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A few U.S. states allow marriage at 15 with parental consent; many allow it at 16 (again, with parental consent). One state, New Hampshire, allows girls to marry as young as 13(!) - with both parental and court consent. ('Not sure what the circumstances would have to be - my guess is it actually doesn't happen often at all.) I checked a few other European countries - somewhat the same. And don't even start on sharia-approved marriages... So maybe westerners shouldn't be too quick to brand Thailand "backwards" over this.

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A few U.S. states allow marriage at 15 with parental consent; many allow it at 16 (again, with parental consent). One state, New Hampshire, allows girls to marry as young as 13(!) - with both parental and court consent. ('Not sure what the circumstances would have to be - my guess is it actually doesn't happen often at all.) I checked a few other European countries - somewhat the same. And don't even start on sharia-approved marriages... So maybe westerners shouldn't be too quick to brand Thailand "backwards" over this.

It's 16 in the UK.

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I didn't see any posts going on about how correct First World values are, when Rupert Murdoch got married again at 84 years of age ( I think) to Jerry Hall the new wife( ex missus of Mick Jagger) was in her 50's.

BAYBOY.

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If this was the biggest, most serious problem in this world... it's not ideal of course, but girls could do much worse in this country and they do all the time. Maybe the alternatives weren't to shiny either? Forget your western morals. They don't fit here. This is Thailand, and he probably has money to take care of her. Don't judge the husband based on his age, judge him based on how he treats his wife.

A "real" man would be protecting his granddaughter from predators who do this type of thing. "Real" parents would be teaching their juvenile daughters about this danger also.

Maybe legally its correct but morally, its far from correct.

Morality is not as one-dimensional as you seem to think. Nor is being a man or woman. Absolute thinking is inherently wrong (as many here have at least indirectly pointed out), regardless of topic. I have met at least a few persons on both sides of this particular age-divide that would pull this off in a more or less, dignified fashion. This is a time-tested and well-rounded survival strategy that has played no small part in cultural stability and for that matter, species propagation. These are anthropological facts. Now for a sociological fact: The biggest risk factor contributing to 'loss of face?' Passing judgment (or making decisions) on matters where it is not even remotely possible to understand all the factors in play. So my best unsolicited advice would be to not even try.

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I've actually seen worse. Not that long ago, I witnessed a German 92 year old living with an 18 year old here in Udon. If that wasn't bad enough, they had already been together for 2 years. I heard he died just shortly after, but I'm still baffled and speechless about it, like <deleted> ?

(Yeah, I'm not joking)

Another couple I met in the very same village is a 86 year old (also German) being married to a 24 year old. While it's less controversial legally, biologically and neurologically, I can't help using the exact same words again, <deleted> ?

It's just not right...

Why is it not right?

It may be against your moral principles, and against what you have been taught in the west, but that doesn't say it isn't right here.

Marriage isn't only about sex........................wink.png

Regardless of whether if it's allowed here or not, if you are from the west Thai laws don't apply to you.

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I've actually seen worse. Not that long ago, I witnessed a German 92 year old living with an 18 year old here in Udon. If that wasn't bad enough, they had already been together for 2 years. I heard he died just shortly after, but I'm still baffled and speechless about it, like <deleted> ?

(Yeah, I'm not joking)

Another couple I met in the very same village is a 86 year old (also German) being married to a 24 year old. While it's less controversial legally, biologically and neurologically, I can't help using the exact same words again, <deleted> ?

It's just not right...

Why is it not right?

It may be against your moral principles, and against what you have been taught in the west, but that doesn't say it isn't right here.

Marriage isn't only about sex........................wink.png

Regardless of whether if it's allowed here or not, if you are from the west Thai laws don't apply to you.

I would strongly disagree with that statement. If you are living here, Thai laws affect you everyday.

I knew a few years ago of an Englishman on Samui who married a 15 yo (parental consent granted). He unfortunately died a couple of years ago, but during the marriage their were no legal problems for him because he was British. He lived here and followed Thai law.

Mentioned the Englishman in case that was where you were coming from.....................wink.png

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I've actually seen worse. Not that long ago, I witnessed a German 92 year old living with an 18 year old here in Udon. If that wasn't bad enough, they had already been together for 2 years. I heard he died just shortly after, but I'm still baffled and speechless about it, like <deleted> ?

(Yeah, I'm not joking)

Another couple I met in the very same village is a 86 year old (also German) being married to a 24 year old. While it's less controversial legally, biologically and neurologically, I can't help using the exact same words again, <deleted> ?

It's just not right...

Why is it not right?

It may be against your moral principles, and against what you have been taught in the west, but that doesn't say it isn't right here.

Marriage isn't only about sex........................wink.png

In the mind of the 70yo, I would imagine sex is a MASSIVE part of this marriage.

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There is nothing wrong with what's going on she is above 16 and 9 months and the law in Thailand allows it so what's the problem.

"she is above 16 and 9 months"------------ WHERE DID THAT SUDDENLY COME FROM????????? clap2.gifcheesy.gif

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If the girl and her family are happy with a cash injection, and the guy gets some happy years in his twilight then I can see why it might be an equitable arrangement, and marriage being legally prudent in case there were ever some hanky panky..

  • My concerns would be more about if the family abuse the position by using the girl for something she may not want.
  • Who is going to teach her how to manage a chunk of money that she's not used to handling (they do it for lottery winners afterall).

I know plenty of people here who know how to save a few baht by careful shopping for food/essentials. I know far fewer that can think ahead and plan their financial life after a 'lucky' break (if the parties in question on the family side are expecting her to disburse any gains).

You know how it is when you suddenly get friends when you suddenly get cash. What happens after it has all been wasted?

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careful all those using the morality argument as you are invalidating the many expats big age difference relationships.

its highly unlikely the 17 y/o girl if from a middle class or above family would be marrying or in a relationship with that age difference.

really a business arrangement they call a marriage.

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There is nothing wrong with what's going on she is above 16 and 9 months and the law in Thailand allows it so what's the problem.

"she is above 16 and 9 months"------------ WHERE DID THAT SUDDENLY COME FROM????????? clap2.gifcheesy.gif

He has gone decimal.

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I've actually seen worse. Not that long ago, I witnessed a German 92 year old living with an 18 year old here in Udon. If that wasn't bad enough, they had already been together for 2 years. I heard he died just shortly after, but I'm still baffled and speechless about it, like <deleted> ?

(Yeah, I'm not joking)

Another couple I met in the very same village is a 86 year old (also German) being married to a 24 year old. While it's less controversial legally, biologically and neurologically, I can't help using the exact same words again, <deleted> ?

It's just not right...

Why is it not right?

It may be against your moral principles, and against what you have been taught in the west, but that doesn't say it isn't right here.

Marriage isn't only about sex........................wink.png

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