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Giving the extended family a piece of my mind

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You guys actually have the same opinion. (SinglePot and Boo.)

Maybe SinglePot should read what Boo wrote in his post #93 again.

You both mean that laughing at downs syndrome is wrong. smile.png (Funny to watch your bickering though.)

My opinion is the same, of course. The thing is that many of the thais, where I live, make jokes and fun of people and call it "teasing". Where I come from it is called bullying.

I will never think that this "teasing/bullying" is ok and I am sure that the recipients of this "teasing/bullying" are not ok with it either.

From your posts I believe that you both agree that OP did the right thing. Am I right?

no.

klickster wrote #93 having discussed it with his Thai wife.

Boo is a woman.

My wife and extended family are Thai.

Looks like I live in a different part of Thailand.

Not sure what point you are trying to make.

Do you agree the op was right in standing up for his child ? Or do you think he should have kept quite for the sake of appeasing the face of a bullying relative.

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laugh out loud.

Get your facts right before you start getting clever.

Well, the facts you stated were beside the point.

I was trying to state my opinion that it seemed to me that you both thought that what OP did was right.

But some people read what they want to read.

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I have posted on this thread previously.

I will not criticise OP.

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I have posted on this thread previously.

I will not criticise OP.

You totally missed my point. Never mind.

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You guys actually have the same opinion. (SinglePot and Boo.)

Maybe SinglePot should read what Boo wrote in his post #93 again.

You both mean that laughing at downs syndrome is wrong. :) (Funny to watch your bickering though.)

My opinion is the same, of course. The thing is that many of the thais, where I live, make jokes and fun of people and call it "teasing". Where I come from it is called bullying.

I will never think that this "teasing/bullying" is ok and I am sure that the recipients of this "teasing/bullying" are not ok with it either.

From your posts I believe that you both agree that OP did the right thing. Am I right?

no.

klickster wrote #93 having discussed it with his Thai wife.

Boo is a woman.

My wife and extended family are Thai.

Looks like I live in a different part of Thailand.

Not sure what point you are trying to make.

Do you agree the op was right in standing up for his child ? Or do you think he should have kept quite for the sake of appeasing the face of a bullying relative.

I have posted on this thread previously.

I will not criticise OP.

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No one is asking you to critise anyone. But you have made some random comments about me & other posters so why not explain what it is your are attempting to say.

If you disagree that is your perogative but just becuse some thai people might think this kind of "teasing" is ok, others, do not. it is up to the parent to look out for their own child. The op did just that.

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Issues like these have so many layers and nuances that one solution will never fit all situations. I can stand up for my wife (don't have kids) without alienating whoever might offend her. Overdoing it can be really brutal. Most likely she will be here after I'm gone. So she will need good extended-family support/relationships.

Up to you.

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Boo. I have not made random comments about any posters.

I don't want to offend, criticise, or interfere with OP.

He did right to defend daughter.

My views on this subject raised by OP have already been said in my posts previously.

I will defend Thai values in the same way OP defends daughter.

For what it is worth, my relationship with my extended family is 'mediated' by my wife.

She is the connection between farang husband, nuclear family and extended family.

that is my experience.

It is also my experience that Thai people are much more accepting of people with disabilities than farangs are.

SP

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Boo. I have not made random comments about any posters.

I don't want to offend, criticise, or interfere with OP.

He did right to defend daughter.

My views on this subject raised by OP have already been said in my posts previously.

I will defend Thai values in the same way OP defends daughter.

For what it is worth, my relationship with my extended family is 'mediated' by my wife.

She is the connection between farang husband, nuclear family and extended family.

that is my experience.

It is also my experience that Thai people are much more accepting of people with disabilities than farangs are.

SP

This is actually one of the most sensible posts I have seen all day. thumbsup.gif

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Boo. I have not made random comments about any posters.

I don't want to offend, criticise, or interfere with OP.

He did right to defend daughter.

My views on this subject raised by OP have already been said in my posts previously.

I will defend Thai values in the same way OP defends daughter.

For what it is worth, my relationship with my extended family is 'mediated' by my wife.

She is the connection between farang husband, nuclear family and extended family.

that is my experience.

It is also my experience that Thai people are much more accepting of people with disabilities than farangs are.

SP

This is actually one of the most sensible posts I have seen all day. :thumbsup:

It's from the heart

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Boo. I have not made random comments about any posters.

I don't want to offend, criticise, or interfere with OP.

He did right to defend daughter.

My views on this subject raised by OP have already been said in my posts previously.

I will defend Thai values in the same way OP defends daughter.

For what it is worth, my relationship with my extended family is 'mediated' by my wife.

She is the connection between farang husband, nuclear family and extended family.

that is my experience.

It is also my experience that Thai people are much more accepting of people with disabilities than farangs are.

SP

This is actually one of the most sensible posts I have seen all day. thumbsup.gif

It's from the heart

I have noted many times how being called "fat" is handled/understood in a different way by Thai & Farang people.

A farang will understand it as an insult with the appropriate reaction/s

A Thai see"s it as a funny and not rude statement. They laugh at rotund people on television, for instance.

Just my 2 penneth.

The comments are not/ were not just about that.

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The comments are not/ were not just about that.

Ozzy

I realise that but felt it relevant to mention that 'fat' is sometimes not seen as rude by many Thai's that I have met.

Hope things get sorted out to your satisfaction

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The comments are not/ were not just about that.

Ozzy

I realise that but felt it relevant to mention that 'fat' is sometimes not seen as rude by many Thai's that I have met.

Hope things get sorted out to your satisfaction

Understood mate, Cheers

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