Popular Post DILLIGAD 3,704 Posted October 1, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 1, 2013 That shouldn't be a problem as its the 2nd most common language in England. 5555 4 Link to post Share on other sites
transam 49,748 Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 That shouldn't be a problem as its the 2nd most common language in England. 5555 For gods sake don't tell 7by7. Link to post Share on other sites
rgs2001uk 4,527 Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 That shouldn't be a problem as its the 2nd most common language in England. 5555 For gods sake don't tell 7by7. I heard, like Dr Naam's dog he is trilingual. Speaks fluent, Somali, Arabic and Punjabi, also putting in extra hours to learn Romanian for our gypo friends immenent arrival. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
farmerjo 3,375 Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 I think one of the great challenges of moving to a country like this when young is knowing its make or break in most cicumstances. No welfare to fall back on. Link to post Share on other sites
transam 49,748 Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 If I was a youngster, (30's) I could never deal with village life. Of course we are all different so nobody can say ''your daft'' cos none of us are the same. PS. I got daft as I got older. But still not daft enough for the village thing. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lovinglifeinthailand 105 Posted October 1, 2013 Author Share Posted October 1, 2013 living in pattaya now im bored silly of the bars, only go now once a week to play pool. bar girl chat is more boring than village gossip unless its about me. I do play football twice a week that I will miss, but planning on a few rounds of golf when up north. Also as not far from khon kaen can have a good p*ss up with friends when I feel like it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
David48 10,662 Posted October 1, 2013 Share Posted October 1, 2013 living in pattaya ... When do you plan to pack our bags and settle down back in the village up in nong song hong 100km south of khon kaen with the support of her parents and family ? Link to post Share on other sites
DILLIGAD 3,704 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 That shouldn't be a problem as its the 2nd most common language in England. 5555 For gods sake don't tell 7by7. I think I know his son, 4by2 ! Link to post Share on other sites
KunMatt 3,065 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 living in pattaya ... When do you plan to pack our bags and settle down back in the village up in nong song hong 100km south of khon kaen with the support of her parents and family ? What have you got to do to get an answer in this thread David?? Hang on, let me ask him for you: Hey OP, when are you planning to move to the village and settle down there? Link to post Share on other sites
MeMock 368 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 (edited) If you speak and write good English which obviously you do. Why not teach your child yourself? Easy. Sent from my GT-I9300T using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app Wow, that is so easy! You've just solved all of the problems for raising a child in Thailand and Isaan so that they are now safe, healthy and well educated and have the values and morals that I want from them. Congratulations on your amazing insight that nobody has ever considered before. You have just changed my life with that incredible comment. Why so negative Matt? I home school my kids and we move effortlessly between lives in Australia and Thailand and they are doing great. It is actually a very valid option. Edited October 2, 2013 by MeMock 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Dakling 178 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 To the OP, good luck on the move to the village. We did it a while ago and I think you have been getting great insights from others. I agree with those who say that you will never be fully accepted as a member of the village, I am more of the village mascot or something. Everyone seems to be happy I am here as a novelty item in the village but I don't have any real friends among the Thai's in the village. To be honest I don't even try to develop friends here because every time I take the time to chat with someone with my broken Thai the conversation always turns to money or land or other things I don't really want to talk about. For me this is not a big deal as I was always a bit of a loner, I have the internet, sat TV and other interests to keep me busy. I am not completely anti-social but the weekly trip into town to meet up with other "Farang" for a beer or two is enough for me. I think Matt's first post was excellent but since his posts seem to be getting more and more judgmental. While I think he has a valid point about his kids education I don't think it needs to be the only deciding factor in the decision. Having the time to be with your kids allows you to have more impact on their life. Yes they will be influenced by the other kids and the extended family but if you are directly involved in their life you can counter the negative and enhance the positive aspects of that. I sure don't claim to be an expert on anything but I agree strongly with MeMock and the other poster who home-school and/or supplement their kids education with tutoring. If I was still working in the west I would be getting home only an hour or two before his bedtime and likely wouldn't have the energy after a long days work to do much more than veg and watch TV with him. I really like Sly's post as well, there are path's to success here if you look for them and work for it. Teaching is a good option for many to keep busy and keep the brain lubricated. Might be a good option for the OP as well once you are settled. Link to post Share on other sites
KunMatt 3,065 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 I think Matt's first post was excellent but since his posts seem to be getting more and more judgmental. While I think he has a valid point about his kids education I don't think it needs to be the only deciding factor in the decision. Having the time to be with your kids allows you to have more impact on their life. Yes they will be influenced by the other kids and the extended family but if you are directly involved in their life you can counter the negative and enhance the positive aspects of that. I sure don't claim to be an expert on anything but I agree strongly with MeMock and the other poster who home-school and/or supplement their kids education with tutoring. If I was still working in the west I would be getting home only an hour or two before his bedtime and likely wouldn't have the energy after a long days work to do much more than veg and watch TV with him. I haven't tried to be judgemental at all. Even when someone said that the primary reason they are raising their children in the poorest part of a 3rd world country with the worst education standards in this region was to save money and play golf, I wished them well and said it was their choice, no