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Maybe a farang wife would appreciate your being the house husband, but believe me, Thai women ... no matter what they may say ... will not respect you as a man when you're doing what they culturally believe to be woman's work. Actually I had to re-read your OP to make sure I hadn't misread and you were actually a woman. No offense meant here, just saying what it looks like to me.

You did mis-read, OP is a woman, see:

hmmm....the profile says 62 yo male....

I work from sun up to sun down doing washing, washing up, repairs around the home,cooking

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What was it Samuel Johnson said....... 'every woman should marry but every man shouldn't.'

He also said that a man's life is incomplete until he marries and then it's finished.

Sometimes I swear he must have swung by Siam at some time in his life!

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Act more like a Thai man. get home drunk every night. Sleep around more and occasionally slap her when being rude to you.....:) She might respect you more

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You are a man right?

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Just because some people sit around all day drinking piss and expect their wife to do everything doesnt include me

Maybe a farang wife would appreciate your being the house husband, but believe me, Thai women ... no matter what they may say ... will not respect you as a man when you're doing what they culturally believe to be woman's work. Actually I had to re-read your OP to make sure I hadn't misread and you were actually a woman. No offense meant here, just saying what it looks like to me.

I'm a farang woman. And I most certainly wouldn't appreciate a house husband unless I was a lawyer etc with small children. Where do you get off generalising us farang women. Don't think that we are beneath any race. We like our men to be men just like any woman. If she is always angry at him then there are issues and he needs to sort them out with her.

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I forget the study and the right way to search it out escapes me right now, but studies have been done that suggest some basic cues from one or another spouse that suggest the likelihood the marriage will succeed. Where do you find the tools to figure out exactly what is going on with her if she may not even understand the changes taking place in now she interacts with you; clearly, one or both of you are changing. Your mission, should you decide to save your relationship, is to figure out how much has changed, and whether a few key things are present.

For example (and I know it's somewhere online): when one spouse is noted to roll the eyes when the other talks this is a sign of contempt, and it is a very bad sign. Perhaps a spouse feels the need to always "explain" you to others, or what you've said, even though others are not unclear. Perhaps at bedtime a spouse fakes already being asleep on the couch, so the other gives up and retires alone. Comedic jokes that seem to have a theme of low level degrading are indications of contempt, I'd think. "Oh, I'm just kidding..." and "can't you take a joke" responses when you imply something said was hurtful...

Look for these various cues from some sources that can tell you more ably what they mean. But they can empower you to understand the degree to which change may be happening, and maybe why. Good luck!

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...she man is just taking her tensions out on the little wo-man at home.

Do you wear a Tutu too!

Man up - be more clever than she is - they hate that even more...

but she will see you as a MAN, they get over that.

AND just because she's got a degree and/or a bit of money - she still lives in a poverty stricken country

that reminds me of Kingston Downtown! (Jamaica)

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I'm sorry to hear that your wife is hurting your feelings. I don't mean for this to be insulting but are you embarassed at all by posting this on a forum? Personally i could never accept the thought of being a stay at home husband.

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whistling.gif Tell me about it.

My difference is we were never married.

I had several long and intense conversations with her about that point.(I suppose you could call them arguments)

I warned her a few times that if she kept disrespecting me I would simply leave.

All her children were grown, working and living on their own. No need for me to take care of anyone (including her).

I helped raise those children and supported that family for 30 years. Don't get me wrong, there were some good times also.

And yes, I loved her ...really still do.

Just can't live with her now.

One day, she insulted me again, so I just kissed her goodbye and left.

Maybe, sometime, I'll go back and see how she's doing now.

Or maybe not.

I'm perfectly happy being MYSELF, and always have been.

And there is me thinking I am the only one!! Your account couldn't be more same same, as mine.

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Another post where I would like to hear the other sides view before passing judgement.

That's very true, but we can only go by what the OP is saying. My wife is also university educated and is the very opposite. Just can't do enough for me, but I try and do the same for her and it works.

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Act more like a Thai man. get home drunk every night. Sleep around more and occasionally slap her when being rude to you.....smile.png She might respect you more

Are you serious? No your not.

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They say when we get married we marry 3 people:



The first person is the person we'd like them to be.


The second person is the person they actually are.


The third person is the person they will become after they marry us.



Your wife thinks she married the first person but she see's the third.


Tell her she needs to marry all 3 of you and that if she nit picks she'll never be happy.




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I'm sorry to hear that your wife is hurting your feelings. I don't mean for this to be insulting but are you embarassed at all by posting this on a forum? Personally i could never accept the thought of being a stay at home husband.

You've only used three sentences and one can be construed as insulting, another as supporting; why be disingenuous to suggest your "sorry to hear" he hurts in the first sentence?

A man does not require the collective opinion of others to define the qualities that make a Man; it is self evident. When a "man" would even consider the notion of "embarrassment" for revealing something of the nature of his life, he is by definition leading an illegitimate life. Nothing manly about that! It's obvious and a reasonable inference, that your inability to "accept the thought of being a stay at home husband" is also constructed from the opinions and mores of others; how utterly absurd. Had I revealed so much of my "man-ness" on this "forum" I would be "embarrassed."

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Also in Thailand, relationships / marriages tend to work, only when the man is wearing the pants and making the most money.

If you don´t make the most money, at least start to wear the pants in your marriage! Just do like the Thai men do (go out drinking and screwing around) and she will maybe learn.

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