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My gf's mom won't let her leave Thailand....

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I don't understand how everyone else seems to have these girlfriends who are so happy to move to some western country or go wherever with their foreigner bf. The plan was my gf was going to pop over to the states in July for a first ever sibling reunion in my family. Kind of good opportunity for her to meet my family all at once together.
Now her mom says she cannot leave Thailand this year at all...something she was advised at the temple....
This is bs man...
First she said no to a week in SG...then she said no to a maroon 5 concert in sao paulo brazil and month traveling around there...now she says no to USA and meeting my family. We were planning to move to Japan after that...my gf even has family running a restaurant there...but nope..no dice. I am not feeling Thailand.I need a few years to travel around somewhere else and the MIL is ruining all the plans.
Am I the only foreigner who has met a thai gf whose family refuses to allow her to travel the world?

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Are you sure it isn't the gf who doesn't want to go? Many Thais have a difficult time leaving Thailand and their families. I wouldn't be so quick to say that other guys have that so easy. Also, many leave and get homesick and want to go back which is something you might consider.

Cheers.

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Ya I am not sure but she always is crying after these "talks" with her mom...she just graduated college and its perfect gap year time for her...she is working a dead end job and I think what my gf really wants is to go to the US to work for awhile and "save for the future" ... making 300 bht a day vs 400 bht per hour is the big appeal for her....I really do believe her mom is putting the kabosh...I mean a week in SG whats up witha big fat no to that? Actually it was her cousin who said no...who we would need to cover for her...her mom wasn't even asked...her mom is super freaked out that her daughter may be living with me...which she is and has been for a year...unbeknownst to the family...and she is also super freaked out her daughter will be sold into sex slavery or something weird if she travels abroad...bs man....

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and she is also super freaked out her daughter will be sold into sex slavery or something weird if she travels abroad...bs man....

I had this issue come up when I took my wife to Singapore and a cruise for five days. One of her family members thought I was going to sell her into a sex slave ring. I told her to tell him that the only sex that was happening was going to be with me, but she declined to pass that info on to her family. tongue.png

We talked about it before we left because frankly I was curious. She asked a bit and a "friend of a friend's cousin" went to Singapore with a farang to never return. My fiance admitted after the fact that all the slavery talk even got to her a bit (and she had been to Europe and Korea before with a Thai group, so it's not like she had never left the country), but after that one trip with me, now it's "where are we going next?"

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My little experience in Thailand:

Thais usually get homesick in very short time and no salary can change that. So think about that twice, especially if she has never been abroad.

If you talk and behave like this in front of your Gf's mother then I'm not surprised she doesn't want her to go.

Actually, it's nice to see that some mothers caring their daughters. I wish more mamas do that in Thailand.

... and don't fight for your Gf with her family, you will not win.

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Now her mom says she cannot leave Thailand this year at all...something she was advised at the temple....

I would think your GF need to be into Thailand when she gets married to her Thai BF, (future husband) the family has picked for her.

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she having a clandestine relationship with the monks at the temple?

Maybe its her husband who wont let her go on holiday

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Ya I am not sure but she always is crying after these "talks" with her mom...she just graduated college and its perfect gap year time for her...she is working a dead end job and I think what my gf really wants is to go to the US to work for awhile and "save for the future" ... making 300 bht a day vs 400 bht per hour is the big appeal for her....I really do believe her mom is putting the kabosh...I mean a week in SG whats up witha big fat no to that? Actually it was her cousin who said no...who we would need to cover for her...her mom wasn't even asked...her mom is super freaked out that her daughter may be living with me...which she is and has been for a year...unbeknownst to the family...and she is also super freaked out her daughter will be sold into sex slavery or something weird i about her Motheo worryf she travels abroad...bs man....

Be sure to tell the US Embassy your GF wants to work in the states when she applies for her VISA! You won't have to worry about

her Mother! She'll stay in Thailand for at least ten more years!

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I know your gf is young and maybe this does not apply, but most educated Thai women don't want to leave Thailand for a "better" life in the West.

This might have been the case in the past, but Thais today (FB) are aware that life in the West is a lonely, miserable affair. My wife is in contact with many women who moved to Canada and every single one is regretting the decision. Now, I know it's "Canada", but still......

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Get formally married with your girl friend paying a nice sinsod...and your future mother in law will change her mind very fast....

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I know your gf is young and maybe this does not apply, but most educated Thai women don't want to leave Thailand for a "better" life in the West.

This might have been the case in the past, but Thais today (FB) are aware that life in the West is a lonely, miserable affair. My wife is in contact with many women who moved to Canada and every single one is regretting the decision. Now, I know it's "Canada", but still......

Canada? Too cccccold, no Thai in their right mind will move to a place where it's winter most of the year.

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taking responsibility for decisions, especially negative ones is not a thai's strong point. they will almost always divert responsibility to another person/event - as is possibly happening in this case. my guess is that your gf doesnt really want to leave thailand but is unable culturally or due to lack of personality able to tell you clearly.

the reasons for her wanting to remain here could be ascertained from how/where you met her and what her job is. does she have a good job/career here? maybe she doesnt want to be a housewife stuck at home all day in a foreign country. was she a bar girl? maybe staying here is more profitable for her...

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Try dating Thai women older than twenty.

They don't have to do what their mum tells them.

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go talk to mom and make sure when you pull out your wallet to show her a photo of your moms house,she see's the big fat wad of 1,000bht.notes.

that should do the trick.

give mom the come on feeling that might help also..

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