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Kenny202

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Live up country Isaan in a village. Take one of the local ladies and her kid 20km to the hospital last week. Paid for medicine even paid for lunch. Happy to help. I've long since gotten past hurt feelings over no thank yous or displays of gratitude but she turns up at our house today wanting to sell my missus a bag of mushrooms for 50 baht. Wouldn't you think she'd want to return the favor? Or the woman accross the road who sold my missus a chicken, then invited herself to come and help eat it. Hard to understand in anyone's culture.

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Medicine for kids is totally free in any government hospital (not just the one they are registered in).

You were done over.

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Thanks Joe you suspicious old bstrd haha. Have u seen the meds the hospital dish out? I bought the kid a few things from the pharmacy (personally :-) to help the kids breathing issues

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I had a bit of a moving sale just before exiting LOS, and one customer, we’ll call her Rice Shop Lady, bought a lot.

She’s quite wealthy and even though I started at a very fair price, she pleaded, and begged, and wrung her hands, and whined like a 10,000kw turbine, beating me down in price.

Some stuff still in the box. A 13,000 baht water purifier went for 4,000. An 8,000 baht water heater for 3,000. And a 12,500 convection oven for 4,000.

No problem. Take it and enjoy it, I say.

A few days later I go to her store and bag myself one kilo of rice. I take it to her at the counter and say hi, how is everything?

Big smile.

Oh, very good, thanks.

No problems with anything you bought?

No, no, very happy.

I hold up the tiny bag of rice, return her smile, and give my eyebrows my best Groucho wiggle.

She says, 36 baht.

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It's not just some people in Thailand.I believe it's that way all over the world.I really believe it's how the individual person was

Raised.There are so many 1 way people in the world it's unbelievable.I've got to the point I never think A person will do me A

Favor just because I do them one.But the way I was raised I won't stop helping people.

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OP, No matter how someone treats you it doesn't diminish the kind favor you did. If you get ripped off that's not about you and you shouldn't stop doing favors. You wanted to help the kid and you did. Good for you. I'd let it go at that.

Cheers.

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Did you buy the mushrooms? You probably did as well...

I would of said, "shove the mushrooms where the sun don't shine....and next time, take the bus".

They wouldn't sucker me twice....

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Yeah Mrs bought the mushrooms. Look I don't feel suckered. I did help her because I wanted to. I just don't understand their thinking?

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I learnt a long time ago to just ignore all the pleas of thais in our village about them not having any money. There are more new cars in our village than in an average small village in england.

The best lesson i got was a few weeks after i moved here. I never minded buying a few beers for the thais. But one day we were walking past a local mom and pop shop, where 3 thai guys were having a drink, they called out for me to join them but i said i wasn't having a drink that day. One of them said something in thai to my wife, i asked her what he had said. she replied he said to tell you that you don't have to drink anything, just buy it. Since that day i usually drink alone.

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I learnt a long time ago to just ignore all the pleas of thais in our village about them not having any money. There are more new cars in our village than in an average small village in england.

The best lesson i got was a few weeks after i moved here. I never minded buying a few beers for the thais. But one day we were walking past a local mom and pop shop, where 3 thai guys were having a drink, they called out for me to join them but i said i wasn't having a drink that day. One of them said something in thai to my wife, i asked her what he had said. she replied he said to tell you that you don't have to drink anything, just buy it. Since that day i usually drink alone.

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I learnt a long time ago to just ignore all the pleas of thais in our village about them not having any money. There are more new cars in our village than in an average small village in england.

The best lesson i got was a few weeks after i moved here. I never minded buying a few beers for the thais. But one day we were walking past a local mom and pop shop, where 3 thai guys were having a drink, they called out for me to join them but i said i wasn't having a drink that day. One of them said something in thai to my wife, i asked her what he had said. she replied he said to tell you that you don't have to drink anything, just buy it. Since that day i usually drink alone.

Can't blame the guys for testing the waters. You'd only been there a few weeks and it takes time for you to learn who are freeloaders and who are just having a go at you. Can't count the times I've been drinking a few beers at home in the evening and it turns into a drink fest. I'm not asked to buy, sometimes they toss down money for the booze and the party continues.

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Used to rile me that I would take the extended family on say a long weekend holiday and pay for lots of stuff, then on arrival home they would all pile out of the car without a word of thanks. Then I realised that Isaan people tend to do stuff within families without any gratitudes being shown or expected. Politeness is reserved for strangers and remoter living friends&family in Thailand - no hellos, goodbyes and thank yous within the wide circle of families and friends who live cheek by jowl.

I still carry my western culture with me and I thank the ladies of the family when they have made food for me (at least half the evening meals are taken at baan yai) which sometimes I have indirectly paid for sometimes not, or when neighbours bring the beer. It must be sinking in - I noticed that some thanked me when we got back from a long weekend yesterday!

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The very word for selfish in Thai (hen gaae dtuua) literally 'see, taken care of yourself' sums it up. A simple please or thank you sometimes seems not to be part of their vocabulary. Maybe it's because that when dealing with a farang they are shy and tongue tied. Many Thais on the other hand are courteous and generous. I've tried to educate my Thai kids that 'manners maketh man' but I suspect many parents don't bother.

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My wife is constantly having people in her village asking her to borrow money. When it comes to money Thai people are not shy! The only family we loan money to live across the road and have helped my wife on countless occasions. The rest of the idiots in the village are jealous and talk a lot behind her back so they get no consideration.

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Gave my gf's daughter 40.000 Baht for university inscription fee, shortly after she got pregnant, stopped her studies.

Bought her a decent mattress for 8.000 Baht so she doesn't have to sleep on the floor. No "Thank you" in either case. Now the baby is born and my gf is telling me what to buy for the baby. I am fed up supporting people without manners, style or pride.

C'mon, Thai culture... what culture ?

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