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Firstly how is someone properly married and then only see their wife two or three times a year? I have a niece who behaves herself but I wonder why. She has a French partner who only comes to Thailand once a year.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Tell that to our military guys, if you dare. coffee1.gif

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Watch n learn !!!

I doubt, that many guys, send money to these, mostly overweight and not so young any more "Thai Princesses" shown in that Video. blink.pngtongue.png

I would also believe, that most of their level would stay really home if receive enough money from a "spender-sponsor, as business is a bit rare for them anyway.

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Firstly how is someone properly married and then only see their wife two or three times a year? I have a niece who behaves herself but I wonder why. She has a French partner who only comes to Thailand once a year.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Tell that to our military guys, if you dare. coffee1.gif

Hardly a fair comparison.

Unless a you are talking about a military man who has ducked off to a foreign country, married a lady and then headed home to only visit her a couple of times a year. Not married a lady from his own country who lives in his home and he goes away to work.

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the thai guy keeps face because his wife is making big spending money for him and eventually for the rest of the family

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There is a very good chance of these foreigners have wives in their home countries. If they weren't married they would have taken their Thai wives with then. How can you be married and only see your wife 2-3 months a year, its a farce.

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Firstly how is someone properly married and then only see their wife two or three times a year? I have a niece who behaves herself but I wonder why. She has a French partner who only comes to Thailand once a year.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Tell that to our military guys, if you dare. coffee1.gif

Hardly a fair comparison.

Unless a you are talking about a military man who has ducked off to a foreign country, married a lady and then headed home to only visit her a couple of times a year. Not married a lady from his own country who lives in his home and he goes away to work.

Sadly you miss my point regarding your post. A navy guy can be away most of a year, soldiers go for six month tours, and guess what, many are married. rolleyes.gif My dad was away for three years. coffee1.gif

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Firstly how is someone properly married and then only see their wife two or three times a year? I have a niece who behaves herself but I wonder why. She has a French partner who only comes to Thailand once a year.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Many of the cheating spouses in question wouldn't get a visa to the husbands home country, it's unlikely they'd be able to stay together while he works in his home country anyway.

For others who work on ships, in the oil industry etc.... They need to be choosing their spouses carefully...

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From the screenplay for Castaway starring Tom Hanks:

Exterior. ST. PETERSBURG APARTMENT HOUSE

A beautiful young RUSSIAN WOMAN opens the door. A young
AMERICAN MAN comes up behind her, signs the (FedEx) form and takes
the Angel Box. We see Christmas decorations inside. The
woman puts her arms around him as the door closes.

RUSSIAN WOMAN (Off Screen)
(accented English)
It's pretty. Who is it from?

AMERICAN MAN (O.S.)

My wife.

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The easiest way to explain this is that you understand their perception of the two most valued things in their life; Cash (currency) and FACE.

Below these two valued things fall all other things, be they spiritual, moral or of the physical.

These things which fall below currency and FACE are merely the resources which may be used to gain currency and FACE. They may be used without guilt or conscience to effect getting the most currency or most polished and respected FACE at the desire and whim of the individual.

Nothing else matters.

When you understand this, then you will understand that your sense of interpretations fall within all things below currency and FACE, and therefore do not deserve an answer.

So, why do they do it? To achieve those two things.

It is not intentional; it simply is... and you should not feel put out if you subscribe to the two most valued things. Moreover, you may even become a firm believer and willful contributor to their happiness. To resist is futile hahaaaaaaa.

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Firstly how is someone properly married and then only see their wife two or three times a year? I have a niece who behaves herself but I wonder why. She has a French partner who only comes to Thailand once a year.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Tell that to our military guys, if you dare. coffee1.gif

Hardly a fair comparison.

Unless a you are talking about a military man who has ducked off to a foreign country, married a lady and then headed home to only visit her a couple of times a year. Not married a lady from his own country who lives in his home and he goes away to work.

Sadly you miss my point regarding your post. A navy guy can be away most of a year, soldiers go for six month tours, and guess what, many are married. rolleyes.gif My dad was away for three years. coffee1.gif

I have to make it clear that my post was in no way intended to cast aspersions on the military. I have enormous respect for members of the armed forces who (apart from enforced separations form their families) put themselves in harm's way for the rest of us.

