Nigel M Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 (edited) The food was good, and the owner seemed like a fair enough fellow, but his missus there must have thought I didn't speak thai, and for the full hour i was there she was on and on with her girlfriend talking rubbish about every other girl in town, the girlfriends of other farangs, etc. A right gossip hag! It was like listening to a Thai soap opera, but bloody worse! And the whole time she was looking up and down MY missus thinking God knows what. Last time I spend me pension there! Dear Nigel, 'gossip' in Chiang Rai may well be worth a topic in this forum, but as soon as persons are mentioned or clear indications are given who is meant there is a risc that the discussion in itself comes close to gossip as well. So is this is something to talk about, then in general terms please. Limbo Edited August 18, 2006 by Limbo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chang35baht Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 (edited) The food was good, and the owner seemed like a fair enough fellow, but his missus there must have thought I didn't speak thai, and for the full hour i was there she was on and on with her girlfriend talking rubbish about every other girl in town, the girlfriends of other farangs, etc. A right gossip hag! It was like listening to a Thai soap opera, but bloody worse! And the whole time she was looking up and down MY missus thinking God knows what.Last time I spend me pension there! I`m sure I just read this post somewhere else??? Seems to me that there definitely is a gossip in town. Edited August 18, 2006 by Limbo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thomas3940 Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 (edited) Gossip? Thai Women? Oh my never, never! Sorry you had to experience it, I wounder sometimes when I'm sitting somewhere and I hear farang, farang, farang! I just blow it off as words are just words? Oh and the fact that I have no clue what there yagging about! The food was good, and the owner seemed like a fair enough fellow, but his missus there must have thought I didn't speak thai, and for the full hour i was there she was on and on with her girlfriend talking rubbish about every other girl in town, the girlfriends of other farangs, etc. A right gossip hag! It was like listening to a Thai soap opera, but bloody worse! And the whole time she was looking up and down MY missus thinking God knows what.Last time I spend me pension there! Edited August 18, 2006 by Limbo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonkeyes Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 The food was good, and the owner seemed like a fair enough fellow, but his missus there must have thought I didn't speak thai, and for the full hour i was there she was on and on with her girlfriend talking rubbish about every other girl in town, the girlfriends of other farangs, etc. A right gossip hag! It was like listening to a Thai soap opera, but bloody worse! And the whole time she was looking up and down MY missus thinking God knows what.Last time I spend me pension there! Dear Nigel, 'gossip' in Chiang Rai may well be worth a topic in this forum, but as soon as persons are mentioned or clear indications are given who is meant there is a risc that the discussion in itself comes close to gossip as well. So is this is something to talk about, then in general terms please. Limbo *****Sounds merely like someone had a bad experience at an establishment and is merely passing on a critique of the atmosphere, thus warning patrons.. JK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charma Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Nin Ta - a female pastime! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mymechew Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 The food was good, and the owner seemed like a fair enough fellow, but his missus there must have thought I didn't speak thai, and for the full hour i was there she was on and on with her girlfriend talking rubbish about every other girl in town, the girlfriends of other farangs, etc. A right gossip hag! It was like listening to a Thai soap opera, but bloody worse! And the whole time she was looking up and down MY missus thinking God knows what.Last time I spend me pension there! Dear Nigel, 'gossip' in Chiang Rai may well be worth a topic in this forum, but as soon as persons are mentioned or clear indications are given who is meant there is a risc that the discussion in itself comes close to gossip as well. So is this is something to talk about, then in general terms please. Limbo Imagine what was said after you left! Mymechew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little_muppet Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 not all female... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mymechew Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 not all female... Very true Unknown User - just listen in to the bar conversations where the male expats gather. Mymechew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thomas3940 Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Men gossip? No way, were just exchanging important information not all female... