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What you have to understand is in Thailand the rich pay, farang or Thai, doesn't matter. I have a Thai friend who is very wealthy, and always pays. I stopped trying to pay many years ago. My Thai brother-in-law came home from slaving in the sugar cane fields and took us all out to barbecue, he paid. As far as saying thank you, my family always says thank you.

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What you have to understand is in Thailand the rich pay, farang or Thai, doesn't matter. I have a Thai friend who is very wealthy, and always pays. I stopped trying to pay many years ago. My Thai brother-in-law came home from slaving in the sugar cane fields and took us all out to barbecue, he paid. As far as saying thank you, my family always says thank you.

Exactly! same here.

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I have been living in Thailand for five and a half years and in my experience and as most of the above illustrate, Thais always assume that the farang (the fruit that you can eat all of until it is all gone) has more money than they do and is happy to pay for everything. Most in truth have very little (go into their houses to confirm this) and those that do would see no obligation to help a farang pay a restaurant bill. I am not sure if I would act very differently faced with the same situation back in the UK. The issue of saying thank you is a bit different and I am very afraid that many Thais see it as a weakness on their part voicing these 2 words - which I find reprehensible and pathetic.

well I guess it depends who your circle of friends are. I frequently go out on weekends with my wife and some of her friends and often they insist on paying the bill. Even if I say I would like to pay because they paid last time or I would like to split the bill. I think it's more that some people like to show their generosity or that they have a lot money and like to invite others.

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My GF's parents just left and in all of the years I have never heard her father say 'thank you' for anything.

I have given him a super-bright LED head torch for use on his farm, the odd bottle of Jack Daniels from duty free and all manner of free food while they were here.

Plus, if at any time he feels hungry or thirsty, he thinks it's fine to go through the fridge and have whatever he wants. The nice bit of cake I got for supper, the last bottle of cold beer - anything.

And he will happily sit watching satellite TV all day while I am busy clearing out drains or cutting grass.

Oh - and the motorbike puts on a lot of km while he is here. He has never asked if it is OK to use it.

Is this normal behaviour ?. He is 100% red-shirt and doesn't help my opinion of them one little bit.

Her mum is fine though. Polite and always in the garden helping out.

Ah the joy in knowing hot to say NO.

Holy <deleted> Maria and Joseph !!!

And he will happily sit watching satellite TV all day while I am busy clearing out drains or cutting grass

It seems that you do not cut the right type of it, otherwise you wouldn't come up with such nonsense, Mr. "Engish John." You're a joke, English John.

You seem to be a lot cheaper than Scotts are and that means a lot to me. Do you really think that he even knows how much you've paid ( guess you're gone by now) for your shitty satellite TV?

You've completely missed the plot.

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I don't mind what they do.Except putting on Hotel California on every time I eat or drink

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My GF's parents just left and in all of the years I have never heard her father say 'thank you' for anything.

I have given him a super-bright LED head torch for use on his farm, the odd bottle of Jack Daniels from duty free and all manner of free food while they were here.

Plus, if at any time he feels hungry or thirsty, he thinks it's fine to go through the fridge and have whatever he wants. The nice bit of cake I got for supper, the last bottle of cold beer - anything.

And he will happily sit watching satellite TV all day while I am busy clearing out drains or cutting grass.

Oh - and the motorbike puts on a lot of km while he is here. He has never asked if it is OK to use it.

Is this normal behaviour ?. He is 100% red-shirt and doesn't help my opinion of them one little bit.

Her mum is fine though. Polite and always in the garden helping out.

Maybe it comes from your attitude ...

As for you the family of my wife likes to watch the screen ghent and drink fresh beer And since they are poor they can not turn around politeness.

But they largely give me the equivalent by performing free small maintenance to our house. Sometimes I have to insist that the stepfather loose tools and enjoys a moment of friendship. This example to show that your truth is not general.

That said I knew also profiteers. But they have benefited only once. Then I told my wife to translate a universal principle: "give and take."

But what if you do all the 'giving', but there is nothing there to 'take'? My wife's family are great compared to some I read on here, when her Dad comes to stay, he grafts from morning 'til night with a smile all the time. I am very happy with my in laws....they don't even need to show gratitude to me, because they know, and I know that their daughter is happy, and that's what matters....

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It would appear that farangs don't understand each other here..so how can you expect to understand the Thais.

Q.: What are the biggest enemies of a farang living in Thailand? facepalm.gif

A.: Other farang.thumbsup.gif

But why? Thailand use to be a place you came and no one really cared about what others were doing , otherwise what's the point of being here..

Why does it hurt when I pee? facepalm.gif

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It would appear that farangs don't understand each other here..so how can you expect to understand the Thais.

Q.: What are the biggest enemies of a farang living in Thailand? facepalm.gif

A.: Other farang.thumbsup.gif

But why? Thailand use to be a place you came and no one really cared about what others were doing , otherwise what's the point of being here..

Why does it hurt when I pee? facepalm.gif

Why does it hurt to try to understand what you write ?

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Wow. I agree and can relate to everyone. It seems everytime we visit, my wife always seems to spring something her mother, brother, pre-adult boys don't have. God forbid the boys earn their keep. Suddenly, they're babies. I don't mind spending on her mother and the working brother. But the boys don't lift a finger except to eat. My wife explained once they are 18, they would move out..Somehow, why would they. Eat free. Sleep free. Get their clothes wash free. Everything they need, they steal. When I leave, forget receiving a wan. Thankfully, my wife stop loaning money to the village. Halfway home.

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10 years ago we moved from our rented house to the newly build one near her parents (1km)

The whole family helped loading the truck and I invited them to a moo-kata. They did not like it. Seems they never went to a restaurant in their lives (if you can call that a restaurant)

Never had a repeat. They never come to our place uninvited and don't open the fridge when they are invited. But yes, they don't know the words Hello or Thank you.

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It maybe condescending but it is also true. The housing estate I live in is probably the most expensive in our area. Most of my neighbours are Thai, well educated and well mannered. Neighbours are both doctors. All our neighbours say hello when we pass, exchange gifts at New Year and if we give their kids a small gift after we return from overseas are always grateful. Similarly if they have been away they will usually

knock on the door with some small gift from where they went.

This is definitely not a place I would like to live in and I do not consider it a better class.

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Paying the bills / inviting someone is mostly part of the showing off game.

So, either you want to show off with your money, you invite somebody (e.g. family of mia noi) or you just do it for fun and don't need people to be thankful or you simply don't spend money on anybody.

Would be really weird to hear a thank you from my in-lawys if we go eat and I pay if I consider how weird it would be if my own mother/father would say "thank you" for a dinner.

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Paying the bills / inviting someone is mostly part of the showing off game.

So, either you want to show off with your money, you invite somebody (e.g. family of mia noi) or you just do it for fun and don't need people to be thankful or you simply don't spend money on anybody.

Would be really weird to hear a thank you from my in-lawys if we go eat and I pay if I consider how weird it would be if my own mother/father would say "thank you" for a dinner.

The way I was brought up, I thanked my parents for everything. It is called appreciation and is usually reciprocated.

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It is called appreciation and is usually reciprocated.

Exactly and an expressed "thank you" would reduce it to the exact base some clerk saying "thank you" receiving the money for the groceries.

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