SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Recently, my wife and I happened to be passing through a provincial Thai city. The kind of place that doesn't see a lot of tourists, but has a few expats around. The place we stayed in had a bar/restaurant attached where we spent the evening. The rest of the clientele consisted mainly of older farang males with younger Thai wives - my wife was the only farang woman in the place all night. Fair enough, there's nothing wrong with that, and we happily settled in to eat a nice meal and enjoy a few beers. Forever, several of the farang men spent the evening glaring angrily in my wife's direction like she was something I'd scraped off the sole of my shoe - to the point where she ended up feeling rather uncomfortable and we decided to leave. So what's that all about? Why would farang expat men be so upset by the presence of a farang woman? Were we encroaching on 'their' territory somehow? Should we not be allowed to enjoy a nice meal and a few beers without bothering anybody? It was an odd experience, and I'd be grateful for any insight anyone might be able to offer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stoneyboy Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Which city ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 Which city ? Does it matter? I'd prefer not to make this about pointing the blame at one particular expat community. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stoneyboy Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 It's matters enough for you to post your story on here. Why not go the whole hog and divulge all the information,I actually think the location of said city could be an influence on the behaviour of said Farang. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eclipse Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 This sounds so odd that I doubt that it actually happened. Why would it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 This sounds so odd that I doubt that it actually happened. Why would it? That's very much the question I'm asking. Why would it happen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
namatjira Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Maybe they got bitten by a female farang and are just scared to see one again.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stoneyboy Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Perhaps she's a stunner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickJ Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Sand to the beach sydrome?... You escaped with what counts and they didnt....jealously perhaps?....Resentment.....Guilt....or maybe it was in your mind?.....bottom line dog, we all know your situation so who cares? this is los.......so nothing matters unless you make it matter.....btw...I would be happy to have you and the missus at my table.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 That's very nice of you to say so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richard_smith237 Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 In your mind or your Wife's Mind ???? stigma creating further stigma ? Sometimes eyes wonder, we all look around at others etc... Could it be that the Older Western chappy's with their younger Thai Ladies felt they were being judged by your Western Wife ? I find it difficult to comprehend anyone felling uncomfortable with anyone else, whoever they are, unless they are outwardly being inappropriate, behaving poorly etc.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 We were just quietly sitting in the corner minding our own business. No inappropriate behaviour or judging involved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kurtramsbottom Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Why didnt you say something to the nasty men ?I mean it is not like you are shy at giving your opinion on here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 Why didnt you say something to the nasty men ?I mean it is not like you are shy at giving your opinion on here! It's hardly something worth making a scene about, plus I wouldn't want to embarrass the people they're with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kurtramsbottom Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Begs the question why you started a topic about it then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 Begs the question why you started a topic about it then. Because I was curious to see if anyone could offer any insight into this behaviour. I'm surprised that would need explaining, but then this place is full of surprises. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JHolmesJr Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 I personally am a bit annoyed by non thai, non-working women coming to places where hos congregate, just to get a frisson of pleasure at their own naughtiness. They are not there for barfining per se...just for the thrill of seeing prostitutes and thinking theyre being quite edgy. But ive learnt to live with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 I personally am a bit annoyed by non thai, non-working women coming to places where hos congregate, just to get a frisson of pleasure at their own naughtiness. They are not there for barfining per se...just for the thrill of seeing prostitutes and thinking theyre being quite edgy. But ive learnt to live with it. This wasn't a place featuring prostitutes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trd Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Begs the question why you started a topic about it then.Because I was curious to see if anyone could offer any insight into this behaviour.I'm surprised that would need explaining, but then this place is full of surprises. You have just discovered that the bunch of losers in the restaurant are remarkably similar to the bunch of losers making comments about your post. Welcome to TVF. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kurtramsbottom Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Begs the question why you started a topic about it then.Because I was curious to see if anyone could offer any insight into this behaviour.I'm surprised that would need explaining, but then this place is full of surprises. You have just discovered that the bunch of losers in the restaurant are remarkably similar to the bunch of losers making comments about your post. Welcome to TVF. Hiya mate how are ye? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rijit Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 First time i ever came across a European 'brothel' was in Hamburg in the early 80' a plushly decorated v v comfortable bar and was virtually empty so me and the ex quite innocently, thb we didn't know what it was, went in and sat and had a beer,, to say there was v soon a hostile atmosphere aimed towards us would be mild we soon left. It was explained to us later, at that time, men with women didn't go into those bars, as it was seen by both men and women as we were a threat to their 'business'. Not saying soi bikers situ is the same but it did make me think of that time, so take of it as you wish. Sent from my GT-I9000 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djayz Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Ignore them and enjoy your dinner. You and your wife should enjoy your night out - irrespective of who's looking at you (if they are actually looking at you). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy Joe Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 In my country women have a very severe judgment against men who have left their country to continue primarily to patronize young women freed from feminist excesses. Especially when they have more 40 years and their dominance in the couple had lead in the wing. It is likely that these people who have made a wry face your wife were having some sort of defensive resentment toward a person who could have a negative judgment on what they have become. I also think that this a priori distrust disappears after a few minutes of friendly conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silverado Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 I personally am a bit annoyed by non thai, non-working women coming to places where hos congregate, just to get a frisson of pleasure at their own naughtiness. They are not there for barfining per se...just for the thrill of seeing prostitutes and thinking theyre being quite edgy. But ive learnt to live with it. This wasn't a place featuring prostitutes. i think you should tell us where it happened... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ttthailand Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 I have received some dirty looks from Farang women a few times when I am with my young lovely girlfriend. I don't really care nor does my gf but we have laughed about it a few time knowing that the women in question were aware that we were aware and having a laugh. So perhaps your wife gave a judgmental look which caused their reaction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 I personally am a bit annoyed by non thai, non-working women coming to places where hos congregate, just to get a frisson of pleasure at their own naughtiness. They are not there for barfining per se...just for the thrill of seeing prostitutes and thinking theyre being quite edgy. But ive learnt to live with it. This wasn't a place featuring prostitutes. i think you should tell us where it happened... I have no desire to name and shame a particular business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silverado Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 really curious to know where this happened... wich city ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 The location is irrelevant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silverado Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 The location is irrelevant. wich city ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 Norwich? The city in question must have a rather small expat community. I'm not trying to point a finger at them in particular. Don't waste your time asking again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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