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Limbo Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 As we all know, gossipping only takes place, when the persons (or representatives of a group) which are 'reviewed' are not present. When they would join the the gossipping community the subject will be changed. When they sit down within listening distance people will start to whisper. The lady concerned might belong to the segment of the Thai population which doesn't expect (often even doesn't appreciate - 'farang roo maak') when a foreigner understands Thai. That's why she didn't change the subject or started to whisper. Very unprofessional for a person who works in a public place that is frequented by foreigners. Thank goodness the overwhelming majority of Thai people appreciates that foreigners show respect for Thai culture and express that among others by learning Thai. Referring to Mymechew's posting I am indeed afraid that unknown_user could endure a similar horrible experience as Nigel in overhearing a conversation of foreigners which belong to a comparable segment of the expat population. Gossipping is done by men as well as women, by foreigners as well as Thai people, by young and old, but in both Thai and western culture it is considered impolite and 'not done'. Limbo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little_muppet Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I have heard a couple of men foreigners gossiped or i could say looked down on Thai women, coz they didnt know that i know English ,even my grammar skill is bad but my listening skill is the best! sorry to them that i had to make them stop gossiping at that time and emberrasing themself without saying a word . ~Unknown~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mymechew Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 I have heard a couple of men foreigners gossiped or i could say looked down on Thai women, coz they didnt know that i know English ,even my grammar skill is bad but my listening skill is the best! sorry to them that i had to make them stop gossiping at that time and emberrasing themself without saying a word .~Unknown~ Speaking of gossip . . . Unknown User I heard a rumor that you have accepted a well paying position in Bangkok. I do hope you won’t forget our many intimate moments together. I appreciate your invitation to come for a visit but I heard that you also invited Limbo and Erg. Is this true? Mymechew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little_muppet Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 hahaha and Rai too ,for tennis You can join us too . i donno who u are but i think my old dude friend told u about my job in bkk but thats ok. i would be happy to know all of u too but problem is im too far from town.. only around at uni.. and im shy... hehehe that why im staying unknown.. make an appointment with me in advance then..i will manage my time . PS. really i am shy...,... hehe ~ unknown~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jai Dee Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 From the Forum Rules: 8) It is not acceptable to solicit... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonkeyes Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 (edited) I do know of that woman gossiper owner of /name removed/ as well. She is in fact a monster of negativity in that her jealousy rears it's head in the form of lies, mean statements, and trouble causing for other's relationships. Steer clear, she's damaged goods. There's anger begind the smile. Dear Jonkeyes, this is certainly not the funniest moment of moderating, but I had to remove the name again. I heard a similar story from other sources, so I sooner would call it a warning than gossipping. Gossipping is mostly larded with lies (see the funny example of Mymechew). It can damage relationships and cause a lot of annoyance and distress. Gossip comes close to libel and slander. Limbo Edited August 21, 2006 by Limbo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little_muppet Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 lol funny,... i think its just normal for them who have nothing to do in life beside set up a group and bad gossiping to ppl... I HATE THAT TO. no sense, immature,and stupid... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rai! Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 Jonkeyes, why dont you give her something to talk about! rather than get angry over it get even.. Let her gossip about something that might come back and bite her in the ass. I cant think of anything of hand but if I do I will post it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mymechew Posted August 21, 2006 Share Posted August 21, 2006 hahaha and Rai too ,for tennis You can join us too . i donno who u are but i think my old dude friend told u about my job in bkk but thats ok. i would be happy to know all of u too but problem is im too far from town.. only around at uni.. and im shy... hehehe that why im staying unknown.. make an appointment with me in advance then..i will manage my time . PS. really i am shy...,... hehe ~ unknown~ Okay, we’ll keep our relationship a secret but no gossiping with the old guys – they’ll be jealous. Mymechew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mymechew Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 I do know of that woman gossiper owner of /name removed/ as well.She is in fact a monster of negativity in that her jealousy rears it's head in the form of lies, mean statements, and trouble causing for other's relationships. Steer clear, she's damaged goods. There's anger begind the smile. Dear Jonkeyes, this is certainly not the funniest moment of moderating, but I had to remove the name again. I heard a similar story from other sources, so I sooner would call it a warning than gossipping. Gossipping is mostly larded with lies (see the funny example of Mymechew). It can damage relationships and cause a lot of annoyance and distress. Gossip comes close to libel and slander. Limbo The best way to deal with this situation – in a small town like Chiang Rai - is to stop going to this particular place. Malicious gossips eventually get what they deserve. Mymechew Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaddeus Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 I do know of that woman gossiper owner of /name removed/ as well. She is in fact a monster of negativity in that her jealousy rears it's head in the form of lies, mean statements, and trouble causing for other's relationships. Steer clear, she's damaged goods. There's anger begind the smile. Dear Jonkeyes, this is certainly not the funniest moment of moderating, but I had to remove the name again. I heard a similar story from other sources, so I sooner would call it a warning than gossipping. Gossipping is mostly larded with lies (see the funny example of Mymechew). It can damage relationships