bob1900 Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 Hello all, I am a 48 yr german and have currently a thai gf of 26. I meet her a few months ago on msn and visited her some times in bkk. She says she loves me and she want to marry me. How can i know if she really loves me ? Anybody has experience with this ? Thanks, Bob Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farangsay Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 (edited) It might be an indication if she actually asks you for money. Just treat her nice and stay on your guard and see how it goes. PS on a percentage basis , the answer is probably yes. Edited November 4, 2006 by farangsay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dutch Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 Just do some research on this board. You will have enough reading material for the next months Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pumpuiman Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 does she work? What's her story? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tywais Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 A wise Thai lady told me many years ago, when I found out a girl I had only known for two weeks was willing to marry me, that Thai girls marry for many different reasons - but love is not always on the top of the list. Security comes up high on the list, family support, bad experiences with Thai gentlemen and many more. Just give it time and see if she drops any surprises - such as one called 'the sick buffalo syndrome'. Other symptoms, stopping at a gold shop at every other soi. Barring my bad sense of humour from above, to me, love is not what she says but what she does. Look for the small things, her consideration of your finances, her doing things for you spontaneously and other things. How well do you two communicate is important also. You will probably receive as many different answers here as there are posters. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Dong Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 These are the rules I follow... For the first 6 months dont give her any large handouts, keep track of how much cash you have given / spent directly on presents... DO NOT give in total per month more than half what she would earn in 1 month... Use a base salary rate of 10'000 baht for students/normal girlys, etc unless u know they earn more than that... So call it 5'000 spread through out the month, continue like this for 6 months and if shes still with you without being a moody cvnt then you maybe have a good un who actually likes u If she gradually becomes a biatch, starts demanding money for sick buffalos, mothers cancer, says she needs to get another job because she doesnt have enough money and therefore cannot see you anymore as she will be to busy working. Half the 5'000 and see how long she hangs around. @ least you have had a 150 baht a day cheap whore for said amount of time 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaddeus Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 (edited) " How To Know If A Thai Gf Use You For Money..?" Good question... a very good question. There are only two possible outcomes. 1. She is, and you won't realise it until it is too late. 2. She isn't and you will live happily every after. Tell tale signs..... do you take turns to pay for the noodles, or is it heavily weighted on one side? //edit/spelling Edited November 4, 2006 by Thaddeus 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bisto Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 These are the rules I follow... For the first 6 months dont give her any large handouts, keep track of how much cash you have given / spent directly on presents... DO NOT give in total per month more than half what she would earn in 1 month... Use a base salary rate of 10'000 baht for students/normal girlys, etc unless u know they earn more than that... So call it 5'000 spread through out the month, continue like this for 6 months and if shes still with you without being a moody cvnt then you maybe have a good un who actually likes u If she gradually becomes a biatch, starts demanding money for sick buffalos, mothers cancer, says she needs to get another job because she doesnt have enough money and therefore cannot see you anymore as she will be to busy working. Half the 5'000 and see how long she hangs around. @ least you have had a 150 baht a day cheap whore for said amount of time Not all thai ladys are BG A VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE. or be addressed as Half the 5'000 and see how long she hangs around. @ least you have had a 150 baht a day cheap whore for said amount of time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nam Kao Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 (edited) Try this little test and i sugest all you guys out there courting these little money magnets to do this to check yourself. Tell her "Oh i had bad luck and lost alot of $$$ (stock market, business collapsed or just make something up) and play it up big, grab onto her and start fake crying, really pour it on, go hang off the balcony threatening to jump. Pretend you are going to drink a bottle of bleach. Hang a noose your living room and put a chair under it and just stare at it the whole time she is there while mumbling to yourself. and then immediately CUT WAY DOWN on your spending and cry poor mouth. Dont buy anything, complain about paying for 20 baht soup moo, etc etc etc , be creative here. Ask her to pay for stuff. Only have 100 baht in your wallet. Open an account with only 7,000 baht in it and leave the atm receipts out in the open. Visit the ATM and pretend "no money come out" and walk away sad. Tell her you cant come out tonight because friday nights are the best nights for begging on Soi Suk. Keep this up for a few weeks, and i guarantee you - you will see her true stripes. Either she will be gone searching for the next victim or she will stay with you and you will be able to trust her more after this. It also sets a good precedent where you wont have to buy her much in the future because she thinks your broke. But do this for yourself especially if your considering marriage. This is the land of scams, be on top of your game. PM me for more ideas, i'll be glad to help. -nam Edited November 4, 2006 by Nam Kao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnnyk Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 Assume she is in it for the money and then pay close attention to her. The rest is up to you and your powers of observation. There are many good ones out there, generally not in bars. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
britmaveric Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 Don't give her any dosh - would you do so in the west? Prob not. Anything above normal dating relationship is excessive. Not to mention you only known her a short time as well, so that should limit any chatter of dosh. Trust me - become obvious after a while if this is truely what she is after... use your head on your shoulders and you should be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
