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Why young Isaan ladies marry old farangs?

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Well, once I talked to a Thai man about this phenomenon. He gave me a very impressive explanation. He said, those Thai girls did it as they regard this as "a job" not marriage. After the farang passed away, they can begin their new life with bunch of banknotes on hand. But, my Thai friend who died a month ago was only on her early 40 while her farang husband is already 60 some!

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Curiousity - I checked Wiki re Rupert's wives. The latest was a Chinese. The interesting part - Wiki says that Rupert broke off his relationship with Tony Blair after discovering that Tony was having it off with Dang.

Rupert & Tony?

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Applying to the OP. For financial reasons only, nothing else. This would apply in any country, if you think

that a girl of 20 marries a man of sixty for only love, you are 100% sadly mistaken.

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The real fools are sponsors! They send money to the girl while they are not even here and the girlis doing everyone and anyone! At least the ones that buy a house or live here, the girl is

with him all the time!

Is she??

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Security only security, old man has worked all his life, builds a house, gets a pension, marries Thai lady then when the old man leaves our planet she most likely gets it all, and the house will cost alot more than aything they could ever provide.

Not such a bad thing, the old man is happy for his retirement years much more so than back home where it most probably cold and shitty and feels lonely and what does he need any assets for when he's in wooden box.

Yes.. spot on.. also many Thai women have had bad experiences with Thai partners.. also there isn't the stigma in Thailand of big age differences in relationships.. Taking care of an older guy who pays all the bills and provides a lifestyle they could only otherwise dream of isn't a bad option... especially when the only other option is to work hard in a crappy job and get 300 Bt a day to try to survive on..

My wife is 27 years younger than me.. her daughter lives with us and I have got her through high school and now she is in 3rd year Uni.. without my support she would not have finished high school.. I'm a very lucky guy... a beautiful family who take good care of me .. a good extended family too.. building a house gives me something to do which I enjoy.. and a good asset for them when I pass on... win win..

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Did a good deal of reading before retirement here, still learning, of course but...what I had read about Thai culture led me to believe that 1. Age is traditionally more respected than in my home culture 2. Education was more respected in my home culture 3. There is a focus on family security (yes, you can read steady income) and 4. There is a belief that western males are (earned or not) more monogamous than a goodly number of Thai males (I truly appreciate the Thai male who helps supply a never ending number of pretty 30 something Thai females looking for security).

So, being a retired Professor in his mid-60s, with some funding, well hay, what's not to love! Ha! Played for awhile but I found I wanted a relationship where we could travel together, etc. For a younger lady from Isaan or not, the considerations out weigh the 28 year difference between my wife and myself.

The part about respecting elders is true only between a young Thai and an Older Thai.

We are all still farangs...to the young ones...., and we don't hold the same status as an older Thai.

Especially when you are dealing with young ladies who are on the "take".

Leaving aside the young ladies, I have always found Thais "ducking" if they must pass in front of me and always greeted with a wai, but that is just my experience.

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40 years difference is insane and pathetic .....and a everyone in that kind of marriage needs urgent counseling...but I know many couples with 25 years difference in age that REALLY are in very successful and loving marriages...with one detail. They live in the US, are very active couples, and the Thai girl becomes very "American", learning and enjoying very much the language, the customs, and the culture..

Without a very good communication and understanding, any marriage is just an exchange of convenience, with or without big difference in age, and in any country. The questions is...Why to get married with your housekeeper or your sexual partner.....getting worry with dishonesty, cheating, money, other people's relatives, intrigues, etc, etc, and losing the freedom of a single man life?

Doesn't make sense to me. .

Only LOVE... will make the needs to chose. Being in a marriage without real love.... it is a lot worst than to being alone, at any age. But....feeling alone in Thailand? ....How?... Why?

Here... it is not easy to find the right lifetime companion, but....you can have the best of the 2 worlds while looking...and being alone may be not so bad... not bad at all. My opinion.....

aha ... finally we have the cut off point to when the age difference is acceptable ....... is that only for marriage or is a bigger difference acceptable if you don't marry ?

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Why young Isaan ladies marry old farangs?

Because old farangs won't live long

This all is starting to make sense to me now.

You cannot be first.

You cannot be last.

But you can be next....

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Money. For status, security, education for children.

Like everywhere.

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I'm surprised the moderators hadn't shut this down at the beginning.People must have a lot of time on their hands to read and answer.

Why should the moderators shut this down at all? It is topics like this that keep Thaivisa or any other forum going.

What does it matter whether the topic is done to death or not, there are thousands of members here, and they come

and go all the time, every time the same topic comes up, you get different questions and different answers all the time.

If the Mods start shutting down threads for little reason, there will be less and less members contributing.

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Why do young Issan ladies marry old farangs? LOVE

I have met both Colin & his wife and I can confirm she is "One in a million" wai.gif

I haven't, but hope to soon.

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Why young Isaan ladies marry old farangs?

let me guess ..... $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ whistling.gif certainly not for the good looks.

I just don't understand - my wife is always telling me that I am handsum man. Why is that?

I bet it's not because you are grossly overweight, covered in tattoos, and have facial hair.

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Rather than chat about young ladies, I much prefer debates on visas, cost of living, USA politics etc

I am concerned - I am enjoying this thread.

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But where are you, "normal" farang guys / gals hanging out? I mean those emotionally mature expats guys / girls who want a meaningful relationship (not a business transaction that may turn into love later), a life companion with whom you can really share your inner thoughts... where are you in the LOS?

I am not knocking valid business transactions that work, but they are not for me. I genuinely want to know where I can find other types of personalities!

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