judgement from me about that. Any curt replies from me after that are simply because some people are trying to find something about me or my family to condescend me with. I don't think I am being negative, I do have some positive points about living here but realistically the many cons outweigh the few pros here for me for raising my kids in Thailand, and especially in Isaan. In the beginning I did want it to work here and had some deluded thoughts about how I could make it work but looking back at it I was really just trying to gloss over certain things and convince myself I could make it work rather than impartially judging what the best option would be for my children. I see other posters in this thread are doing the same thing. The visa situation is a big factor for me personally. I would be living year to year hoping that they don't introduce a rule that would mean we would all have to up and leave Thailand anyway. I don't like being at the mercy of that system. That's not me being negative, that is me thinking practically about what is likely to happen in the future. That's without the consideration of how my kids will turn out if they grow up here and, to be blunt, I don't like Thai youth's culture, values or morals so that is a big factor for me to raise them in my home country which I know from growing up there. And yes, people will retort that there are Muslim children in the UK, and Eastern Europeans, and chavs and the dole but I honestly don't care, that's just the negative Daily Mail side of the UK that people focus on when they are not there and want something to criticise the UK about. And as for schooling, everyone keeps saying that you have to home school your kids to make up for the lacking Thai education system, but even when we live in the UK I plan to be very involved with them and their studies anyway so I hope they will soar in the UK instead of just getting by in Thailand. Like I said before, I have the option to either raise them in Thailand or the UK and economics are not a factor for me about this. But answer me this; how many Thais would choose the UK option if they had the same choice? Every westernised Thai person I have spoken to has told me that no way in hell should I send my kids to a Thai school, not even the best international school. This is why every rich Thai sends their kids to a western school. So back to the OP, you have a few years left to make up your mind. If you can afford to drop a few million in Isaan for 3 years of living there and walk away from it all the same then go for it, otherwise you should hang on to your money and invest it wherever you decide to settle long-term. That's advice from my experience of living here for 3 years, maybe you think you have the answer already but you know what they say? "Experience is something you think you have until you get a little bit more of it". Don't rush into anything and don't commit to anything, it will be very difficult to tell your Isaan family your plans now and then change them completely later without breaking someone's face. I may sound negative because it doesn't go along with everyone's "can do" attitude of trying to raise kids here because they want to stay here for themselves, but I am just trying to be realistic and the reality is my kids would be much better off growing up in the UK or so I believe. That's my prerogative and I don't care what anyone else does with their own kids. So, there's the ammo, take your shots everyone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hotrod4098 132 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 stayed in the village 4 years...very difficult...5 am they talk about money..then all day...same talk every day... i say no more yes i left behind..4 million THB.. Link to post Share on other sites
Popular Post Dakling 178 Posted October 2, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted October 2, 2013 (edited) I think Matt's first post was excellent but since his posts seem to be getting more and more judgmental. While I think he has a valid point about his kids education I don't think it needs to be the only deciding factor in the decision. Having the time to be with your kids allows you to have more impact on their life. Yes they will be influenced by the other kids and the extended family but if you are directly involved in their life you can counter the negative and enhance the positive aspects of that. I sure don't claim to be an expert on anything but I agree strongly with MeMock and the other poster who home-school and/or supplement their kids education with tutoring. If I was still working in the west I would be getting home only an hour or two before his bedtime and likely wouldn't have the energy after a long days work to do much more than veg and watch TV with him. I haven't tried to be judgemental at all. Even when someone said that the primary reason they are raising their children in the poorest part of a 3rd world country with the worst education standards in this region was to save money and play golf, I wished them well and said it was their choice, no judgement from me about that. Any curt replies from me after that are simply because some people are trying to find something about me or my family to condescend me with. I don't think I am being negative, I do have some positive points about living here but realistically the many cons outweigh the few pros here for me for raising my kids in Thailand, and especially in Isaan. In the beginning I did want it to work here and had some deluded thoughts about how I could make it work but looking back at it I was really just trying to gloss over certain things and convince myself I could make it work rather than impartially judging what the best option would be for my children. I see other posters in this thread are doing the same thing. The visa situation is a big factor for me personally. I would be living year to year hoping that they don't introduce a rule that would mean we would all have to up and leave Thailand anyway. I don't like being at the mercy of that system. That's not me being negative, that is me thinking practically about what is likely to happen in the future. That's without the consideration of how my kids will turn out if they grow up here and, to be blunt, I don't like Thai youth's culture, values or morals so that is a big factor for me to raise them in my home country which I know from growing up there. And yes, people will retort that there are Muslim children in the UK, and Eastern Europeans, and chavs and the dole but I honestly don't care, that's just the negative Daily Mail side of the UK that people focus on when they are not there and want something to criticise the UK about. And as for schooling, everyone keeps saying that you have to home school your kids to make up for the lacking Thai education system, but even when we live in the UK I plan to be very involved with them and their studies anyway so I hope they will soar in the UK instead of just getting by in Thailand. Like I said before, I have the option to either raise them in Thailand or the UK and economics are not a factor for me about this. But