and cause a lot of annoyance and distress. Gossip comes close to libel and slander. Limbo The best way to deal with this situation – in a small town like Chiang Rai - is to stop going to this particular place. Malicious gossips eventually get what they deserve. Mymechew You mean that they end up getting on the internet and join a forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Limbo Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Gossip, slander, defamation and libel aim to damage the reputation of a person or a group by saying or writing things about them which are not true. This morning I came across an interesting example concerning myself (I got a personal copy of the letter, so I feel free to quote): I have never been rude to Limbo in public or online and I have come to his defence when many and I mean many people slander his lifestyle here in C.R. I have stated to them that people have there problems and casting stones isn't productive. It was sent to a person who doesn't live in Chiang Rai and doesn't know me personnally. Limbo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tayto Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Gossip, slander, defamation and libel aim to damage the reputation of a person or a group by saying or writing things about them which are not true.This morning I came across an interesting example concerning myself (I got a personal copy of the letter, so I feel free to quote): I have never been rude to Limbo in public or online and I have come to his defence when many and I mean many people slander his lifestyle here in C.R. I have stated to them that people have there problems and casting stones isn't productive. It was sent to a person who doesn't live in Chiang Rai and doesn't know me personnally. Limbo Do,tell us more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nigel M Posted August 22, 2006 Author Share Posted August 22, 2006 Maybe that woman whom this thread is about wrote it !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jai Dee Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 It was sent to a person who doesn't live in Chiang Rai and doesn't know me personnally. Who sent it to you because he felt you needed to know what was being said about you. Gossip can be very damaging if misconstrued and/or taken out of context. And it is my experience that those who gossip always get it back ten-fold, when the inhabitants of their little world realise what's really going on... Som num naaaa....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rai! Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 (edited) I have never been rude to Limbo in public or online and I have come to his defence when many and I mean many people slander his lifestyle here in C.R. I have stated to them that people have there problems and casting stones isn't productive. Limbo I think that there is a huge difference between gossip and slander. To gossip about something isnt all that bad! It is only when stories are misconstruied that rumours are started. To gossip is purely sharing of imformation. After all it is a small town gossip is bound to happen. To make assumptions or to slander however are certainly uncalled for. There certainly are far to many people that make judgement of others over something they have heard (not know) about. My point is, these people slandering Limbo about his lifestyle, do they really know about his lifestyle or have they heard rumours of misconstruid truth and believe it to be fact? There is a great little Thai saying that sums this up! ไหว้หน้าหลอกหลัง wai nar lok lung ( people wai to your face and lie and back stab when your back is turned) In The Rai! Edited August 24, 2006 by In the Rai! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goski Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 Well, that's a handfull for you! Isn't "wai to your face but tricks you behind your back" more suitable? The backstabbing bit seems a bit over the top Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rai! Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 Yeh I was probably getting a little carried away but you get the drift! In The Rai! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erg Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 The food was good, and the owner seemed like a fair enough fellow, but his missus there must have thought I didn't speak thai, and for the full hour i was there she was on and on with her girlfriend talking rubbish about every other girl in town, the girlfriends of other farangs, etc. A right gossip hag! It was like listening to a Thai soap opera, but bloody worse! And the whole time she was looking up and down MY missus thinking God knows what.Last time I spend me pension there! Dear Nigel, 'gossip' in Chiang Rai may well be worth a topic in this forum, but as soon as persons are mentioned or clear indications are given who is meant there is a risc that the discussion in itself comes close to gossip as well. So is this is something to talk about, then in general terms please. Limbo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joel Barlow Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 Interesting post Erg. They say there are no secrets in Chiang Rai, and that may well be true But misinformation - well, that's another thing entirely!!! always consider the source, and try to have more than one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rai! Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 Interesting post Erg.They say there are no secrets in Chiang Rai, and that may well be true But misinformation - well, that's another thing entirely!!! always consider the source, and try to have more than one So true Joel, I always believe that you should get your information first hand. No matter who the source is, if you are going to form an opinion than do so by your own encounters or experiences not someone elses because as we all know there are 2 sides to every story. In The Rai! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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