I do see your point that they are away from their wives (and kids) for extended periods of time. I don't see it as being the equivalent of the point in hand however. The vast majority of your cases would be Americans (sorry if I assume incorrectly but your ndp seems to indicate US) married to Americans who are going away to leave their spouse in the country that is home for them both ...

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I hear from a guy who lives, sometimes nearby, 10 km from me.

He shall, as it is rumored being in the bank business and built a huge house on nice land with a pool just outside the Amphoe village.

The Falang 500 m from him, I know, opened his eyes, that his -good looking- as it is said, but not so young anymore, (I never saw her), GF has some Thai Gigs and one special one, -she, bought or rent that Thai BF an apartment in the Big City!

Talks BS about him, the Falang, all the time around the Village, -he has only a small Banana-

and -her Gigs Banana is, in comparison, sweet like a sugar cane in her mouth!tongue.png

And so on.

Once, she even, shortened her 3 month Schengen Visa EU holiday trip to only 3 weeks

and flew back to TH with excuses, missing her Gig Nr.1 to much.

Does not want to stay in EU with him, for obvious reasons! wink.png

He, the "horned one" who begged my acquaintance-friend to be his eyes and ears for him, when he is not around,

made now consequences.

Yes, maybe one, limited the contact to the whistle blower, he begged beforehand to blow the whistle if necessary!rolleyes.gif

As she new well, he believes only her, Enslaved. blink.png

Edited by ALFREDO

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I have not seen it within my family but have heard about out it with some local Western men. So no doubting it goes on but feel it is all relative to the people you associate with. My wife and family do not like the idea of a second wife/husband. The fil has always stated if he finds out any of his children or in-laws are misbehaving he banishes them. To date he has thrown one out.

So it would seem the same mind set follows through out the village. It is frowned upon by all the family members. My wife's first husband, 15 years ago, stepped out (got a girlfriend) shortly after the birth of their first and only child. He was not allowed back into the family fold and left shortly afterwards.

If you are afraid of telling your "friend" that his wife is stepping out on him because of potential retribution so be it. Up to you. Remember though what comes around / goes around. If you are to always be afraid of what the family might do to you if you step out of line or are fearful of them, then maybe you should reconsider who or why you are married and living here in Thailand.

As for the face thing. The Thai husband has nothing to be shameful of. Asked my wife what she thought and although the family disapprove of it, they know it happens. But it is not a problem for the Thai's. They can separate the means to an end part of the relationship. Her having a western husband is a way of earning "income" while the Thai husband provides the social and communal side of the lifestyle. So both win. Well except the Western Husband if he is seeking a wife who will be exclusive.

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Firstly how is someone properly married and then only see their wife two or three times a year? I have a niece who behaves herself but I wonder why. She has a French partner who only comes to Thailand once a year.

My wife lives with me in Papua New Guinea because that's where my business is and a wife's place is with her husband. She wouldn't dream of leaving me here by myself and I have no desire to be on my own. That's what I call a regular marriage. We have a house at home and spend two or three months a year in Thailand. As time goes by this will increase but she'll always be with me. We love each other and want to be together.

I personally doubt the 80 to 90% stat. But the fact is that having a "wife" who you see a few times a year is bizarre. More bizarre than the fact that she then has a partner who is actually with her full time. Yeah, she's poor and they take the money and once or twice a year it's a bit silly. But who's the fool?

Many of the cheating spouses in question wouldn't get a visa to the husbands home country, it's unlikely they'd be able to stay together while he works in his home country anyway.

For others who work on ships, in the oil industry etc.... They need to be choosing their spouses carefully...

Why? I have had no problem getting visas for my wife and know plenty of men married to Thais who have done the same. The PR (for Australia anyway) is pretty onerous but if your relationship is genuine you'll get through. For a work permit dependent visa (which is her status in PNG) they just wanted to see a marriage certificate. Shengen visa for Europe was no problem and NZ too.

Would it be cynical of me to suggest that some of these guys who are "married" to Thai ladies and leave them there actually have another family in their home country?

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This is not my experience in a South Thai villiage at all.

There are 3 mixed marriages , ( 2 with ex bgs) and Im 100% sure there are no Thai husbands , nor even Thai giks.

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So many of these topics / posts read: 'a friend of mine', or 'someone in the village', or 'someone told me about', etc. I solved that problem: I don't know anybody, don't have any friends, and talk with as few persons Western or Thai about whatever relationships, if any, I might have with Thai women.

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