answer me this; how many Thais would choose the UK option if they had the same choice? Every westernised Thai person I have spoken to has told me that no way in hell should I send my kids to a Thai school, not even the best international school. This is why every rich Thai sends their kids to a western school. So back to the OP, you have a few years left to make up your mind. If you can afford to drop a few million in Isaan for 3 years of living there and walk away from it all the same then go for it, otherwise you should hang on to your money and invest it wherever you decide to settle long-term. That's advice from my experience of living here for 3 years, maybe you think you have the answer already but you know what they say? "Experience is something you think you have until you get a little bit more of it". Don't rush into anything and don't commit to anything, it will be very difficult to tell your Isaan family your plans now and then change them completely later without breaking someone's face. I may sound negative because it doesn't go along with everyone's "can do" attitude of trying to raise kids here because they want to stay here for themselves, but I am just trying to be realistic and the reality is my kids would be much better off growing up in the UK or so I believe. That's my prerogative and I don't care what anyone else does with their own kids. So, there's the ammo, take your shots everyone. Hopefully none of this comes as taking shots, I agree with much of what you are saying. For example, I strongly agree that you have the right to make decisions for your family. The main thing I am trying to point out is that everyone's situation is unique and there is nothing necessarily wrong with people who decide to raise their children here. Your focus seems to be on your children's education, ain't nothin' wrong wit dat. I also agree with the road safety thing and it is a constant concern for me. My in-laws think I am nuts for making everyone wear their seat belts. This part of your post I have trouble with, "I may sound negative because it doesn't go along with everyone's "can do" attitude of trying to raise kids here because they want to stay here for themselves,..." You are implying that those of us who chose to raise our kids here are either selfish or deluded and may not have our kids best interests at heart. In my personal situation, I could easily take wife and son back to the west but if I did I would need to work to support us as my investments would not suffice to cover our living expenses. Here, I do not need to work (though I choose to work limited hours), this affords me the opportunity to spend much more time with my family. For me this is more important. Also, while I agree with you that schools here run the gamut from absolutely terrible to merely substandard, this does not necessarily equate to the standard of living my little guy will have after graduation. I am an outsider in this country so I can only go by what I see but I think Thailand is a great place for the wealthy Thais. Even the upper middle class folks seem to have much more disposable income than those in the west. So long as my little guy gets a good education (by local standards), learns English to a high level (by local standards) and has the financial backing of his parents he should have a good life. I value his time with his extended family, here in the village he is surrounded by aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, and his little buddies. Unfortunately the local village school is at the shockingly bad end of the spectrum so next year we will be moving to the provincial capital so that we can get him into a better school. All our weekends and most of our holidays will be spent back in the village though. I guess on a smaller scale I have made a similar decision to you to leave the village to look for a better school but I am unwilling to go farther because I believe his contact with his extended family and his current happiness is also important. As you have done I have made a decision (with my wife) as to what is best for my family. Back to the OP, only you can make the decision what is best for you and your family. There is no one solution that fits everyone. While it is true you have to be concerned about education, that is true of any place in Thailand though perhaps to a lesser degree in urban centers. I strongly agree with limiting your capital expenditure in the village because it is unlikely you will ever be able to recover the money. In the village you don't need a show home. If you get along with the in-laws consider updating their house to a reasonable standard and building an addition for your mental health getaway and some privacy with your wife. Put as little money into it as you can, Thai standard as apposed to western standard for everything other than electrics. This is what we chose to do and I think it was a good decision(for us). Basically we built a suite on the side of the family home and updated the family home (new roof, concrete floor with tile downstairs instead of dirt, walled in under the house, new electrics and plumbing all in cost under 400k baht). Ended up with a comfortable place that works for us (but it wont win any beauty contests). Now that we are planning it as the weekend getaway and holiday home we don't need to worry about security through the week as the in-laws are in the other side of the house. I am not really that worried about thieves anyhow since we have never had a problem and almost everyone in the village is related to some degree. It is nice to have someone in the house while we are away though just to keep it aired out and lived in. If down the road after the little guy is on his own we decide to move back to the village full time we can then build the big "face" house. Or maybe not.... As far as worrying if the in-laws are "sharing" the laundry soap, who cares. They help us with allot of chores and things around the house and are always willing to work on our farm for little money. Yes I give my mother in law an additional 3,000 baht a month because she is poor I want to help her, I also pay the electric bill for the whole house. I would like to think that I would be willing to do these things for my in-laws in the west as well. As long it is "reasonable" and appreciated rather than expected, there is nothing wrong with sharing a bit of the wealth. You seem to have a good approach in general and while I understand the little one has pushed the schedule on you I think it is still best to move as slowly as possible on the financial outlay side. It's good to listen to the negative advice as most people don't last long living in a village but there are some who thrive there and love it. The only way you will know what group you fall into is to try it. My apologies, this got awfully long. 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downtown 28 Posted October 2, 2013 Share Posted October 2, 2013 well said matt.plus not everyone is loaded enough to be able to home school and not need to work. Link to post Share on other sites
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