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why are thais never ashamed?

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My wife has a brother whos wife left him so he became a monk but had to leave the village as he was screwing a married woman and drinking .He then went to a temple in udon thani where according to his own words they sold drugs.
When my wifes mother and brother died this year he gave up on the monk and came home , no money no work.
I asked him and 2 friends to put 45 concrete posts and barbed wire up in an allotment garden . Paid them and went the next day to look and they had all fallen over. The posts were 2 metres and i said the wire only had to be 1.2 m high thinking they would put .8 metere in the ground . NO they put about .2 metre in the ground and the wire half way down the pole. They would not rectify so i pulled all the posts up and reset them myself . Took me 2 weeks but a good job . I am 61 yrs old .
I had an old motorbike which i loved but had to go and was going to sell it for about 10,00 baht , easy lots of offers but my wife persuaded me to give it to her brother .She took him to the government office , got the name changed to his , paid the insurance and tax . For about 6 weeks he was so proud with his new bike , kept it clean and shiny . Then he came to my house on a bicycle and i foud out he put the bike in the garage for 12,000 baht so he could play cards over songran.
I am so angry over this as i could have sold it myself and had the money.

There are 2 houses on my land , my wifes old house and mine about 10 metres apart . He comes there every day mostly stealing food but sometyimes playing cards. Everytime i see him i want to hit him for what he has done but my wife is on his side and threatens me with the police if i hit him. When he comes i have to leave the house and go somehwere . Her mai pen rai . She says i gave him the bike so up to him what he does with it but now he borrows other peoples bikes to get around .
Basically am i wrong being upset he sold the bike i was selling, did a bad job on my fence and steals food everyday ?

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Firstly why are you with your wife she obviously does not respect you.

Secondly stop worrying about it, these things happen getting stressed wont help.

And lastly lesson learnt, don't pay thais upfront for building work and always supervise them.

Good luck and chill, its just the Thai way.

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he is family, what do you expect? your wife will always prefer him over you when it comes to conflict. this is not a thai thing, it happens in every culture - everywhere.

next time, when your wife is unwell, invite your bil to an excursion somewhere nice and...

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he is family, what do you expect? your wife will always prefer him over you when it comes to conflict. this is not a thai thing, it happens in every culture - everywhere.

next time, when your wife is unwell, invite your bil to an excursion somewhere nice and...

What a stupid thing to say, my ex never ever took her families side with stupid stuff like this. If a wife prefers a bad brother like that over her husband then its clear how she thinks about her husband.

Your acting like all Thais are the same... I am sure where ever you come from the guys over there are all carbon copiers of you acting the same and so on... must be..

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Firstly why are you with your wife she obviously does not respect you.

Secondly stop worrying about it, these things happen getting stressed wont help.

And lastly lesson learnt, don't pay thais upfront for building work and always supervise them.

Good luck and chill, its just the Thai way.

Yes you are pretty much right but not completely. My wife obviously loves her family more than me . I am not worried i am an ex soldier for a long time and am not stressed at all . A few tours of Ni cures you of that but i just do not want this guy in my house every day, all day. I never pay up front usually but as this was her brother i thought it would be ok .; All i ask ,y wife is this guy does not come to my house or eventually i will hit him as i hate the sight of him.

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Lesson learned , never pay in advance for any jobs here if you can avoid it. And if you give someone an expensive gift , forget about it, its not yours anymore.

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Yes but the point is how does this guy do what he does and come to my house everyday without shame or embarrassment ? He comes to my house on a borrowed bicycle and not the excellent bike i gave him . I changed the oil every 1000kms and the bike started easy and is faster than both my new bikes (all were honda 125cc ). Anyway if he keeps coming and i have a few beers i will end up hitting him or i will have to leave my home . I cannot look at him every day . Yesterday i saw him at 5am in my wifes old house . He stole her fish she caught with a net to give to his girlfriend but when i get angry its mai pen rai .

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Hence why i would never deal with family..farang or thai in a business sense.

The actual job was so small and easy . 3000 \baht a few beers and some white whisky . The hard bit for me was getting the wire off and lifting the posts back out . The ground was very soft black earth from the lake so easy to dig , but not for her brother . He knew they all fell down but still came to my house without a blush or

care . But this motorbike thing left a bad taste in my mouth as i could have had 10,000 baht myself but gave it to him on my wifes advice then he lost the money playing cards .;

Still looking for the same advice , should i not be upset with and stop him first comign to my house every day secondly stealing food ?

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"my wife is on his side and threatens me with the police if i hit him"

Dude cut your losses and run as fast as you can. Although its wrong to hit, her loyalty will never be with you

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he is family, what do you expect? your wife will always prefer him over you when it comes to conflict. this is not a thai thing, it happens in every culture - everywhere.

next time, when your wife is unwell, invite your bil to an excursion somewhere nice and...

What a stupid thing to say, my ex never ever took her families side with stupid stuff like this. If a wife prefers a bad brother like that over her husband then its clear how she thinks about her husband.

Your acting like all Thais are the same... I am sure where ever you come from the guys over there are all carbon copiers of you acting the same and so on... must be..

'what a stupid thing to say'?

you might not understand what i am saying but to judge it 'stupid' only really shows.... how stupid uneducated you are.

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Just tell him not to come to your house again

Sorry just read this , i have told him lots of times and threatened to chock him but he ignores me and still comes

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Thai apologists abound as usual.

Very normal behaviour from family of usually rural poor uneducated Thai people I'm afraid.

Word of advice tell your missus it's him or you,I trust you pay all the bills and take care of everything,knock her money down,keep her on the straight and narrow tighten up the purse strings and the rules a bit.

Your not alone by the way there are thousands of expats up country being royally shafted I'm afraid and it's usually the same old sob stories and family woes.

You go out of your way to try and help and they just take the rise.

Give them an inch mate and they take the mile.

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why are thais never ashamed ?? because they are never wrong

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