benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 (edited) I need an opinion(s) on my issue. Anyway, I am currently living in Bangkok with my girlfriend. I have only been with her for 3 weeks.I told her that if I was going to live in Bangkok with her then I was going to pay the rent. I don't mind it's only $220 USD a month. We share food payment and other things that we need on a daily basis. We went to see her mother last weekend in Korat. It's a 4 hour ride from Bangkok. My girlfriend was mad at me because I didn't give her gas money and I didn't get her mom a gift. She had to spend $3,500 baht for the ride plus lunch on Sunday. I didn't give her any money while we were in Korat. So now we are back home and she wants me to help her with half of the $3,500 baht. I keep asking her how much and she keeps saying "up to you." Also, we went to the dentist 2 days ago and I paid for a cavity that she needed filled. That was $800 baht. Anyway, I relented and gave her $1,000 baht for gas, stay at mom's house and lunch on Sunday. I said that we split food but normally I am the one paying if we go out. She will buy food and bring home occasionally, but it's normally street food so it's not expensive. Should I have given her the $1000 baht. I'm a bit of a tight wad, and I believe in financial responsibility. It seems like most Thais would rather spend money. We are going on a budget. I told her! I don't think she understands yet. Edited July 11, 2014 by benj005 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post meom Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 (edited) LOL. Should have given her 950 instead of 1000. (half of 3500 - 800). Edited July 11, 2014 by meom 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post arminbkk Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 What is $1000 baht? 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ATF Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 The only Budget in Thailand is the car rental firm. Tight as a crab's ass at sixty fathoms. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post mrtoad Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 You are cheap, very cheap. Tight as a ducks assDid you even read my post? Yes, I'm certainly not going to accuse you of being generous. Is your surname Scrooge? 15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ATF Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 Are you going to turn the air-con on for her birthday? 54 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 You are cheap, very cheap. Tight as a ducks assDid you even read my post? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Neeranam Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 (edited) 3500B for gas to Korat??? Get a bus. I can get from Khon Kaen to Bkk in my car for 900 Baht. Any woman that says, "up to you" more than one a year is a money-grabbing ex pro. - dump her before she dumps you. Does she have a job? Edited July 11, 2014 by Neeranam 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 Are you going to turn the air-con on for her birthday?The air con only comes on in spurts. She doesn't understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post David48 Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 See ... I can never, in all honesty write this type of post. OP ... yes ... you are being tight. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Cypress Hill Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 No woman capable of financial prudence and responsibility would move in with a guy within 3 weeks of meeting him. 20 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 3500B for gas to Korat??? Get a bus. I can get from Khon Kaen to Bkk in my car for 900 Baht. Any woman that says, "up to you" more than one a year is a money-grabbing ex pro. - dump her before she dumps you. Does she have a job? She had to pay her friend to take us. He also slept the night at her mom's house. I thought 3,500 baht was too much as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post mrtoad Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 3500B for gas to Korat??? Get a bus. I can get from Khon Kaen to Bkk in my car for 900 Baht. Any woman that says, "up to you" more than one a year is a money-grabbing ex pro. - dump her before she dumps you. Does she have a job? She had to pay her friend to take us. He also slept the night at her mom's house. I thought 3,500 baht was too much as well. As well as being cheap, I think you might be a little simple to. 34 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 3500B for gas to Korat??? Get a bus. I can get from Khon Kaen to Bkk in my car for 900 Baht. Any woman that says, "up to you" more than one a year is a money-grabbing ex pro. - dump her before she dumps you. Does she have a job? yeah, that's a fair amount of gas - although I assume the "freind" wasn't going to it for free. Does the OP have a job? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tonytigerbkk Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 So tight that even a TGAU would not be enough. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 No woman capable of financial prudence and responsibility would move in with a guy within 3 weeks of meeting him.Well we were going out for a year. It was a long distance relationship, but it wasn't like I just met her. Thai women have such a bad reputation when it comes to money, so I am always on my guard with my girlfriend. I know its not the right thing to do, but its my personality. I also haven't been in a relationship in a long while. I've only had to spend money on myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirtless Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 Dont expect her to change anytime soon.Thai women think you are made of money, 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 OP what nationality are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 Dont expect her to change anytime soon.Thai women think you are made of money,I guess. I've read a few horror stories on how farang(s) have been duped out of their money by their Thai girlfriend.I know it's not good to think like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 OP what nationality are you?American. Italian/Irish with some Jewish blood from mom's side. That's where the money thing comes in. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 So tight that even a TGAU would not be enough. OK Khun Tony ... I Googled TGAU ... and no obvious answers. I have no idea. Call me Dumb ... what does that mean? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post David48 Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 OP what nationality are you?American. Italian/Irish with some Jewish blood from mom's side.That's where the money thing comes in. Are you related to Jingthing? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATF Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 OP what nationality are you?American. Italian/Irish with some Jewish blood from mom's side.That's where the money thing comes in. Jewish Mom. No woman is good enough for my little prince. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisinth Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> 3500B for gas to Korat???Get a bus.I can get from Khon Kaen to Bkk in my car for 900 Baht.Any woman that says, "up to you" more than one a year is a money-grabbing ex pro. - dump her before she dumps you.Does she have a job?She had to pay her friend to take us. He also slept the night at her mom's house. I thought 3,500 baht was too much as well. As well as being cheap, I think you might be a little simple to. Simply from under the bridge me thinks....................... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Berkshire Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 Thai women have such a bad reputation when it comes to money, so I am always on my guard with my girlfriend. I know its not the right thing to do, but its my personality. I also haven't been in a relationship in a long while. I've only had to spend money on myself. Thai women as a group are generally frugal when it comes to spending money. The exceptions are Thai women who date farangs. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 (edited) My girlfriend is a very hard worker. She works 40-50 hours a week. Its just that she doesn't make a lot of money. I forgot to mention that we went to a soccer game last week. Free VIP seats. I didn't pay a dime. Free food/beer and a ride to the game. Hmm... Maybe I am cheap. Edited July 11, 2014 by benj005 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 OP, as you are so tight, are you ever able to take a leak? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benj005 Posted July 11, 2014 Author Share Posted July 11, 2014 Thai women have such a bad reputation when it comes to money, so I am always on my guard with my girlfriend. I know its not the right thing to do, but its my personality. I also haven't been in a relationship in a long while. I've only had to spend money on myself. Thai women as a group are generally frugal when it comes to spending money. The exceptions are Thai women who date farangs. Ah...maybe the stories that I've been reading have more to do with the love relationships between bar girls and farang. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JockPieandBeans Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 3500B for gas to Korat??? Get a bus. I can get from Khon Kaen to Bkk in my car for 900 Baht. Any woman that says, "up to you" more than one a year is a money-grabbing ex pro. - dump her before she dumps you. Does she have a job? She had to pay her friend to take us. He also slept the night at her mom's house. I thought 3,500 baht was too much as well. Are you sure the friend is not her husband ? Not that I an being cynical. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chiang mai Posted July 11, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted July 11, 2014 Hmm, the OP is trying to teach his girlfriend of three weeks, financial responsibility and budgeting, some of us having been trying to teach our wives such things for fifteen years or more and still we're not there yet! The other striking point about what was written is the OP's complete lack of understanding of Thai culture, you're going to her mums house for the first time, sure you need to buy her a gift. The part about the car and driver for 3.5k, silly girlfriend for doing that but doubtless she wanted to show an association to farang wealth, the issue there is 90% about "face", the 10% is likely that she wanted you to have a relaxed trip in comfort. Good luck, you've got a way to go yet, 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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