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Why young Isaan ladies marry old farangs?

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I have heard many western Farang ladies say " first marriage is for love and the second for money" . Thais just jump to the second ....

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I am 67yo - wife is 36yo. We have been together for 11 years. She has no Chinese blood.

When you was 36 did you want to bonk a 67 year old woman ? No its disgusting. When you was 25 did you want to bonk a 56 year old hag ? Disgusting

One of the greatest descriptions of the difference between men and women:

Men love with their eyes, women love with their heart.

That said, clearly the reason most of these younger women select an old man is for money and/or perceived security, as many have already indicated. More often then not, the girl is more interested in her family than in herself. Personal experience has demonstrated that often these relationships will evolve a love, as often happens when two people share their life together. You might say it is more the love a daughter would have for her father, but it is more complex than that.

I believe the success rate is probably about average. Being based on money, which is a little more reliable than love, it might be higher, but cultural differences knock that down a bit. But the simple fact that the time horizon is typically much shorter, there is less time for failure. If both parties have a realistic view of what is going on (in other words, the old guy does not stupidly believe this girl has fallen for him like she might for Tom Cruise, and the girl is not trying to grab all of the guy's money for nothing in return), the chance for success is higher.

Those of us who are actually living our lives do not have the time to judge everyone else.

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as long as the guy takes care of her, her kids and family, buys her a house and car and never runs out of money, she will keep him around. I made the mistake of running out of money building a house that cost more than 4 times its original estimate, ... a few weeks later she was gone

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the answer is easy because they are poor and lot are uneducated ,and they think we are rich ,blame the government for the low education standards and not stopping all the scams involving ladies /ladyboys and young boys

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I try not to judge anyone, not my business. I see nothing wrong with relationships between two people who are in the same league. What I mean by that is if an older guy is in good shape, good looking, carries himself well and is secure then I see no problem with him being with a lovely legal young Thai lady. On the other hand if I see a fat, sloppy, ugly older Farang with the same lady I feel a little bit of disgust.

But I can say the same about a fat, sloppy, ugly young Farang being with a lovely Thai girl, I feel the same disgust.

Beautiful people are beautiful at any age and ugly people are ugly at any age. Best not to mix the two :)

But.... Live and let live.

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I try not to judge anyone, not my business. I see nothing wrong with relationships between two people who are in the same league. What I mean by that is if an older guy is in good shape, good looking, carries himself well and is secure then I see no problem with him being with a lovely legal young Thai lady. On the other hand if I see a fat, sloppy, ugly older Farang with the same lady I feel a little bit of disgust.

But I can say the same about a fat, sloppy, ugly young Farang being with a lovely Thai girl, I feel the same disgust.

Beautiful people are beautiful at any age and ugly people are ugly at any age. Best not to mix the two smile.png

But.... Live and let live.

So which are you?

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Observation -in the North, there is not a surplus of affluent men.

Older men - everywhere.

$$$ matters. Of course it does. But, for the discerning lady, $$$ is not everything.

A reasonable amount of $$$ supplemented by honesty, integrity, affection, caring nature DO MATTER TOO.

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I try not to judge anyone, not my business. I see nothing wrong with relationships between two people who are in the same league. What I mean by that is if an older guy is in good shape, good looking, carries himself well and is secure then I see no problem with him being with a lovely legal young Thai lady. On the other hand if I see a fat, sloppy, ugly older Farang with the same lady I feel a little bit of disgust.

But I can say the same about a fat, sloppy, ugly young Farang being with a lovely Thai girl, I feel the same disgust.

Beautiful people are beautiful at any age and ugly people are ugly at any age. Best not to mix the two smile.png

But.... Live and let live.

So which are you?
let's just say I am not ugly, fat or sloppy.... My young lovely gf thinks I am the most handsome man in the world.... Hahaha.... Maybe she's right :) but maybe she needs glasses :(

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I guess you could say that who the hell cares. As long as Isaan wifey and old farang are both happy then so what - age is just a number right.

My opinion is that it is all about security, not necessarily money.

Even a life with an old skint farang in Isaan where she can still eat som tam and nam pla raa every day is better than life with a skint Thai bloke her same age.

And it's also better than the other alternatives of working 16 hour days in some factory, working in a rice paddy or working the bars in Pattaya.

However, if old farang happens to have a bit of cash in his back pocket and is willing to shower her in gold, iPhones, cars, houses and god knows whatever else then Isaan wifey must wake up thinking she's won the lottery everyday. All them trips to the temple weren't in vain after all.

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I recognise that people marry for different reasons. Having recently relocated from Chiang Mai to Isaan, I observe this occurrence often. I do not mean a 10 year age gap - more a 40 year age gap.

Naturally, $$$ (lack thereof) is a reason.

Other reasons?

The success rate of such a relationship compared to the average?

Who cares? When it comes down to it, someone else's life means very little to mine or my family.

Why ask why?

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They'll be able to buy gold, or just be given it, along with a house in their own name, monthly salary many times that of the minimum wage. Then they'll only have to sleep with them once a week or so. For a few years. then they might even get a pension.

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You may be surprised at the number of times the young lady may have to sleep with the old geezer. Sexual dysfunction has a lot to do with the partner. If the partner is old and unattractive, the sex drive diminishes; however, if they are young and sexy, the old boy raises his head and opens his eye. At least, that's what they tell me.

Many farang gray beards want a change from their working lives and their home-country families for their final years. The kids are usually grown and gone; the spouses are divorced, dead, or no longer compatible; and the finances are sufficient to try anew. A new arrangement is often the key to a happier existence. As the Thais say, um mia pai tern.

The only problem I see is if the benefits are one-sided--if the young gf/wife only wants the money and does not care for the old fart. Whatever the geriatric gives in assets, he usually considers well spent, if the gf/wife provides him the care he desires.

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"Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs"

has relevance to this thread.

All of us aspire for the highest but few achieve it.

How many Thais do you know that have risen to the top of Maslow's pyramid, self-actualization? In my opinion, not many as most are still concerned with survival on a day to day basis...

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I am 67yo - wife is 36yo. We have been together for 11 years. She has no Chinese blood.

When you was 36 did you want to bonk a 67 year old woman ? No its disgusting. When you was 25 did you want to bonk a 56 year old hag ? Disgusting

Yes, but for a house and acre of land or a 4 year scholarship I'd of boink the hell out of her.

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