I would just like to wish you as little pain, and as much happiness as possible in the coming months. Don't go out easy man, let them know you were here! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sunholidaysun1 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Popular Post Share Posted June 4, 2013 Hi Bifftastic , I can never remember individual cases when writing on Thaivisa, I never take offence to what others write in reply to my comments . I wish others didnt take the forums so seriously , its all tongue in cheek . Thanks to you and other TV members for your kind words. The sad part in a way for me is that I had no inclination over the past years that anything was wrong with me at all . Even now I look a picture of health and feel fine other than the pain from the operation wound on my abdomen and the usual backache ive had for years . So to be told you've only got three months left , you think hes got to be joking ? When the evidence it put to you then the picture changes in a split second and you think OH-Sh*T. The next part is dealing with what you have been told . I had tears for about 30 minutes with some close friends and loved ones and then its move on . Now I am getting all of my finances sorted out and trying to claim any pensions that I have in hope that they can pay out early due to the terminal illness that I have . Knowing how things work , I can at least get it all sorted before my death because I know its very doubtful that the payout will be before I kick the bucket , but hopefully my wife will get the benefit . I will continue to post on here as I have done for 13 years , unless of course I get barred again for something that half the time I dont know why , it always looks ok when I write it but each of us can read something different into what is written and persieve it differently than what was meant . Open thoughts , open mind. Good luck to you in the future . Sun. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metisdead Posted June 15, 2013 Share Posted June 15, 2013 Due to the OP's violation of forum rules and is no longer active on this forum, this topic is now closed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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