backflip Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 Exactly! Why would guys do things here they wouldn't consider in their home country? Getting married after knowing a woman for two months - incredible! Giving her money because she asked for it - amazing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BKK90210 Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 You know you're an unattractive guy and your are dating a really hot chick. Don't be a fool. If you think you have a classic "Beauty & the Beast" story" - say you have a face that seems to got run over by a truck at least 5 times, and she's young & the hottest chick you've ever dated. If you are situated as above, you need to look in the mirror and give yourself a dose of reality because the woman you are dating isn’t really interested in you. If you HAVE to ask yourself this question: - Why is it that all of a sudden this really hot girl likes me, when I previously couldn’t dream of getting a girl like this before I got a lot of cash? Then there is probably an issue You are doing yourself a favor, avoiding heartbreak, and saving yourself a bundle of cash in the process by investigating this further. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulysses G. Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 You know you're an unattractive guy and your are dating a really hot chick. Don't be a fool. If you think you have a classic "Beauty & the Beast" story" - say you have a face that seems to got run over by a truck at least 5 times, and she's young & the hottest chick you've ever dated. If you are situated as above, you need to look in the mirror and give yourself a dose of reality because the woman you are dating isn’t really interested in you. ...But maybe she has a thing for fat, ugly old guys with micro-penises, hairy backs and bad breath! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poorfarang Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 You 'met her a few times in bangkok' and now she wants to marry you? I will enjoy reading your "My GF robbed me" post in 3 months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guardian Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 How were your actions towards her prior to her asking to marry you? Did you show off too much wealth to her or were you either frugal or kee neow? This action makes a difference and someone might answer accordingly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skippybangkok Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 Not to difficult. Be super stingy for the first year or so. If they are really out for the cash, most would have moved on in a few months. If they hang around, it means there is something more than $$. Had one GF years back who asked after the 3rd week of dating when I would buy her a car, house and some company stock ( shares ). Although extremely cute, she had difficulty understanding why she got dumped like brick. Had another who borrowed money from her mum to buy a car, and kinda thought it was my role to make the installments to mum after about 2 months of dating..... she caught on quickly that was not gonna happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BKK90210 Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 You know you're an unattractive guy and your are dating a really hot chick. Don't be a fool. If you think you have a classic "Beauty & the Beast" story" - say you have a face that seems to got run over by a truck at least 5 times, and she's young & the hottest chick you've ever dated. If you are situated as above, you need to look in the mirror and give yourself a dose of reality because the woman you are dating isn’t really interested in you. ...But maybe she has a thing for fat, ugly old guys with micro-penises, hairy backs and bad breath! Or maybe she have meet several men that from the outside looked very handsum. But once they opened their mouth....they then became the most ugliest men she has ever seen! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaiChai Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 (edited) Money cannot buy you love Time is the best test of any relationship. Statistically speaking this type of relationship wont last. After quite a few relationships with ladies its tough staying single here, but I am trying My advice: don't take any relationship with a Thai too seriously. Let it take its course and don't spend much money up front. You need to spend a little to show that you are not totally stingy! Thais seem to move in and out of relationships, especially the young, and make and break friends very easily. You would not marry quickly back home and here you have a different language and culture to deal with. Thus take even more time! Farangs seem so keen to get into a long term relationship, while the true picture here is if you are man and have some money, you are king of the hill and can do pretty much as you want. So enjoy rather then get into a long term commitment too quickly You can call the shots, but keeping to the polite Thai way of doing things! My current lady friend seems to be looking for that elusive perfect farang. I know she has a string of farang friends from abroad and she knows I have a wife and an ex girlfriend. So touche? hehe. What I need is more of those beautiful college girls My ex asked me if I was a playboy. I said 'noooo' I am waiting to meet the perfect lady (does she exist? maybe I can have alot of fun looking?)... Edited November 5, 2006 by MaiChai Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 A friend of mine is from Germany. He was married to a Thai lady. They divorced and he remarried. His ex-wife has somehow gotten him into Court in Germany and is laying claim to his property (or money) in Germany. I don't know exactly how this is happening, but he was pretty sure everything was safe and now it turns out it's not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RAZZELL Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 One way or another you always pay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Jones Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 she must love him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teej Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 come on people.... TROLL!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaoPo Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 come on people.... TROLL!!!!!!!!!! Some people have bad eyes...... TROLL LaoPo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rumourz Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Can't there be "Love at First Sight"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markuk Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 whats her msn id, lets see how many other board members she really loves?hehe Why would you treat a relationship with a Thai girl any different to a woman from another country? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lingyai Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 These are the rules I follow...For the first 6 months dont give her any large handouts, keep track of how much cash you have given / spent directly on presents... DO NOT give in total per month more than half what she would earn in 1 month... Use a base salary rate of 10'000 baht for students/normal girlys, etc unless u know they earn more than that... So call it 5'000 spread through out the month, continue like this for 6 months and if shes still with you without being a moody cvnt then you maybe have a good un who actually likes u If she gradually becomes a biatch, starts demanding money for sick buffalos, mothers cancer, says she needs to get another job because she doesnt have enough money and therefore cannot see you anymore as she will be to busy working. Half the 5'000 and see how long she hangs around. @ least you have had a 150 baht a day cheap whore for said amount of time You talk so sweet, I bet you charm all the ladies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geo Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 She says she loves me and she want to marry me. How can i know if she really loves me ? quote] Can't you just ask her for the truth? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john b good Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 She says she loves me and she want to marry me. How can i know if she really loves me ? quote] Can't you just ask her for the truth? That would be the last thing to do (i.e. "ask her") if you are wanting an honest answer. She will tell you exactly what she thinks you want to hear (and it is very unlikely to be the truth) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cwilliam Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 Hello all,I am a 48 yr german and have currently a thai gf of 26. I meet her a few months ago on msn and visited her some times in bkk. She says she loves me and she want to marry me. How can i know if she really loves me ? Anybody has experience with this ? Thanks, Bob Cut off the money,if she stays you know she loves you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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